Help with parents!?

Question

Alright.
Issue Issue Issue.
My mom is being super- over protective.
I mean to the point where she has to know where im going, why its taking so long, "you weren't suppose to stop there", you cant do that, let me talk to the parents, cant go etc.

Just makes me infuriated! if thats even a word.
Sometimes i feel like punching a hole in the wall, but i hold all my anger back. And dont ever show it.

She took my phone tonight for "going to walgreens, to get rubbing alcohol which i needed for my face"
she was like you were suppose to go home!

Answer 1

you talk to your mom about everything.
i feel her love.
she really loves you and worry about you.
you just talk her how you feel. shes gonna realize she did too much. talk to her nicely. dont forget. nicely!!!

Answer 2

Parents can be like that sometimes.... making mountains out of molehills... worrying over the littlest thing. I think it's in their nature to worry about the safety of their children, no matter what age that child is.
It's more difficult too when you are a teenager and wanting to assert your independence even more, yet are still under your parent's roof therefore have to obey their rules, which most times seem silly to you.
But you have to realise that your mom (or dad) really has your best interest in mind. They've lived a lot longer, have experienced more and are just looking out for you, not wanting you to get yourself in a bad situation.
Some parents worry so much that they become extremely over-protective, not giving you the room you need to be yourself and grow and experience things for yourself.
Even so, you are still under their roof, therefore, you still have to obey their rules and respect their authority. Why not try talking to your mom about how you feel? It may not get you far, but at least she'll know how it's bothering you. You never know, she may lighten up on some of the rules. Then again, she may not, but at least in talking to her about it, you are showing her the respect she deserves as your mother, and you are also taking steps towards being a responsible and mature adult.

Answer 3

Look at your past, have you done anything to make her 'mistrust' you? It isn't always about being over protective, it is about trusting. If you are able to go out and be somewhere with friends, give her all the details, place, time, who's going to be threre, what the plans are. If things change while you are out, be kind enough to call her and let her know that instead of going to "Tom's" were going to "Mary's". It might seem like a pain to do but I found that it worked for me. The more I kept my parents informed about my where abouts and what I was doing, the more freedom I got in return.

Answer 4

You're right, mom does sound a tad over protective but it's because she loves you. There are so many crazy things going on in the world that you just can't be too careful. I promise you'll eventually understand why she is this way. In the mean time, try to relax and obey her wishes. This will definitely be a challenge but thinking about all the young people who have been stuck in foster homes all of their lives, wishing they had an over protective mom to deal with will help. Hang in there, "This too shall pass." you'll appreciate her for it in the end.

Answer 5

It may be a challenge, but try to develop a plan whereby you can follow your mom's directions while also getting your needs met. This kind of creative planning will stand you in good stead when you get a job, and also in school. It's always a challenge to balance what you "have" to do with what you "want" to do, no matter what your position in life.