A question for pro-life people?

Question

For all pro-life people on R&S - how many children are you fostering RIGHT NOW? How many are you in the process of adopting? How many have you adopted? How can you sit there in your self-righteousness and not help the POST-born?

If you're so adamant that an unwanted pregnancy be carried to term, what are you doing to ensure that the unwanted child has a good life? Or does it only matter when the child is in utero?

I'm not "pro-abortion", however I'm not about to dictate to someone else what they can and cannot do with their own body.

I notice that you dodged the question, QE?

So all the young kids who are over the age of "newborn" who need homes are undeserving of a loving family, Oregon Flower? What, when they hit the age of 1 they're suddenly "too old"?

"How about being safe and smart so that abortion is a total last resort" - that is my stance, as well. It just infuriates me that there are so many people condemning abortion, and yet those same people likely aren't adopting the unwanted children that they would like to FORCE to be carried to term. My sister-in-law worked for Child Services and let me tell you - some of the horror stories of what happens to children would turn your stomach. And yet somehow that abuse and neglect is "better" than terminating the pregnancy in the first place???

How many kids are you fostering Jennifer? How many are you adopting? If the unwanted pregnancies must be carried to term, what are you doing about helping the children AFTER they are born? Or do you just leave them to suffer with your conscience appeased?

JustAskin - I'm just asking. Does the fervent protection of life by pro-lifers end at birth, or do the majority of them take on the unwanted children that they would force to be born? There are some who do - and to them I give infinite kudos and respect, for not being hypocrites in their beliefs. For those who say "No abortions!" but who aren't providing homes for those unwanted children, I have no respect.

Answer 1

No actually I plan on being a foster parent, I always have. Those who don't want babies should use protection or not have sex at all. People say that the fetus cant feel anything. There are medical accounts PROVEN that a fetus reacts to a painful situations at ONLY 12 WEEKS. It is murder. What are YOU doing to help these unwanted children post birth? Just whining about people who want a child to have the chance to live?

***Actually, instead of whining and calling people "self-righteos" (much like you are sounding yourself) why don't you go out and do your part? That doesn't include coming on Yahoo answers condemning people for having an opinion, but buy some condoms and donate them to abortion clinics so these women will have them? Why don't you give speeches on the importance of birth control and about children who are in foster homes and orphanages? You want to rant and rave about how people shouldn't be against abortion, yet who is defending those who SURVIVED abortion and are forced to, not only live with disabilies, but also that their mother didn't want them? Do you care about those children? I don't believe someone should be criticized and harrassed because they have an opinion, and that is what you are doing.

By the way, I have been in foster homes and I was also in a children's home. I was not their because my mother didn't want me. I was there because of personal family issues that is none of your business or anyone elses. You should really open your eyes and realize that you cannot catagorize everything the way you see fit too, and think you are right. Not all those children in foster homes are unwanted. Abortion is not the answer to unwanted pregnancies, proper teaching and birth control is. Unless you have a medical condition and you have to end your pregnancy, irresponsibiliy is not a good enough reason.

And I ask the question again, what are YOU doing?

Answer 2

Not all abortions are about choice.
Certain situations require the procedure whether the mother wishes it or not.
I had an ectopic pregnancy with the fetus partially formed around an IUD, and I had to walk through protesters to enter the Clinic, this was in 1984.
Neither the federal NOR STATE governments should have anything to say on the subject. It's no ones business and if it's abused then the abuser can face God. Those who need it can't be forced to wait around for courts to decide things that need immediate attention.

Concerning the point of the question I've done the foster home thing a few times and the four children I've helped take care of were each heartbreaking. There are tens of thousands of children around the world all unwanted and unloved in a way that would benefit them. One third of the world struggles to keep from being obese and one third starves, yet 90% of the fat third claim salvation and knowledge of the love of God. They also work diligently to control the sex lives of women in the name of God.

The entire thing, all the people involved, from the neglected to the neglecting break my heart every single day.

Answer 3

we were foster parents for a while. Someone thought we were trying to scam the government out of money and they cut our funding to the business we were trying to start (it was for teen-agers mostly between 14 and 18). We were really disillusioned with the way we were treated by the government (it had gone into privatization a few years earlier, and I guess we were just dumb and naive. Never did it again.

I keep a dog, two cats, a hamster two schools of goldfish, a molly and a beta and a rabbit.

People are curious creatures. They trust you, then if you show one human attribute, they hate you forever. So unforgiving because they don't want to be libel.

Too bad our society works that way, because all of my kids friends come here and flop anyway when they need to flop, and vica versa. I like to think now, that a community is connected, and where help is needed to raise a child, even if it isn't yours, it is there. My heart is in the right place.

So I hope you won't judge me anymore. Even though I can only take 50% of the credit for this.

Answer 4

If you can't trust me with a choice how can you trust me with a child?

I personally would NEVER abort a life growing inside me!

But how can we tell others what to do? Some women get so scared when the get they will do anything to get rid of the child inside of them. If it was made illegal again woman would find away to abort the child.

This subject is very polarized. To the point of being scary. Plan Parent Hood encouraged me to get an abortion both times I was pregnant. I was over 18 both times and didn't have medical insurance to get the test done (this was before the at home test). I wish there was a better way to handle the whole issue.

Answer 5

You are obviously confused about the difference between children put up for adoption at birth and children in foster care. There isn't a darned thing I or any other pro-lifer needs to do to help the babies who are born to women who don't want them, because there are thousands of people lined up to adopt them. THOUSANDS!

Most adoptive parents don't want children out of babyhood or children in foster care, because they are harder to bond with by that point and have often acquired bad behavior or emotional issues. These children are the ones who WERE wanted and kept by their birth parents/family, but something happened along the way to change the situation. These are not the potentially aborted babies that we are supposedly talking about.
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The new born babies that could be here right now instead of being aborted, would be adopted in a flash, but instead, they're dead. That is such a pity, because it is so unnecessary, and it deprives this world of an individual who would likely be wanted and loved by so many infertile couples who are desperate for a child.

If you don't believe me, Google adoption agencies and you will find thousands of adds from wonderful couples trying to connect with pregnant women to adopt their babies.

Answer 6

Ouch!
I see your point, but I also know how hard it is for people to adopt here in America, which I think is SICK. I would take a child in a heartbeat, but we unfortunately don't have the money to back us up. While we are able to provide a loving home, we don't have the money for all the fees and such to get the paperwork done. And I have provided foster care.

Answer 7

There are plenty of unwanted children languishing in foster homes and group homes right now. Nobody wants to adopt them because they're too old, have special needs, have the "wrong" skin color, or have behavioral problems.

Answer 8

well, here is where I stand.

I do believe abortion is not a good choice.
I do believe the decision is one to be made between patient and doctor.
I do not believe it should be a federal law, I believe it should be states law whether ya or nay.
I know abortion is a bad decision and causes health problems in women. (Notice I said 'I know")

I have fostered a badly abused boy. He is grown, married and has a 4 year old girl. Turned out to be a great guy and getting better daily.

Answer 9

I think you asked some very good confrontational questions, especially the one about not helping the POST-born. I am more concerned about the pro-life pro-war people than the pro-life sit-on-their-butts people. Not everyone is called to be a foster parent or an adoptive parent. Some of the pro-life people have no more, or maybe even less, business being parents than some of the people seeking abortions.

Answer 10

I am a pro life avicate and unfortunately have not been able to foster or adopt yet do to my own health issues...However I have taken in so many unwanted kids from parents who could not take care of them and raised them as my own till their parents were back on theri feet. I what I can as i can and will continue to do so and the day I can foster or adopt a child trust me i will. All children are special and all are meant to be.

Answer 11

There are already too many people on this planet and the quality of life is deteriorating rapidly. I don't believe that an unborn is self aware and therefore, I don't think killing it is wrong. Birth control should be used. It's ironic that the church in Rome does not believe in birth control; just abstinance, and that is a major cause of untold suffering in this world.