My good heart have been ripped out by men! All the harmony, good will, kindness HAVE to be directed to another aim! No more men from now on, and I'll just focuss on my career, friends, and all the good causes I'm living for..
2007-09-03 17:33:47 · 36 answers · asked by Zoupana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe it's the type of men you choose...
and it's "wasting" not "waisting"
2007-09-03 17:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by tanzer360 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a 48 yr old woman and it,s bad to say but i feel the same way, it seems that SOME men really just need a woman at home so they can get feed,and get their clothes washed and get some azz, and if they have a problem with you you,re goiing to hear about it, and you better do something about it, but if you have a problem, oh well. you,ll be alright. So that,s what I.m going to do myself It,s time for me to enjoy the rest of my life, in peace my slave days are just about over. I have an ulcur and he knows this, but does he stop with the bullspit no, so I have to care about myself and save my own life and Praise God that,s what I,m going to do. Do what you have to do, and their is some good men out there I,ve just had my fill of any relationship, you,re always going to be second to him being first, not for me anymore. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-09-03 18:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by msann601 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you on that one, sister! I went out twice with a guy about a month ago. He was up front about how he likes to go away on weekend trips. I work on night every weekend at my second job. It's not that I can't go away. I just can't do it spontaneously (I have to request it off 30 days ahead of time). He decided that we are "ON HOLD" because he needs to think about what he wants and how I would feel if, four months down the road, someone crosses his path who CAN go away spontaneously. SERIOUSLY? This is a new one for the books.
And then the one guy I have as strictly a booty call, of course, only calls me or comes to see me when HE wants to fool around. Never mind that I try to take the lead once in awhile. Nope. It's all about him.
2007-09-03 17:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by pdiluigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your intentions sound good. But I have to tell you - we 'ain't' built that way. You are going to find yourself attracted to someone else and all those feelings will vanish. Please don't allow what you went through with someone else temper the next man's attempt to establish friendship. I'm not saying don't 'go for yours' you're supposed to do that. Your career, friends are all good, but weigh them in their own cells and keep love open, warm and available in your heart.
To be honest - men don't rip out our hearts - we rip it out and place it in their hands for the ultimate squeeze. We just have to learn to limit how much of 'us' we are going to give out so that we can have some of us left for career, friends, church, community, volunteering, writing, movies, dinners, etc.
2007-09-03 17:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly admirable to focus on career, friends, etc. However, if I may offer some advice---instead of giving up on men entirely, focus on learning how to make better choices when it comes to men. The key is choosing well.
2007-09-03 17:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea. You need to focus on YOU.
As a good friend once told me many years ago, "Don't change who you are. God made you who you are, and you will find someone who appreciates you for you. Stay the kind hearted person you are. Don't change for anyone."
He was right. It didn't happen overnight, but because I stayed true to myself, and concentrated on being happy with who I am, and being happy in my circumstances, I eventually met a man who loves me for who I am and appreciates me more than I ever thought someone would.
2007-09-03 18:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being single is the best.
u dont have to explain where u been, what your doing or where u going. u have more money to spend on urself, and more time to do the things u want to do. u cant flirt with who ever u want not worring bout ur man at home nor do u have to worry bout what ur man is doing when he goes out. do ya self a favour n get a casual sex partner; all the perks of a relationship with out the strings!
2007-09-03 17:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wonderful sentiment. Thank you for sharing. We all know there are bad choices to be made, and it's gratifying to know that you trust us all to shoulder the burden for the bad choices you made. Really. It's an inspiration to know that you esteem us so highly as to regard us all as equals to each other.
I do like heart, though. Boiled and thinly sliced, it makes a great sandwich. Second only to tongue.
2007-09-03 18:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up on men because when the right time comes and there is a right guy for you you may lose out of it because you gave up n men but you should still focus on your career and friends and other this
2007-09-03 17:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by dd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered yourself. Dont give up cause you got hurt. We all need to be hurt to learn and understand when true love does come to our door. I was one that gave up and just when i totallu gave up and amazing person came into my life aqnd will be my wife. From teh minute we spoke we knew we were for eachother. Dont give up, your love and happiness is out there. AND Please dont ever shut your heart down. Better to love and lose then to never love at all. Take all your hurt as a learning experiance. Good luck
2007-09-03 17:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to learn your heart has been ripped open. no one deserves to be hurt.
all men are not monsters.
i hope at some point you will find a man to respect and love you with inspiration.
2007-09-03 17:45:41 · answer #11 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋