I never seem to find the right guy. They always abuse me, hurt me or leave me. What should I do?
2007-09-03 16:29:21 · 12 answers · asked by gcfansara26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get off the internet and start looking!
2007-09-03 16:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am single too, and still searching for my "knight in shining armour" who I think left in the last century!
One thing I learned about myself is that once I like and respect myself more, I will attract more quality men. I have a tendency to become attracted to "the bad boy", rather than the "nerdy guy" with the smarts, education, morals and manners. The "bad boys" are exciting, but somehow they just don't seem to want to commit themselves to a woman.
I like you, often allow a man to hurt me and abuse me...because I either don't want to see it coming, or I think I can't do better. That's where the self worth comes in. We should never settle.
Try telling yourself that you are pretty, and smart and have a lot to offer...for the right guy that is deserving of you. There's someone out there for you. Just be more picky, and take your time getting to know someone before you get too attached.
I recently met a great guy that I dated for 3 weeks. But when he was honest enough to admit to me that he was an alcoholic, I had to stop seeing him. For me, it felt good to say to him, "you're really a great guy, and I like you a lot. When you decide to at least cut back on your drinking, call me, and I'd love to go out with you again." I couldn't have done that even a year ago. But you have to start somewhere. And you will respect yourself if you can learn to see the signs.
Good luck and keep your chin up!
2007-09-03 23:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you will never have a decent boyfriend. Sorry. Though it's all your fault. You simply pick the wrong guys. And by wrong guy I'm saying whatever kind of guy you like. To find out what you like just make a short list of what all your ex bf's were like.
If you do wish to find a right guy, you must give up on having a BF of the kind you like right now. It's hard, and most women can't do it. If you can though, you can find a good guy. Chances are though your locked on the wrong guy, but there is always hope.
2007-09-03 23:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You attract what you are. Men can tell if a woman is vulnerable or gullible. You need to get a back bone and put your foot down. You also need to learn from your mistake. Some of this is mainly your fault. If you keep meeting different guys and they all treat you bad, then you need to change something about yourself. There is no reason for abuse under any circumstances.
2007-09-03 23:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like maybe you attract those type of guys, happens to me also. For some reason I think abusive/jerks are attracted to girls that seem vulnerable. They prey off girls like that to feed their own egos and have control. Do you go for bad boys? That is my problem, they are nothing but heartache and grief. Try to learn to love to be by yourself and stop thinking about finding a guy, and soon enough, the right one who will treat you right will pop into your life.
2007-09-03 23:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sad Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you looking at when you fall for someone? If your basing it on looks or how cool he is theres your problem right there. Before you decide on a boyfriend find out what his values are and if hes caring and considerate and how he acts when he is angry. Dont commit to going steady with any guy until you know him well.
2007-09-03 23:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Right now you might feel like you are not going to find a nice
guy who will truthly love you. be patient, we all have someone
for us. It's just that you're probably not looking in the right
places for the right people. I'm sure you'll find someone.
2007-09-03 23:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sweet Me♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't date men who are abusive, your much more worthy than that.
been there, done that, NO man is worth any type of abuse whatsoever
and YES, you WILL meet a nice guy who's handsome, funny, NICE, that your attracted too. he won't be perfect, coz no one is,but allow yourself to give yourself and a good looking man who's also respectful and nice a chance for a wonderful relationship
2007-09-03 23:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by deirdrefaith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking. Really really hard. There aren't many decent guys left. I know, I'm still looking for one myself. Good luck!
2007-09-03 23:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're ******* losers...jsut keep looking but give a different kid of guy a chance - maybe you've jsut been going for the badboy type?
2007-09-03 23:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by First of the Gang to Die 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is impossible in life take it positive and u will get the right partner or just email me up i will find a suitable for u.
bye dont loose heart.
gogivakil@yahoo.co.in
2007-09-03 23:33:32 · answer #11 · answered by gurvinder s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋