My son died of aphyxiation by belt around neck ruled as suicial accident. Please explain/?

Question

Is my son in oblivion since he died or is his spirit with us.

Answer 1

My heart goes out to you. I cannot imagine a loss like this, and I truly wish you all the strength that you need through your life. I believe that his actual spirit has gone to heaven, so that he can return to live with our Heavenly Father. But his spirit- in the sense of his memory and that "feeling" you get when you think of good thoughts and things will always be with you. And rest assured that you will be together again some day. Families are forever, in this life and in the eternities. No one can break that bond you have with your son. If want to know more about how families are eternal, go to www.mormon.org - and go to chat with live missionary- they will be able to answer any questions you might have. you will see your son again. And again, i am so sorry that you have had this tragedy in your life, and i wish you all the best. :)

Answer 2

Maybe it's because he may have some feminine characteristics (being still early or ever pre puberty) but he's also getting old enough to start seeming less like a child. Just a theory. First, I really admire you for raising your son as a single father. Not easy, but really great. And yes, it's sick to be having those urges towards your son. But human's sometimes wander into "sick" things, so the bigger issue is how to deal with it. I think, (and I'm assuming a lot here, just going with my gut here) but I think it sounds like you're lonely, and have no outlet for your sexual urges, or your bisexual curiosity. So it's just backfiring and focusing on your son, since he's the only person you're that close to. Just like a guy can start fantasizing about his long-term female best friend, but more because he's started looking for (or longing for) a relationship in his life, and she's the closest he's currently got. So he's curious (subconsciously) to see if it can't become something more. And not because he's actually fallen in love with her, etc. It's not really about her at all. I think you need to start dating. Focus all those urges on more healthy targets for it. And see if that doesn't make the weird urges towards your son go away. If it doesn't seem to help, or how you feel towards your son gets worse, then bring it up to your therapist anyways. Make it clear you just want help and would never ever do anything to your son. If he's a good therapist, then he should be able to offer some help. But it's better to be embarrassed and still get help, rather then let it get out of control. But I'm just saying do that if dating and making friends doesn't help. That may be all you need, and if so, you can keep it locked away as just one of those weird things in life that's over. Get yourself a social life, some time for things to change and I think you'll be ok. If not, remember you have a therapist who's your best second option. And good luck, I'm rooting for you to pull through. =)

Answer 3

Hi

I am so sorry for your loss. I believe your son's spirit is still with you and always will be.

Here is some websites concerning asphyxiation:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asphyxia
http://www.courttv.com/onair/shows/forensicfiles/techniques/asphyxiation.html

I will pray for your son and your family. God bless.

Answer 4

Please read the Bible. Eccl. 9:6 "Their love and their hate and their jealousy have already perished, and they have no portion anymore to time indefinite in anything that has to be done under the sun."

Eccl. 9:5: "The living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all."

Isa. 26:14: "They are dead; they will not live. Impotent in death, they will not rise up."

Ps.146:4: "His spirit goes out, he goes back to his ground; in that day his thoughts all his thinking, plans, do perish."

Also read: Revelation 21:3, 4 (or Isaiah 25:8). Notice this wonderful promise made by God.

Hope this has been beneficial.

Answer 5

it's not what we believe, but what you choose to believe.

if you get some moron who suggests "oblivion" will you accept that?
what if this moron quotes umpteen bible verses that said moron interprets as sustaining his/her opinion?

who cares what the ruling was as to cause; to the coroner's office it's just a manner of classification - not a judgment.

If you are comforted by the belief that his spirit is with you, then this will be what you need to hold close to your heart.

Your son would not have wanted you or anyone to anguish.

Answer 6

It depends.How old was your son? Did he know Jesus? If your son was too young to understand, then I don't believe he is held accountable. If your son was old enough to make decisions, knew about Jesus but had never accepted Him, then who knows. If your son knew and accepted Jesus, then he's with Jesus.

Answer 7

No one can make that judgment but God.. But with infinite wisdom and Wrath wouldn't he have infinite mercy too?
It was ruled suicidal accident because they honestly have no idea how to categorize it it was his own decision but at the same time it was accidental that he died so it falls in both categories...And I am so sorry for your loss

Answer 8

In Judaism for example, if someone dies by suicide, then they are given proper respect and burial,,,as they believe they were in the normal state of mind when the event occured and whose to know the last thoughts....possibly forgiveness.
I am very sorry for your loss and hope I've helped you some.

Answer 9

First off, allow me to send my condolences to you and your family. I recently lost an close uncle from suicide. if I remember correctly, aphyxiation is pretty much straggulation. It's a slow and painful death. As for Oblivion, it depends on your belief system. I know there are a few Christians, Catholic I believe that consider it a sin and damnation. On the other hand, there is also Islamic which they believe that suicide in the name of Allah is righteous. I personally believe that there is a place for everyone until they are reborn again. I had a car accident a few weeks ago, it was really bad. But the uncle that I told you about, I felt his presence there, with me, and felt arms around me holding me, keeping me calm while the car spun out of control and landed 3 ft in front of a wall of trees and train tracks on the other side, which the train had passed about a minute after my friend and i walked away unharmed. There is a place we go no matter what you believe in. Either it be in the ground, to Heaven, Hell, the Summerlands..just know he is watching over you. And yes, he is with you. In your memories and in your heart. Nothing, not even death can take that away.

Answer 10

When we were little, we'd stand on the front lawn, look up at the clouds and spin around. We did it for the "rush" of getting dizzy and not having full control of ourselves. This is a normal (and mostly safe) childhood experience. Some young adults take this type of game farther and play at temporarily asphyxiating themselves for the "rush" of loss of consciousness. Death IS
NOT the goal. It is not an attempt at suicide, but when a person dies by their own hand like this, it is ruled an accidental suicide.

From what you've written, know that your son did not try to kill himself. Young people play at some dangerous games - some include drinking and driving or drug experimentation. Your son did not "commit suicide". He had an accident, no different from a son who falls asleep at the wheel driving home from a party.

Recently I sat with a man who's 22 year old son had been shot to death by his girlfriend (the son's girlfriend). He explained to me how having a child die at such a young age is not something you can be prepared to handle - I feel for you. It is hard. Time won't cause you to forget, but it will cause it to hurt a little less. I will be praying for you and your family.

God bless you.