2007-09-03 13:27:49 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been considering the other responses and came to my first conclusion. Your question was about dating; not anything more. My answer is yes, it is OK to date this guy. However, it is not OK to engage in intimate personal physical activity with him because you are a minor and he is not.
My advice would be to date someone closer to your own age. Dating a man who is over 18 can get him into trouble, as was mentioned before, and he could go to jail for it. Also, your parents might not like it if they knew it, but I don't know if they already do or not. If you care about him, it would be best to stay just friends until you are 18.
If you are close to your mother, try to talk with her about this and see what she has to say. She was 15 once and she may understand your situation and have some good advice for you. It is better to be honest about this with at least one of your parents, because if you do date this man, they will find out if they do not already know and that could get you in trouble.
You can even talk about it without being specific if you need to, to get a feeling of what they would think by asking a general question like, "Mom, if I liked a guy that was older than me, would you allow me to date him"? Go from there.
2007-09-03 13:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Boomer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No u really shouldn't, thats too much of an age difference, the most i dated was a girl that just turned 18, and I was about to turn 16.....thats only a year and a half to 2 years difference, not a 4...You can aways wait till your 17 or 18, and he is 21 or 22
2007-09-03 13:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states, under the age of 16-17 warrants a charge of statutory rape to the one who is not the minor. You would have no say so in these charges and cannot do anything to stop them. He would have a sexual predator record for the rest of his life. You two should probably wait until you are a little older to pursue a relationship, for the safety of you and him. If he is charged, you will be required to go to court and testify about all the things you two did together and this can be very hard on you. Not only will be be a felon that can't get a job anywhere, once he does get out of prison, he will have to be registered in the sex offenders registry for the rest of his life.
2007-09-03 13:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by April K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise you this guy is after nothing but sex, if he is showing interest in you. I know it sounds harsh, but when you turn 19, you will look back, and think "my gosh, why would a 19 year old date a 15 year old?" and you will answer yourself, "because he knows its an easy way to have sex." It is not ok for you to date him not only because it is illegal, but because it is not a healthy thing for you to do. By healthy I mean emotionally and physically. Because of your age difference, you want different things out of a relationship. Physically, PLEASE LISTEN, you do not want to give your body away to this guy. ( I promise, he will pressure you A LOT and you may not be strong enough to not give in.) He will not be the one for you, and you will only end up feeling used. If you want to hang out with this guy, only do it in groups. Never alone. If, by the time you turn 18, you feel you still want to date him, go for it.
By the way...if he truly likes you, he WILL wait that long. :)
2007-09-03 13:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dear. Not at all. He is an adult, you are legally still considered a minor. If he were to enter into an "adult" relationship with you, it would be considered statutory rape, and he would be libel under the law. If you were my daughter, I would press charges against him. You should concentrate on your studies, and learn about yourself, and explore where you want to go to college, and what you would like to do with your life. This man should be in college or the work force, not engaging the time of a 15 year old girl.
Sorry this is not the answer I'm sure you were expecting.
"To every thing there is a season..."
Agape,
Rhonda
2007-09-03 13:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, in most states the age of consent is at least 16 or higher and in some states it is not until 18. So by you dating a 19yo it puts him in danger of being labeled a sexual offender. Even if you do not do anything together. Do not be so selfish as to put the rest of his life at risk that way. Wait until you are old enough in your state to go with someone over the age that you are. Stick to 16 and under for now.
2007-09-03 13:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am younger than any of those ages but I know that it is not right at ALL to be 15 and date a 19 yr. old guy. You just getting in2 high school and hes just getting out. It's just not right, plus, he should be off to college so you won't see him very much...So what's the point in that??
2007-09-03 13:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by 'D a n i e l l e♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably not a really good idea. There is also a matter of what happens on the date. Just going places together is one thing, but most states have laws that limit the age for concentual sex, and 15 too young.
2007-09-03 13:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing a 19 yo is looking for is sex. Find a boyfriend closer to your age and dont get taken in by the smooth talking older guy - you will bite off way more than you can chew if you dont ...
2007-09-03 13:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by zappafan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Although only 4 years, it's a crucial 4 years in terms of emotional maturity. He is much older than you in terms of life experience. Stick to guys no older than 16 for now.... it could mean A LOT for your future...
And honestly, a normal 19 year old guy shouldn't be interested in a 15 year old girl... no offense to you.
2007-09-03 13:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋