What do I do? I don't wanna brag, but I am proud of my son.
They come back at me with rude comments, like saying my son looks big. He weighs 20 lbs, which is in the 50% percentile (AKA: NORMAL). Whats the big idea?
2007-09-03 14:28:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Just ignore them and DON'T FEEL BAD about it.They probably are just jealous.All kids are different.
2007-09-03 14:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Victory 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Percentile just means that if you had 100 babies, 50 would be bigger than your son and 50 would be smaller, or really, 50 would weigh less and 50 would weigh more. And his weight has nothing to do with his walking.
Anyway, in a few months, the emphasis will be on who's talking, and unless he's precocious there, you'll get to be on the envious side for a few weeks too!
If this really bugs you, maybe you should find a new playgroup or wait another year and join a second when he's actually interested in group play.
2007-09-03 21:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by M L 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you're proud, but don't flaunt it. They can obviously see that you're son is a walker now, and probably feel that you're just rubbing it in or gloating. My son just started walking at 8 1/2 months, and he's also a "big" boy at 23 lbs. and 28 inches, but I try not to brag about it because I don't want my friends thinking that their babies are less accomplished or not as good, because as a mother you should know that you can take even the smallest things to heart and become easily offended when it comes to your child and his development, even if the other person isn't actually snubbing you or your baby. Say something positive about their children's development and try to give praise to the parents about how great a job they are doing teaching their babies.
2007-09-03 22:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by mitchell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm kinda sounds like your taking their comments the wrong way, I would say your son is big to especially since my own is so much smaller than yours and probably that is the reasoning to them for his walking so early? Now about the walking, My dd walked at 6 months , it was h*ll , she was climbing at 8 months and that was h*ll , she was climbing out of her crib by 12 months so that was even more h*ll You can imagine I'm sure. My son is a bit late in comparison he has been walking holding on to the furniture and standing alone since he was about 7 months and didn't learn to crawl till he was almost 1 year old! But guess what, about 2 weeks after that he was walking and practically running around after that. I think that he figured I can't get around as fast as when I'm standing up. So you know it is just really just what your kid is ready for and what he/ she wants to do.
2007-09-04 14:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Devilish Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All babies do things at different ages it really depends on the child. Some times when they are the first child they tend to get babied more so they do things late due to the fact that they get held all the time and where if someone has more children then the babies seem to do thing faster due to the parent not being able to hold them as much or Us parents learn what to differently with each child the more we have. So dont worry about them and just know whatever your child is doing well you can praise yourself for that blessing.
2007-09-03 21:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by ron j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing this is your first and maybe their first. When it comes to second babies, it really hits how different babies can be.
Also how different peoples ideas of "walking" are, whats really unassisted, vs just putting weight on their legs.
Then Id say watch "notes from the underbelly" (starts up again on abc soon) and watch the parents roll their eyes as another brags on how their baby followed the raised, at 2 months vs 3 months. It puts it in perspective.
2007-09-03 21:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably feel insecure that their baby isn't walking yet, so they insult your son. My friends son walked at 10 months, and he daughter was 9 1/2 months. Your son is a fine weight. My little boy weighed 24 pounds when he turned 1, and I think he was around 21 when he was 9 months.
2007-09-03 22:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by .. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just stop bragging. It is obvious when a baby walks and while bragging once is ok you don't want to overdue it. The average for walking is 12 months so some parents start to worry about their little ones and others just feel like parents of early walkers are bragging and thinking their baby is a "genius" or a prodigy or something.
2007-09-03 21:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
#1: You don't control your child's development
#2: Parenting isn't a contest
#3: Your child's development isn't a contest either.
Once upon a time, any healthy, happy baby was considered a blessed child. And it should still be so.
Just smile and tell them that their babies are beautiful little critters with talents and strengths that are still developing and will blossom soon. We're not all the same - and that's the beauty of life. Just because a kid walks doesn't mean he/she will be a Nobel Laureate in the future... :-)
2007-09-03 21:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bev B 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
just be proud of your son. i sorta got the same treatment when my daughter was walking GREAT at 10 months old. i have a best friend whose son was the same age and he didn't even attempt to walk until he was 14 months old, she was always jealous of my daughter advances. i experiencing the same thing again now with my 8 month old son. he is way more advanced than my friends 15 month old. my son is even bigger than my friends 15 month old. all i can say is be proud that you have a smart and beautiful baby.
2007-09-03 21:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by *mRs.GaBrIeL* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Brag all you want - Its right as a mother to be proud!! Dont listen to all that negativity its just jealously. Congrats by the way for having such a clever little man
2007-09-03 21:37:18 · answer #11 · answered by Kylie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋