My boyfriend of 5 years has been looking at online porn & I never thought he did ANYTHING like that until someone I work with said he's obsessed with it. When I asked him he denied it and says he rarely masturbates. Recently I saw a show about how online porn addicts eventually engage in casual sex and cheat. My boyfriend is 27 and I always thought he just didn't have a sex drive. He works alot and I thought he never wanted to have sex with me b/c he was too tired. I always got turned down when I asked and we only had sex a couple times a month, which lasted very shortly. I am very open sexually and do everything he wants in bed..so it's not like I can't satisfy him. Plus I'm attractive. He looks at porn sites before work, after work and sometimes after going to bars several times a week. He's doing this before I come over his house. He's been looking at local sex ads of girls in nearby towns and I think he's cheating on me. Am I overreacting? Do all guys look at online porn
2007-09-03 16:25:05 · 14 answers · asked by duclosall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a big red flag I want you to take notice of that and pay more attention to what he is doing. Looking at porn is okay I honestly think, but when its as much as you describe then that sounds like a problem. Especially if he is making up excuses for not having sex with is is a bad sign. sorry to break it to you honey But I dont think you are his only one. If he loved you then you would be the only one he would want to do this with porn is one thing but looking at local ads is awful. I hope you ask for space from this man and give yourself time to think about what you really want and that way he can too.
2007-09-03 16:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 14:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting! I would be thoroughly offended and disgusted if my bf did that. Actually my bf does have a porn collection on his desk top and he downloads some every once in a while. when i found out i was very hurt, but ur case is a lot worse. if it were me, i would be thinking about how long this has been going on. i mean, he didnt just suddenly start in the 5 years you have been dating. itd make me rethink the about the future i could have w this porn addict who will only give it to me twice a month and i wouldnt want to live like that. I would dump his porn watching butt!!! and find someone who makes me feel good about myself and loves me the way i am! you deserve better!
It may be scarry, the prospect of dumping a guy uve been w for 5 LONG years, but would you want to keep living this way??? Always worrying about what hes done and if he'll do it again???
2007-09-03 16:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by janie rey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not. as guy trust me porn is attractive. All guys like to look at porn but most guys are not obsessed and controled by it like he is. if it is screwing up you and he it is an issue.
Do some research on porn and internet addiction. He has all the signs - and yes porn is fullfilling in strange ways that sex is not.
As a counselor for many years i have seen porn wreck families- It changes how a guy looks at people and yes if he is dating or looking for chicks on line heis cheating on you.
Go find a preofessional counselor and ask what you can do - but do not let this rest or you will regret it\
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Google internet porn dangers
2007-09-03 16:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by allamericanred2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are not overreacting at all. No man should prefer porn over sex with you. In fact, no man should be "too tired" to have sex, that often. The question is, why is he looking outside of your relationship to fill his needs? Even if obsessive porn watching is his thing, what are you getting out of this relationship? Don't cheat yourself. Find a man who deserves you!
2007-09-03 16:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Elle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where to u see your relationship going within the next year or 2? if u plan on going long term with him and he hasn't mentioned anything about it or doesn't seem interested maybe he's not the noe for u after all. And he goes on hook-up sites yes i'd be worried.. he probably want to have sex with those girls. My boyfriend goes on those sex sites like red tube and youporn but he doesn't go to any hookup sites.
2007-09-03 16:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by MedTq367 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may very well be a sex addict.
But at your guys age when you started dating its very rough for a man in these days not to feel he is missing something. As for women I don't know what women need to go through.
You should break up with him since he needs to get what ever it is out of his system, and grow up while at it. Staying around is only going to hurt you in the process, and it will be less painfull to move on now before more years are spent on a guy who needs to grow up.
2007-09-03 16:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would.........Run! This is not a healthy relationship! Good luck to you in finding someone that is interested in you and not obsessed with porn and local sex ads.
2007-09-03 16:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Maiden Fair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys look at porn like 99.999999999%. My ex was obsessed with it, which is the reason he's my ex... Someone else can deal with that crap. Get rid of him before he hurts you more. He's not worth it, he won't stop either.
2007-09-03 16:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by deleted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my boyfriend but now he dont even get on porn anymore well thats b/c they cant get on the computer anymore but im sorry that he is doing that i knwo how it feels to have someone doing that to u its not easy to deal with
2007-09-03 16:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Someoneslilgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋