I like this guy...anyone ANSWERS PLEASE!!?

Question

I really like one of my guy friends, but he has no idea. I decided the only way for me to tell him is to make a move and just flat out kiss him. We drink together so I can easily be in that kind of situation with him, but how should I go about making the move without making it akward or losing him as a friend if he ends up not going for it?

And I'm talking about how to go about it physically, I really don't need to hear about how I need to be carefull about losing a perfectly good friendship...cuz honestly if I can't have him in that way eventually I don't think I can continue to be his friend and act normally.

He has no idea I like him, and I have no idea if he has EVER thought that way about me, but we have had convos about sex and his ex gf's, but nothing indicating to me he's super attracted. He's really hard to read, and kind of oblivious to girls (which he has told me a couple of times) and I have never seen him make a move on any girl while I've been around him at parties

A couple nights ago he stayed the night at my house and we passed out on my couch together because we were both drunk. He changed positions during the night and ended up laying on a pillow that was sitting in my lap but i don't know if he realized he did. He got up in the morning to go to the bathroom and passed an empty couch in order to sit back down next to me...I should've made a move but was too scared...and advice how not to be such a pu*sy??

Well trendy...you've never answered this question before have you? so why don't you actually give me some good advice instead of complaining about it...I'm in a situation where I could really use it and everytime I post the question I get different ppl's advise which is what I'm going for. Don't get on here if you're not here to help.

silent_let down...I'm not immature what so ever, and the fact that you're younger than me and saying that sort of hurts my feelings...the point of drinking is that I am friends with him and its something we do together among other things. I've watched movies with him alone SEVERAL times and I'm too big of a wuse to make anything happen, and he's too oblivious to make moves on anyone, which was my point...if this were a normal guy then I would completely know how to deal with it. We're both film makers and we work on projects together along all the time, I just need a way of venturing out of the friend zone...

Answer 1

few suggestions, make up a story where someone got in your face, as you're telling him this story it will put you right where you want to be. Theres also the flirtatious fighting and tickling. but since you guys are friends he might get wierded out by your sudden flirty behavior. You could also just tell him when you guys are together that you like his lips, wondered what it would be like to kiss him and then go for it. Many ways to do this. Good Luck.

Answer 2

You're going about it the completely wrong way.
You're basically asking us how to take advantage of him while not in the correct state of mind to try to get him to see you in a different light.
It's completely immature & will drive him away & you won't gain anything in the end.
If you're going to kiss him, do it when you're both sober & aware of your surroundings. Maybe ask him over to watch a movie, & out of the blue go for the kiss.
Though understandable that your feelings would make it harder to be friends with him in the future, it's also completely & utterly immature to say; "if I can't have him like that, then I won't have him at all." It's like a child holding their breath to get their way.
I think you're too immature to have a relationship with him right now, & you should wait on it.

Answer 3

Usually the Man makes the first move, most Men in that situation would have done so. He may lack confidence. I'm not sure how to advise you, I personally would have pounced like a fox on a chicken! Get him alone and ask him if he likes girls, if he says yes, then ask him if he finds you attractive. If he says yes, then tell him to kiss you already. I find though that most woman want a confident man, you may find that after a while his "shy" behavior is starting to become annoying.

Answer 4

Wait.. let me get this straight.. You'd have more courage to kiss him (and considering that he might not want to) then to simply tell him that you find him attractive? YIKES. I agree with past posts... quit the drinking and be sober for this one. Tell him how you feel. Wouldn't you rather have him make the first move? Wouldn't it be more exciting to you?
He may even give in to the kiss but it doesn't mean he likes you in that way. If you tell him you like him and then he chooses to kiss you then you'll know it was his intention to do so.
I give a BIG N-O to the kiss thing.

OH.. AND P.S. let's just say that he turns out to be "the one". Do you want to remember your first kiss as one that you forced on him when he was drunk? Eeek put that on an anniversary card.. lol

Answer 5

In psychology of boys,girls have to know that if they really like a guy why do they make it this much complicated,JUST TELL HIM U LIKE HIM.be frank,just go tell him that we have been social friends for this much time and by the time i think i like u so much that i can be ur gf.and in reply he will tell u how does he feel.drinking,kissing,thinking how to act and ... is really hilarious.i dont know how old r u,but i think when uve been together for times so its easy to say such a thing,and maybe he just thinks the way u do or he thinks if he says anything he might loose u.
and the solution is that dont overdrink when u know u cant handle urself in such a situation.

Answer 6

I would wait until the two of you were drinking again and just ask him if he's ever thought about what it would be like if the two of you were to hook up. Depending on what he says, just kiss him. Then, if it didn't turn out well, you could blame the alcohol! j/k Seriously though, stop thinking and stressing about doing it and just DO IT when you get the right chance!

Answer 7

Honestly you are really over thinking this. He is a guy, and like most every guy i know including myself, he would love it if you made the move. any guy wants to know what a girl is thinking rather then play games or try and figure it out. most of us are clueless on the social cue's. if you want him, take him. you will be surprised that he wants it. now, don't be hurt by what may happen later. i can not guarantee you that it will end how you want it to end. he may be perfectly happy to have sex with you but not be g/f and b/f. men are pigs, so don't be surprised by the outcome. but trust me, men would rather know, then have to figure it out.

Answer 8

I think if you want a relationship with this guy it needs to be based on something more than being drunk or drinking. Do you guys do anything sober? If not, maybe you don't want a relationship with him.

Answer 9

next time the 2 of you are alone just make the move. no sense in waiting till it is too late.

Answer 10

Sounds like he's shy, too. Are you sure this isn't my oldest son, Joe, you're with?

Seriously, like you said...get close to him and simply turn to him, gently take his face in your hands, and, barring his stopping you physically or saying "No", reach up while pulling his face down to yours and softly kiss him...and see where it leads.