I have been dating the most amazing guy in the world for a little over 5 months. And we have been through hell and back in our relationship. We've gone through ppl thinking we shuldn't be together because his ex is my friend (She honestly doesn't care cuz she is dating his friend) both of us havin feelings for exes, and my dad trying to get us apart + more. And we've always gotten through it together. But lately I've been feeling like he is waaaaaaaaay to good for me and he deserves someone better. One of his old friends is trying to go out w/ him, and I think she might deserve him more. I love him w/ all my heart and I just want him to be happy, when I told him all this he said that he loves me more than anything in the world and wuld never choose n e one over me. But I still have these feelings and often cry myself to sleep because of them. Are they normal? Will they go away? If not what shuld I do?
2007-09-03 14:20:57 · 14 answers · asked by Emma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you deserve him? Everyone deserves to be treated decently and to be loved, and you do too. If you have done something to hurt him then maybe he should know and then make that decision himself, but if he says he loves you then take that at face value and enjoy the relationship.
2007-09-03 14:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has told you that he does not want any other but you, then just go on with the relationship. Your opinion of him being waaaaaay too good for you.....well, do not be discouraged because of that. Instead, learn from his good examples and improve yourself. Your crying yourself to sleep is a self-realisation that you are not good enough for him. Look at the bright side of it all and make efforts to be better. When you progress, you will see that you deserve him more and feel happier. And you will gradually stop feeling that someone else deserves him more than you do. Continue loving him and be happy together. You have found someone good, so make the best of it instead of throwing it away.
2007-09-03 21:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you retarded? He likes you which is why he is with you. If you didn't deserve him you wouldn't have him in the first place. You need to make a decision, either you realize you are a goddess and that he's lucky to be with you too. Or you can continue to make yourself miserable and totally ruin a perfectly good relationship (trust me it will be ruined) by being insecure for no reason. You deserve to be happy like everyone else. Quit being the stick in the mud and try to be happy. it's all up to you, do you really want to throw it all away?
2007-09-03 21:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by ucoshannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This amazing guy has fought to be with you through both of your friends and your family. He loves you or he wouldn't have fought so hard. It doesn't matter if you feel he might be better off with someone else. He doesn't want them. YOU are exactly what he wants. You deserve to be happy as much as anyone else. Trust in his love and love him back. In the end, that's all that matters.
2007-09-03 21:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The feelings are normal when you may have been haveing a rough day or week month or year. But if you truely love him fight for him, and the question that you should always ask yourself is do the desirve you? Never ask yourself if you desirve them, in all reality the boy needs to make a girl feel wonderful!
2007-09-03 21:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey,
i am so sorry for what you two have been through together but it seems to me as if all the stuff you have been through has made you a stronger couple and because you are such a strong couple you need to discuss your feelings with eachother in a mature way.
tell him "i really love you and i think you are an amazing person and i love being with you and everything about you but sometimes i feel as if you deserve better than me. i dont know why i feel this way, i dont want to feel this way but i do. i dont know what to do all i want to do is be with you."
good luck and i hope everything goes well for the both of you.
XOXO
2007-09-03 21:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by MissSamanthaAnne 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you care for each other and if you keep thinking you dont deserve him then you dont --- you deserve happiness just as much as he does and if being with you makes him happy then you deserve him --- enjoy your time together keep falling in love and see what the next 50 years brings ---- best wishes
2007-09-03 21:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably shouldnt be with him... its not a good idea to "recycle" amongst your friends anyhow, but if for one instant youre going on and on and on about "dont deserve him" then u should be alone and work on loving you when u can feel you deserve someones affections
2007-09-03 21:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by donna p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your thinking. You sound like you should have more confidence and self esteem. Your thinking will cause more problems in the future, so just stop thinking so much and work on yourself.
2007-09-03 21:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pinkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these feelings are totally normal hon...dont worry...just talk to him more and i dont feel like i deserve my bf...but if it werent meant to be...the LORD wouldnt have pu him there in my time of need...just stick with him girl
2007-09-03 21:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by ♥jam06.26.10.♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋