Is ignoring her too cruel?

Question

A couple months ago i met a girl that i REALLY liked & she made it obvious that she REALLY liked me to, when i built up the nerve to ask her out she said she had a lot going on in her life, she said it was a "yes, but not now" then i found out that over summer she got another boyfriend and never told me a word. i also found out that she lied to me about a few other things, when i mentioned it she would act like nothing was wrong. her smile makes me forget why i was mad so i decided to just ignore her and move on but now she acts like a victim and asks me why i barely talk to her. Am i making the right choice by letting go? if i forgive her she'll know that for the future all she has to do is smile and say sorry to get away with something. keep in mind she always talks wierd like hinting me that she wants me to ask her out again

Answer 1

Um yes you are making the right choice and ignoring her isn't cruel. It just letting her know that you won't put up with her crap. She is not taking you seriously and gave you valid reasons as to why she not suitable for you as a long-term partner. Let's see- she lied to you multiple times and you found out that she has a boyfriend. You said it yourself that all she had to do was smile and she can get away with her wrongdoings. That is a big red flag that you should not continue to talk to her.

This girl is only playing mind games and proved to you to be full of confusion, drama and very manipulative at best. But if you want to contact her, go ahead ask her out and see her constantly lie her way back into your heart over and over again using that winning smile of hers. Doesn't sound like much fun, isn't it? It's best stay far away from her and females of her kind from now on like that, unless you want to get burn.

Answer 2

It sounds as if she already knows all she has to do is smile, and uses it! It also sounds like letting go is a good thing, and ignoring her isn't necessarily rude. Sometimes it's the best way to deal with someone.

Maybe you could take a minute sometime and just tell her truthfully, that you don't like being lied to and are not attracted to someone you don't feel you can trust.

If she acts insulted and tries to make you feel guilty for doubting her, it's manipulation... don't go there... walk away. If she deems it rude, consider the source and let it go.

Best of success, Lili

Answer 3

well.... honesty IS the most important key in a relationship. It is wrong that she was not honest and caring enough to tell you the other " aspects" in her life. You say that when she does something wrong she just smiles and you forgive her...try this, not just letting it go. Call her on hatever it is she did, and if she does not take you seriously she is showing you that she isn't taking YOU seriously. So my advice to you is that you not ignore her and honest.....tell her it is over..
IF that is truly what you ant. If not take some time to consider it.

Answer 4

What a jerk. She got a boyfriend and lied to you? That's not someone you would wanna be with. If you let her always get the best of you..she going to continue to do that. She could possibly hurt you too. Don't let a girl to that to you. You should let go..there's a lot of nice girls...you just have to wait. Haha I've finally partially convinced myself that there are other boys..you should too:D. Girls love DJs..I know I do ;)

Answer 5

Try the 3 date rule. Give her 3 dates to convince you. If your gut tells you it's the right choice to let it go, great, but be friends. She probably does want you to ask her out. She might realize she was dumb to let you go, or she just wants to feel wanted. So give her 3 dates to see if she's sincere.

Answer 6

forget her, shes a drama queen, just dragging you along for the fun of it.

Answer 7

yes continue to ignore her

Answer 8

forget her