He comes back within 30 minutes no makeup or perfume i dont think he is cheating its just that we got into an argument a while ago because he had his phone on silent and he thought i was nagging for telling him about that. well we spend all our time together so i dont think he is cheating but i just didnt like how he had his phone on hush...soooo??? *sigh*
2007-09-03 16:56:30 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is great practice to walk away from silly arguments.
He may be walking to regain peace of mind and control of his emotions.
2007-09-03 17:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dionannan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never take anything for face value. Maybe there is a reason its on silent maybe he left the house to call that someone to alert them about the phone having to be on now and telling them don't call. Just a possibility. But instead of argueing smile and go on do investigating quietly even IF you find something don't blow up, make copies write things down, find out more first before confronting otherwise they can hide there tracks, delete proof. On the other hand it maybe you and nothing is wrong and in that case you have avoided the arguments, and can go on feeling secure and you haven't made him feel like you are too insecure for him.
2007-09-03 17:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Thing 1& 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's respecting you. Most girls think the first thing a guy does when he walks out is to go and find some random chick to screw. But the truth is some guys leave to cool things off.
I was at a hospital with an old lady one time and when I asked her: how do you stay married for 40 years. Her response was.
Walk away. Learn to walk away when you're arguing.
i'm not saying that cheating is not possible, but if you trust him and you know him better than anyone else, then know he's just walking away to cool things off.
2007-09-03 17:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.. it means that you are nagging him so much he has to leave to cool off so he doesn't do anything he would regret.
If you would simply state your point then give him time to ponder it without yelling, nagging, following him around, demanding an instant answer you may find he leaves less and listens more to what you have to say.
Men are different than us women. Women expect instant answers and instant solutions to problems... men on the other hand need time to think of what is going on and find a solution. If you aren't able to give him that time to think then it is wise of him to take it anyway.
So don't get all worked up that he leaves when you argue... thank him for thinking enough of you to leave before things escalate or he gets to angry he might do something he regrets.
And remember.... if you are upset... state your point to him and then give him time to think. When he has a solution he'll let you know.... don't nag him about it.
2007-09-03 17:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't they all leave when we get in arguments? Something about needing to cool off. I want to get it over with, discuss the issue, clear the air. My bf wants to cool off so he doesn't say the wrong things. ( I also think they secretly hope somehow we'll forget what we were arguing about). I just explained to my bf that I lfeel like he doesn't care when he walks out. It helped. He doesn't do that anymore. We discuss it and it's all good. Take care, hon.
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2007-09-03 17:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by GeeQT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geeze if no make p or perfuem then he is probably just getting quiet time. nobody likes a clingy jelous girlfirend so maybe you should cut him someslack or tell him it bothers him but dont often bring it up only when he does it and you need to really get a hold of him. maybe he has a reason to keep it on silent do you call to much because that could be a reason for his fone on silent. 30 minutes isnt really long ennough to cheat on you anyway. it would take much longer to hook up with another woman so i would be worried
2007-09-03 17:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people needs time to let things settle in. A lot of times people walk away so they will not regret saying something they did not mean. I have done this quite often. As for the silent treatment...maybe he just needs time to think about it and does not want any distractions. Always look at the positive. He came home right? Plus, when women constantly nagg men, we get annoyed. If he is with you then you should not worry about it.
2007-09-03 17:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by blackberry028 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if its not too long then its ok in my opinion. i would only leave for 5-10mins so 30 mins seems a lil long though. also i would just walk around the neighborhood not drive anywhere so the likelihood of me going to some other girl's house is unlikely
i did the same with my ex i just need time to cool down which she rarely understood. but my reasoning is that if two people are extremely angry with each other then its nearly impossible to solve an argument because you're just going at each other throats. at least one person needs a calm rational head
2007-09-03 17:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cnote 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is his way of dealing with it. sometimes its best to "leave" the heated argument, and since you guys are living together, he cannot "escape" into another room or you'll follow him.
maybe next time you argue - you leave the house and come back... and see what happens.
the phone thing might have been a conincidence, so i wouldnt worry.
ask him about it, if it will make you feel better, why his phone was on silent.
as for the arguments - try to withdraw from it yourself, so he wont feel the need for leaving the house.
2007-09-03 17:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a cooling off period. Sounds to me like you trust him and he's never given you reason not to... maybe if he stuck around he feels like the argument would go further and make things worse. I know a lot of people who feel they need this "time out". I doubt it's anything personal and I honestly would count myself lucky to know I have a partner that is mature enough to know what works for him during such a time.
Good luck! :)
2007-09-03 17:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal for a guy to put his phone on silent when he is aggravated theres a couple of reason why he could have.
1. He's mad and he doesnt want to say anything that would hurt the relationship.
or
2.He doesnt feel like talking
He prob has a place that he goes when hes mad like a resturant or something so dont worry about it to much.
2007-09-03 17:02:50 · answer #11 · answered by kira20203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋