Depressed, can you help me with this situation?

Question

I texted him, "Can we talk in person? There was miscommunication between our text/emails and its bothering me."

He wrote, " I got back from travelling, I am going to be working late all this week."

I wrote, "It will only be an hour max, don't you have breaks?"

He said, "Not today. You need to give me space. I am very busy, I don't have time for this."

I wrote, "Im sorry I didn't mean to bother you. I dont want you to make assumptions without knowing. I will give you space."

And I wrote again, "we got to have make up sex next time we see each other!"

What is he saying? Does he hate me? Why do I think theres still hope?? What should I do now to help mend this relationship? I am very depressed. Is this relationship DOOMED? Any advice will be appreciated. Thank You

i shouldnt have texted the "lets have make up sex" but i wanted him to laugh a lil and be happy (If possible) because is 17 years older than me and he prob cant have sex anymore because of his old age in 5 yrs or so

Answer 1

it sound like he feels your too needy. I'm sorry if I'm wrong.

Answer 2

Missy, the first thing I would like to tell you is don't claim depression. Proverbs 18:21 says, Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. So, you can actually speak thing into existence. Positive, uplifting, encouraging words will lead to joy and peace and positive results. Negative, depressing, hopeless words tear down and lead to depression and defeat. You can use words to speak life and health and blessing to yourself and to others. By your words, you can soar above the struggles and challenges of your everyday life and ride the winds of blessing and praise. By your words, you form your destiny.
Secondly, you are FABULOUS and you need to know that. Come on, this person would not have been involved with you if you weren't! If it's space he wants, then give him space. Men always ask for what they can't handle. stop being so available to him. Before you know, he'll be ringing your phone off the hook and when he does, don't answer the first few calls. And if not, then take your Fabulousness somewhere where it's appreciated. Remember YOU have total control over your emotions so don't let him get the best of you. he shouldn't even know that you are feeling this way, it makes him think that HE has control. C'mon girl, you are better than this!!! Been there done that, you'll be fine!

Answer 3

Woah slow down there. Talking about make up sex. What is going on there. I mean the first thing I would like to know is he telling me ' Hey baby, i miss you. I wanna hold you so tight and never let you go.' Hey sometime in a relationship if it's not always about sex then nothing good is going to happen there. I can't feel the love only pleasure are involve in many cases.
You can't think about that. Not to say it's wrong but you are giving wrong signals.
I don't think hate is the right word to use in your case. There is always hope in any relationship BUT they need 2 hands to clap.
First what you have to do is to relax. Never tense your mind NEVER!! In any situation you must be calm. SO do that for me girl.
Next what you have to do is pick a date when both of you are free. From morning till late night. Now that is what I call free.
No distration, calls, sms, i mean nothing at all. Go and have a day plan out. For breakfast, chat about the trip, Go on with the conversation about you 2. Talk things through.
Have a picnic on a beach. Go ride a bikecycle or jogging on a park. Cook dinner at your place. Man he is going to drop dead. Then you go and make your moves. That I can't advice. My eyes are close and lips seal.

Answer 4

He is not interested in you. That is that, I am sorry to tell you this. It seems very clear that he likes having sex with you and thinks your hot, but other than that there is nothing. I really feel so sorry for you. I wish you could see what is really going on. You do not deserve to be treated this way! No woman does, yet you seem to keep on asking for it. I am afraid you will get hurt in the end of this. I do wish you would forget about him but you will not. So, just give him a week or two then send him a text saying hello. That will be good. He will have had some space and time to think. but I guarantee you every time you all are together sex will be involved. That seems to be all he is really after. So try to protect your heart please, and try to not let him hurt you, that's all I ask. =)

Answer 5

I don't know what the email was about, but remember, if someone really likes you they will definitely make time to see you. If he's making excuses because he's busy at work then he's probably avoiding you. Especially when he said "I don't have time for this"

The relationship is doomed. There's no point in mending something if the other person doesn't feel that way. Go about your own way as best as you can. Remember cuts heal. You'll heal.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

From what I have read it sounds like he don't want to be bother with you right now, and I also feel that he wasn't very sensitive towards anything that you said to him. Most guys would love to hear those words, make-up sex, but it did not phase him, did you not find that strange. If I were you I would not call,e-mail or im him, let him be the one to contact you. Don't beg or pull on a guy, you will get nothing but disrespected as he just did. It seems to be doomed, and you should be glad, I did not see any love or concern for you in anything he responded to with you, loss that zero and get yourself a hero, and it's not him.

Answer 7

well hunny dont worry about it maybe his having a tough day guys get mood swings to... just give him space dont assume anything till the words are said and done leave him alone 4 today and get back at him 2marrow when his refreshed

Answer 8

U messed up by texting him twice in a row at the end. Its obvious that he doesnt want to be around u at the moment

Answer 9

At best it sounds that he does not want to deal with you now and wants to be left alone.

At worst he is doing the old lots of space dumpping.

Answer 10

give him the space he asking for, in the mean time find someone else your own age girl..

Answer 11

there's a fine line between concerned and stalking, give him space, let him call you, or you will be stalking