Please give a reason for your answer, and also, what religion you are, if any.
2007-09-03 15:25:30 · 50 answers · asked by bookworm29 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes.
I believe it because God says it is wrong.
"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."
Hebrews 13:4
"Finally, brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to please God, as in fact you are living. Now we ask you and urge you in the Lord Jesus to do this more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit."
I Thessalonians 4:1-8
I have chosen to make the Word of God, the Scriptures, the highest authority in my life. This is the pattern I see in Jesus, in His apostles, and in every successful follower of God,
2007-09-03 15:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Pentecostal or new life Christian, but I'm not full on. But, I think it is good to not do this if you have been brought up as a strong Christian family with good morals. But its a lot to ask a person who is not a Christian. It wouldn't be a problem if you are both evenly yoked. Sometimes people change when they have sex, the real person comes out, so maybe knowing that person before marriage by having sex could make your mind up if you wanted to stay with them. Otherwise after marrying them, you have sex and then they change its a little to late. They also could be poor at sex and this becomes a problem you never new either which wouldn't be nice. You can tell if a man loves you by a kiss and when making love he loves you and not just having a lustful time.
2007-09-03 15:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe it's a "sin", however I don't believe that sex is something to be engaged in indiscriminately.
I believe that the people should have a solid emotional connection (beyond just "hormones" and "it seems like a fun idea at the time") before engaging in sex. I think they should be old enough and mature enough to understand the deeper emotional connection that IMHO should exist.
If the partners are mutually consenting adults, and no one is being harmed by it (either themselves, OR anyone that they may be in other relationships with - even if they're consenting but they're married to others, then no, it's not all right), then have at.
2007-09-03 15:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam a little lost here ... are you saying having sex with someone whom you are not married to while you are married or do you mean having sex without being married?
i assume you meant the second one...
No- i never thought that the "no sex before marriage" thing made sense. I have many reasons... one is you can be with someone for say 10 years but enver acually marry them, or you could meet someone and marry them 4 months later......
so its okay that you have sex with the person you have known 4 months only because you have a legal paper saying its okay? But you can be with someone for 10 years and not have a legal document saying you are married and it is wrong?!?!?
Another reason:
arranged marriages- what is the purpose? You dont know the person nor do you love the person but you have to wed to them and have sex with them becuase you are legally married? But what about a couple who wants to get married but because of religious or cultural disagreements it is forbidden... so you should be miserable and not have sex and not get married to them
Another reason:
wether people want to believe it or not.. sex is a part of a relationship and many relationships fail because of disagreements or other things surrounding sex. Personally i wouldnt want to marry someone until i knew every aspect of them (sex included) becuase I think it could make or break a marriage and after you are married it is kind of too late.
Another reason:
there are people who will get married just so they can have sex or children and make it be "right" in the eyes of their fellow christians and what not...... but it is a dumb reason and many of them end up unhappy and/ or divorced.
I dont think that controling your sexual life should be based upon interpreations of the bible. Until some "all mighty" being comes to me and physically says "do not have sex if you arent married or (something) will happen"....... then im not taking it that close to heart.
and i am not religious.... im skeptical ( i dont completely rule out the idea,,.,. but i am not a faith person.. i need proof)
2007-09-03 15:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by amandica82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all in fact I believe that sex before marriage is an important thing. After all you could wind up sexually incompatible with the person you married and although sex is not the most important thing in a marriage, it is a big issue. I have known more than one couple that split up for that very reason.
And I am pagan with Buddhist tendencies.
2007-09-03 16:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex outside marriage is spiritually wrong by God's standard and morally wrong by human standard.
Even from creation, in the Bible book of Genesis, God intended for man to have "A" helper, not two. Genesis 2:18 and in Genesis 2:24 God further stated that "a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and the two shall become one."
By God's standard, sex is only permitted between two people- male and female joined together by marriage.
It is not important what man thinks about sex outside marriage, what is important is what God thinks and God says it is wrong.
Hope that helps.
2007-09-03 15:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by akanett 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is meant to bond two people together. When you have sex, you produce a hormone called oxytocin, a bonding hormone.
Imagine I stick a piece of duct tape on your arm. It would stick pretty well, right. Then I remove it and stick it on someone else. It would stick but not as good as it stuck to the first person. Imagine I do it to a few other people. I'd have all sorts of garbage on the tape from all the people I'd stuck the tape on and eventually the tape would stop sticking. Sex outside of marriage is just like that.
Seeing if people are sexually compatible is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Are you a man and a woman? Then your're not compatible!! The mind of the opposite sex is way too different. You don't get married to have sex. Suppose my husband becomes paralyzed from the waist down. Do I divorce him because we're no longer sexually compatible? I married a person to share my life with, not something to have sex with.
2007-09-03 15:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, God made the family unit.
LDS
tis my opinion and that of my church as well, but even with out....ask any person, usually girls, if they were happier because they had sex outside marrage when they were younger. If you ask the ones doing it NOW they may not be able to tell as well as in hindsight. So ask older people who did it. Girls are the ones who usually get hurt the most, (We are horrid sometimes, yes I am a man, but dang..I have heard enough to make me want to either ....gah....) as they are the ones that are stuck with so many more potential problems, the ones that have hearts to be harmed...many boys don't get it until they are older...how can they hurt someone that badly?
well, if you have sex out of marrage, it is for satisfaction, not love, this lets boys (usually boys) have no comitment, be able to lie to it, then dump you once your body is no longer entertaining...beacause if you attracted them with your body, that is what they are, were, will be, after. Sex for the sake of it, with anyone but your spouse, it's far worse then any drug, heroine, anything...it can break hearts and often does...I know a friend...and have heard boys planning..PLANNING to break girls hearts..."hey, what you guys wnat to do?" "what about those girls taht just got dumped? We could go be their boyfriends, and 'make' (fools) them love us and trust us, and then once they do, we could dump them, and watch their hearts break, all over again!"
Be.
Careful.
Boys act. I am ashamed of it, I spoke when I heard that..I can hope it did some good. I didn't know the girls they were reffering to..
Just don't get hurt..........
this is my opinion, no offence, just my veiw.
Reft~
2007-09-03 16:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Reft 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think sex outside of marriage is wrong...as long as the people doing it are consenting adults.
There are things I PERSONALLY would not do, sexually...but I'm not going to tell someone else not to do them. I respect the rights of others to make their own decisions.
FWIW, I'm Pagan.
2007-09-03 15:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by marisalwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that it is wrong. i don't believe in sleeping or spreading myself around before i get married just to make sure he is the right one in bed. if people base their relationship off of sex then they don't have much to offer in a relationship. i believe that sex is something that is so special between 2 people to become one. that should take place with just 1 person. not 20 people before you meet the "one".
I'm 23 and I'm still a virgin. i could care less what society says about sex before marriage. I've saved myself from unwanted pregnancy's, std's and a broken heart.
christian (non-denominational)
2007-09-03 15:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Lady 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋