I look like a stupid, worthless woman to jerks because I sound desperate, etc. I always get my heart broken by them and they get turned off... I try so hard to pleasure them and make them happy even though I know they dont like me. I text them like crazy trying to get their attention and they think im psycho. Why am I attracted to them?
When nice men try to date me, i dont go. When theyre nice i get annoyed. When they listen to me , i get annoyed. I never text back and I always flake.
What aren't I attracted to them?
What can I do? Since I like the men that doesn tlike me, does it mean that I'll never find Mr Right?
2007-09-03 16:57:07 · 8 answers · asked by confusedz1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your problem seems to be self-esteem, you want to impress persons that doesn't care about you, and you tend to miss those great chances life gives you. This doesn't mean that you can't find your "Mr Right". Give a chance to one of those nice men that try to date with you, at the beginning it will be hard given your situation, but eventually you'll find that you only need to be in harmony with yourself, so you can find true love. Take care, and wish you luck.
2007-09-03 17:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by David T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you can find "Mr. Right". You like everyone want what they can not have, just with you it seems to be on the extreme side. I was in love with this Cambodian girl back in high school that was the same way. She always went after the guy she knew she could not have. I mean, married guys, guys that were dating someone else, and guys that were jerks that just used her for sex. It broke my heart to see her being like that. Not because she would not date me, but because she always picked the ones that were jackasses. You need to understand that guys that are nice are going to be good to you and love you. They will treat you very well, but you seem to like the ones you know do not want you. You go after the ones that do not and try to change them and make them fall for you. That never works, and I mean never! This is not good for your self esteem and your mental health. This is driving you crazy. I think part of your problem may be that you have never really been in true love and know and see how wonderful and great it really is. That excepting someone for who they are and still loving them is a wonderful thing. To have someone who really does love you and wants to be with you and you them, it is one of the most wonderful feelings and experiences in the whole world! I do not know how you fix this problem, but I hope you can, and are able to do it as soon as possible. I myself am a nice and good guy, so I know you would not like me. That is sad because there are so many of us out here that really do want someone to love, that will love us back. Someone we can grow old with and have a family with. Someone we can take care of and show her how much we love her and make her feel like the only woman in our world. I am truly very sorry that life has turned you this way. You can change that, you can turn yourself around and become a better person and pick better men. You just will have to do it once you see that you have had enough of being treated like crap by worthless men. I hope and pray you find your prince charming, and get out of the destructive ways that you are now in. Best of luck to you sweet heart. Please try to keep smiling and find some happiness in life. =)
2007-09-04 00:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's immaturity..always wanting what we can't have... you're doing to the nice guys exactly what those jerks are doing to you...did that occur to you?
usually girls who are like this didn't have a father figure growing up, so there's a serious lack of self-esteem. you need to do some research and figure this out...it might help.
good luck
2007-09-04 00:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you really don't want a loving relationship.
but you are like most girls/women. no one seems to like the nice guys. i am one of those nice guys.
so if i really want a special lady, I try hard to treat her bad.
and I do get a good response. so i have to act like someone i am not to get the girl. then when i show my real self and treat her well, she loses interest. real amazing
2007-09-04 00:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerks are cool, for now.
In the future you might go for the ones that matter. If you don't, well spinsterdom isn't all that bad, you know.
2007-09-04 00:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is good experience for u
in the future your gonna knoo
wat types of things "jerks" do
and ull just stopp dating them
=]]]] AND u will find Mr.Rightttt
theres sum11 out there for everybodyy
2007-09-04 00:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i THINK u go for the jerk ones because u like to jerk them out...or...
maybe u just need to change ur avatar
I think u like to be humialated like a whore. but don't go for it...
Mr. Right might be waiting for u outside Av-toor
2007-09-04 00:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the eff?? only you can answer that question
2007-09-04 00:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by lukas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋