I want my monroe pierced. So, so much. And my dad was going to take me a few weeks ago, and that morning my mom decided I wasn't allowed. Ugh. But how do I convice them to let me get it for real? I want to be different, and I really like how it looks, but that's not enough for them. My mom says that if I get straight A's the first marking period of school, I can get it, but I don't know if I can, or if I can wait that long.
2007-09-03 17:45:08 · 5 answers · asked by me. 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
Give them ten good reasons why you think you should have a piercing. That should soften them up. Oh, by the way, just cause everyone else is doing it is not a good reason. Just because you want to assert your individuality (when everyone is doing it) is definitely not a good reason.
2007-09-03 17:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with your parents. Identify the reason(s) why they're disallowing the monroe piercing. Once you have identified the reason(s), you may begin to address the issue.
In my opinion, there could only be 3 main reasons: you, them or the piercing. Or it could be a mixture of 2 or all of it.
If the reason is you, it could be that you are too young for the piercing. Perhaps, they feel that you are still their little girl or little boy. As such, it is important to let them know that you are mature enough to handle the piercing. Maturity is not telling people that you've grown up. Maturity is often measured by deeds and character.
If the reason is them, you would need patience. Parents are always protective. It is possible that in your parents' point of view, they're shielding you from a bad or risky decision. The way to overcome this is to open an effective two-way channel with them. You will need to be tactful and diplomatic in order to change their perception.
If the reason is the piercing, it could simply be misinformation. Gather all relevant information about the piercing. Share these information to allay any fears that they may have. For instance, what is the piercing about, probable risks and safety measures. If you have a friend who has a monroe piercing, bring him/her to meet your parents.
Or the actual reason may be something different altogether.
The fact that your mom stipulated a condition (straight As) in exchange of her approval for the piercing imply that she is against you having it. You may have an uphill task convincing her otherwise. I'm not sure whether she will uphold her part of the bargain if you managed to fulfill the requirement.
Nonetheless, it is crucial for you to fully understand what you really want. Do not fall into the trap of wanting something for the sake of defying your parents, for fad or even peer pressure.
I think, it is important to resolve this matter amicably. You may face similar situations in the future. A successful resolution will give you an idea on how to solve other disputes with your parents in years to come.
In my experience, gaining trust from my parents and being honest helps a lot. Sometimes, you have to be flexible and make concessions. My parents reciprocate by according me with more liberty than my 'rebellious' sibling.
My best wishes.
2007-09-03 19:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by Zul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u don't think that u can get all a's the first marking period sit down an just ask that if u can pull all b's with maybe one c if they would let u get it IF you paid half of it instead of them paying for all of it. or that if u get only b's an maybe one c that u will pay for all of it IF they will just sign for it for u. (they may be more willing to work with u if u are willing to work with them an show that them u really want this an are willing to do almost anything to get it) my parents didn't want me 2 get my tounge done at 15 because they said "well what if u want a professinal job an can't have it while ur workign there?" an I just said "dude I'm 15 I have atleast 3 more years to think about that an besides that whos to say that in 3 years I will even still have it because u never know I may get tired of it or something" needless to say they gave in an I am now 22 an still have my tounge peirced an actually thinking of adding a second one soon. so hopefully this helps
2007-09-03 17:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by mariah_carey_fan4lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using the old Navaho Indian trick- of getting on your knees and screaming & begging them to let you do it. Maybe they'll be in SUCH a good mood after they get done laughing hysterically at you- they'll give in & let you get your piercing. It's worth a try- good luck! :)
2007-09-03 17:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're old enough you can get it yourself..?
Also that deal she made works out, you try and you can get it.
I'd take her up on it and not spend my own money.
2007-09-03 17:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by wynnndhamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋