He E mails me & tells me he has Lumps all over & has to have Surgry, Hes Homless Of his OWN choice & hearing Noises & wont seek help, I already Am Bipolar & pannic attacks, I love him & how should i deal with this, Remember Im 54 almost 55 years old, I cant work, He keeps asking for money, He Roams From state To state & bums, & sleeps Anywhere. I cant handle it, his Grandmother sent him 3 Hundred Dollars, He spent it up with in a Week, Not even a week, His grandmothers son Is taking over Her bank account, So she cant do that alot, What would you do? im going crazy here.
2007-09-03 12:42:30 · 9 answers · asked by little sparrow 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I divorced his dad years ago, thought id that to. His dad wont help him & Says He chose his life style,
2007-09-03 12:50:31 · update #1
You gave him the best you could.
Your days of being Mommy are over and you can relax.
As an adult, he needs to learn to cope on his own.
The best you can do is tell him to get help wherever he is.
And tell him you have nothing more to give economically, just your verbal support.
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2007-09-03 13:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by HJG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I am so sorry to read about your situation. It is very complicated with your son having a mental illness there is not a lot to be done for an adult. At this point you cannot help him with him out of state. If he were in town you could have him Baker Acted for his own safety. That could also cause problems later with him when he was better. Sending him money may do more damage than help. Many times sick people self medicate with street drugs and it exacerbates the situation,. At this time I would recommend taking care of yourself. Speaking to your own Dr. and/or counselor/therapist to help you find as much peace of mind as possible. It is a shame the boys father doesn't understand your sons choices are a result of his illness.
2007-09-03 12:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 17:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by matheis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can persuade him to get mental help and medication. He should qualify for social security disability or supplemental security income., this will open doors to get him free or practically free medical/medication help. Haldol and cogentin are commonly used to control schizophrenia, I take care of a young man who is 33, with that illness as well as cerebral palsy. He was talking to trees and thought his arms had fallen off and needed a wheelchair. With meds, he is fine.
2007-09-03 13:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by slk29406 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW......... You need to try and get him to a DR it sounds like he needs some help a.s.a.p. at the end of the day he is 27 and you can't control his life, does he have and older brothers or sisters that can talk to him to try and get him to a DR? But you need to start to look after yourself you have bipolar and panic attacks, you need to take care of number one or you will not be around to help him!
2007-09-03 13:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. I know that if you could you would do everything you possibly could for your son, but not only are you incapable of helping him, he is making it difficult for anyone to help him. Eventually he may get help and it will be out of his control. I think the only things you could do in this situation is pray for him, or contact the authorities and see if they can have him picked up for treatment.
2007-09-03 12:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by cavassi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would do the same as ur ex husband. its a little harder for moms to cut the apron strings though.
2007-09-04 02:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by spicy n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing. i am sorry to be so abrupt. but you have your problems so as he. both are mental related. all i can advise is see social services.
2007-09-03 13:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help yourself to not drown in your concern for him. You both are equally sick. You cannot help him.
2007-09-04 02:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋