i recently became pregnant.how do i explain it to my daughter
2007-09-03 18:36:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You can get some great kids books on the subject for you to read to her. Here are some good ones.
1. "I'm a Big Sister" by Joanna Cole
2. "Welcome New Love" by Julie Vivas
3. "The Berenstein Bears New Baby" by Stan and Jan Berenstein. I remember reading these when I was little. The Berenstein Bears books were some of my favorites.
4. "Baby on The Way" and "What Baby Needs" by Dr. William Sears
5. "Arthur's New Baby Book" by Marc Brown
6. "I Used To Be The Baby" by Robin Ballard
You can also get her excited about the idea by trying to get her involved in the preparations. The more involved she is the less jealousy feelings she will have. I am sure she will still have some but that is only natural. Some ways to make her feel involved is by letting her do things like help you set up the babies new room by helping pick out the color or let her choose an outfit or toy for the new baby. I hope my answer helped. Good Luck and God Bless. Congratulations on the new baby!
2007-09-03 19:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by KatyCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are lots of childrens book that you can read to her, about having another baby. (which may help with the transition) but just tell her your having a baby and it is in you tummy. You shouldn't tell her right away, just incase something happens, it would be alot harder to explane that now there is no baby. Also when you start to show it will help her understand a little better. 9 months is a long time for a 3 year old.
2007-09-03 20:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by keko8338 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I sat my daughter down when we were ready for the news to be told to everyone, and we told my daughter that Mama had a baby in her stomach and that in October, she would be getting a new brother or sister. She has been wonderful throughout my pregnancy - massaging my back when it hurt, talking about baby names and helping to pick out stuff for the baby. There was a time when she walked around saying that she also had a baby in HER stomach!!
My advice to you would be to just deal with it like a normal situation. Don't explain too much or too little... you'll find your own middle path.
Good luck.
2007-09-03 18:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by aka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, you can explain to her that she will get a new brother or sister. You don't really have to go into details about how that will happen. I was in this situation myself about 14 years ago. At that time, I had a 3-year-old daughter. She was told early on that she would be getting a sister. However, she was one of those girls who aren't "little mommy" types. When the baby was born, she was very jealous of her little sister. She never did anything to physically harm her sister but mostly acted indifferent towards the baby when we weren't paying attention to her but would butt in when we were.
2007-09-03 18:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she wants a new baby brother or sister.... because she is getting one!
I don't think it is a big deal at this stage you can't sit a three year old down and tell it exactly what is going on.
As your tummy grows tell her to touch the baby and say hello. I bought my son a doll that he bathes and puts to bed, so he knows what Mummy wil be doing in a few months time!
2007-09-03 18:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and I have just recently done this. We simply told our son he was going to be a big brother because mommy had a baby in her tummy. His reaction to this was
"I love the baby in mommy's tummy, I want to eat it, I EAT BABIES"
So it's safe to say he has no idea what the hell we are talking about....He'll figure it out when the baby come home though, and I'm sure that after a little adjusting everything will be fine.
2007-09-05 07:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lew A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mominohio, be honest with the child. Also I don't have kids but i remember when my mother told me she was having another baby (I was 5) she involved me in the activities such as naming the baby, picking out baby clothes, and basic preparations for the babies homecoming. At first I was scared but because of my involvement I remember feeling very grown up and proud of having a baby sister.
2007-09-03 18:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by flutterby_cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend gave her daughter a baby doll and they practiced with it. You can get books for her that explain things in her language and have appropriate pictures. She'll understand more than you think. Just remember to keep her in the loop. Good luck!
2007-09-03 18:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by BrutalBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she is behaving well, being good , tell her that God is going to give her a gift for being a good girl, tell her about the baby, tell her God has put it in mommy's tummy for her, and she will get it if she stays good all the time, once the baby starts moving make her interact with the baby, tell her to talk to the baby, these 3 yr old have good imagination, they will pick from there.
2007-09-05 11:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest, let her know that you and daddy got together and made another baby that is growing in your belly just like she did. When you get further along she will love talking to the baby and kissing "the baby" and seeing the baby move.
2007-09-03 18:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋