How can i make my guy friend like me?

Question

I dated his friend, ughh i know. But i really like him, we flirted alot but now it seems like the flirting has stopped. He told me he likes someone but won't tell me who and i kept annoying him to tell me who but he would, i feel like there is a really small chance he could be talking about me but i dont know. He said he would evenutally tell "her" he likes her but i dont know when!! The thing is though we still flirt a bit, so how can i make him tell me and if its not me...WANT me?

Answer 1

Honey,

I've learned the hard way. You can't make anyone like you. Men are blunt though. You could just ask him. Also, if you want to take it entirely from hints, and suggestions, and have him to approach you (that depends on his free-will), then start doing suggestive things, and jot down by yourself, his reactions to you. Don't do anything to fast. Start by being mild, and and slow, and throwing a few suggestions in here and there, or he'll notice something is too different. Do cute things: All girls know what to do, I think. Do flirtatious things with your eyes, and hair. At the right timing, touch the center of his chest, while talking to him, but look him in the eyes while you do it. Don't look for the response, or you may get him to realize what you are doing. It's all subtle. Are you attractive? If you are, it wont be that hard of a thing to transition over to, but don't be a tom-boy, friend type. Start to be very feminine. See if his eyes dialate while talking to you, after some of your approaches. He may hide it, so you might need to look for subtle cues. Oh ya, and tell him lots of secrets. What I mean, is get him out in public (not around other girls so much), but where there are other people (so you have an excuse). Tell him you want to tell him something. Put your hand softly on his chest if facing him, or put your hand around the other side of his face from the front of his body, grasping his neck softly, and speak very softly, something in his ear, from time to time. Just don't do anything to blunt. Men actually like the more subtle, and seductive behavior more than loudness, and being one of the guys. I don't know how you are. But, try some stuff, and observe. That's all I can say.

Answer 2

That's like asking why does the sun come up in the morning, a lot of men do that .An old lady once said to me there is no just friend ship between a man and woman, and that's nearly always the case. If you don't want that to happen just keep him at arms length.

Answer 3

Well, the unfortunate part is that you cannot force or make someone like you. The person will naturally come to fall for you if they find you attractive to them, be it personality, smile, your eyes, facial features, or anything that they find attractive.
If you want him to pay attention to you then you just have to be a better friend. Stop nagging him about who he likes. He might get annoyed and stay away from you.
And from personal experience, guys like to flirt but that doesn't necessarily mean they like you in that way. I have guy friends who flirt with me but I know they don't like me in that way and they have girlfriends they're pretty happy with. Some people just naturally flirt.....and maybe he likes someone you know and is afraid that if you find out, you might tell her.
If he does like you, I know the guy will do more then just flirt with you. If a guy has a crush on you, they will let you know unless they're really shy. The only way you can get this guy's attention is to just be yourself, act normal and natural, not annoy him about who he likes, and be there for him. You never know....maybe he likes another girl but there might be a chance she doesn't like him back....he might realize that you're a great catch and come after you instead.
Just don't make or force things to happen. Nothing good comes out of it. Trust me.

Answer 4

Okay, first off, it's not really a smart idea to get involved with the friend of your ex...the friend probably doesnt want to ruin his relationship with your ex, and things are obvs gonna be a bit different btwn them if he goes out with u.....
But, that said, you seem mature enough to know that, so I'm guessing you have thought about this, and are willing to take that risk. I suggest you tell him you have a crush as well, then he might start pestering YOU to tell him who YOUR CRUSH is, and then you have to say "I'll tell you my crush if you tell me yours"......Now if this doesn't work, and he doesn't express any interest in finding out who your crush is, chances are he probably isn't crushing on you..because any guy who has a crush on you will be dying to know who you're crushing on. So if he doesn't ask you at all about your crush, you can bet he doesn't like you. Now, how to GET HIM to like you...well I suggest being more flirtatious and open about your intentions. Let him know you like him as more than just a flirt buddy, and that your flirting goes beyond friendly....IM not SAYING go have sex with him, im saying, that when you see him start making more body contact. Hug him everytime you see him, touch his arm when you're telling him something, when you're walking down the hallway link your arm through his, hit him playfully when he teases you, stuff like that. Talk to him more, and try to get interested in what he likes to do. If he likes a certain video game, try it out. Ask him if he wants to play that game with you, tell him you suck at it and you want him to help teach you since he's a beast at it (boys love when you compliment them and ask them for help on things)...basically, just try to find more common ground for you to bond on, and then you can move your relationship from friendly to dating. He'll start to get that you're into him, since you keep touching him, and when you start expressing interest in things he likes, he'll want to hang out with you more and do things with you more often...
I hope this helped.

Answer 5

I bet he considers you off limits since you dated his friend. He might like you, but he's not going to do anything behind his buddy's back. Why don't you tell the first guy you dated that you like his friend and you'd like his blessing for you and they guy you like to go on a date. If he says, "no problem", ask the guy you like over for a home cooked dinner and rent a movie you think he'd like. Give him a foot massage and then offer to walk on his back. He'll get the message. ;)

Answer 6

Sometimes people get stuck in that "just friends" category without even wanting to be there. If you really want more then tell him. If not, he may continue to just be a friend or finally leave.

Answer 7

u know what, just go for him, he's not going to tell u without force, but, usually, if ur good friends with him, he'll tell u if its not u, so there is a 50~50 chance he like u

Answer 8

Send him a pair of your underwear and some naked pictures. Or make a naughty webcam video so he can post it online and i can see it

Answer 9

maybe hes just scared to tell you or he just likes some whan Else ask one of his guy Friends about it House

Answer 10

Just keep doing what your doing! Keep nagging him about his secret crush and eventually he'll tell you who it isor if it's you!
Good Luck!