Well me (female) and my best freind (male) have always flirted around each other, and we always play around. One night we were at his house having dinner, and we were just like touching hands (under the table) and then i started to get more playful by stroking his inner thigh, but not touching his penis, and i thought he liked it, so then i started playing with his zipper, and kinda reaching in, but not touching it, and then i took my hand out when i felt it get hard. About 5 minutes later dinner was over, so we went to his room, and he picked me up and threw me on his bed. and he started to take his pants off untill i told him to stop beacuse thats not what i meant by it. Then he got pissed and called my a tease and made me leave.
AM I A TEASE?
2007-09-03 12:41:10 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To those of you who care
(PAPERHEART59) I asked another friend if i was a tease and he told me to ask yahoo and get 50 answers, i didnt have 50 yet, so i asked it again.
2007-09-03 13:14:15 · update #1
You're horrible : ), cause men don't think remotely close to what you had in mind, if you weren't trying to be a tease. You don't even know how many buttons you pushed by that move. You didn't just hit the lust button, and then give blueballs, you also scratched his self-esteem, confidence, ego, and trust. Not cool! You need to learn that you just don't do any of that stuff at all, unless you intend to go all the way. That's also how women get raped (by bad men of course, in the wrong setting). I say, don't play with that at all.
2007-09-03 12:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure, if you've been with even one guy that you know the answer to that and don't need us to make you feel better. Yes you were a tease, and in a big way. Men and women should not start something, get right into the middle and then break expectations. Either through discussion or actions, one of the most important thing to do in relationships and friendships is to managed expectations and you blew it with this one. The trouble is, if he was just a friend up to now, he's now been sexually aroused by you, then had his ego bruised. He may never view you the same way again.
2007-09-03 12:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by the_kidfrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, sorry, if you turn a guy on and have no intention of doing it, then you're a tease... unless you tell him ahead of time exactly what the limits are ( how far you'll go). Playing is good fun,but make sure they know that it's just that. It's teasing when you're not serious about what can happen next and you lead someone on and then say 'no'. Don't do it again, or you will be a 'tease', and that's NOT a nice thing to be.
2007-09-03 12:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not have meant it, but it did come across like you were a "tease". Doesn't mean you don't have the right to say no, you ALWAYS have that right. Just explain to him that it was playful fun. It appears he's more than just a "friend" to you. None of my close friends do that. So maybe explore the possibilities?
He had no right to "throw you on the bed" though. That was wrong of him. Make sure you explain that, nicely.
Good luck!
2007-09-03 12:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by yakdude89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah. If that's not what you meant, then what did you mean by it? You don't fondle a guy's penis and not expect him to take is as a plea for sex. You might think of it as joking but if a girl did that to me then I would have done the exact same thing, but perhaps not throwing you on the bed.
He was totally right, you are a tease and he should be "pissed" for getting all ready for sex and then you said you were joking.
2007-09-03 12:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sex you have the right to say no at any point and for no reason. Also, he started going too fast.
However, yes this was a narcissistic, immature thing you did- you did it just to see if you could do it, and you shouldn't play stupid games with people you claim to be friends with.
Grow up and be respectful to the people you say you care about.
2007-09-03 13:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by Steve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, YEAH!
Just some advice from woman to woman....when you put your hand in ANY man's pants, you'd better be certain that your intention is that it's going to lead to other things. It's totally wrong to send those types of signals and then say, "oh...we can't do that; that's not what i meant."
If you only wanted to slightly flirt, you should have kept it PG at hand-holding. You totally set yourself up for that one sister. What was he supposed to think about your actions?!
2007-09-03 12:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by YSIC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You dont flirt with a boy, rubbing his leg and go so far as to rub his penis and then say, you werent thinking sex. He did you a favor by making you leave. You were very bold and dont be surprised if some gossip starts concerning you.
Dont do that again unless you want to have sex.
2007-09-03 12:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by skyward 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes - that is the clearest example of a tease I have ever heard... But I am sure your friend enjoyed the teasing. Well, I would.. But I would also be a bit confused afterward.
2007-09-03 12:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by River (was V C) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol my friend did that to me, but I didn't get pissed. Instead I grabbed her hips and said be sure of what you want, cause teasing isn't good at all. Lol from there she I had her hooked.... Woman and their teasing can cease to their down fall, when it comes to sweet talking woman like ma
2007-09-03 12:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋