I'm 19 and I usually date guys 18-25. Anytime the subject of sex comes up (a couple of months into the relationship), it's like the relationship has to end. I'm a virgin, and I plan to stay one for sometime. Anytime I tell a guy, three things usually happen. They say "We can work it out" and then they dump me a week later, "we can work it out" and then they cheat on me with a promiscuous female, or they start laughing until I tell them that it's not a joke.
I guess this is my question: Should I be up front and say "Before we start dating u should know that I'm a virgin, and I don't plan on having sex anytime soon," (very awkward) or should I continue this road of rejection anytime sex pops up. It's really starting to bug me.
2007-09-03 10:39:17 · 19 answers · asked by : ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be upfront like with in the first 3 conversations before a date takes place. Its best. You won't get the rejection and you'll free the horny lot up to seek their horny conquests. I think its admirable that you want to wait. Stick to your plan and don't let ANYONE influence you to change it.
2007-09-03 10:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by drivn2excelchery 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Definately tell the guy upfront, that saves everyone alot of time and aggravation, if he cool with it great, if not then, that's cool too. For many people sex is just an expected part of a relationship, not realizing that just because they belive in casual sex, not everyone does.
You have something rare to offer (at this day in age) to the right guy. But as with any relationship or potential relationship, you should know what it is you're getting into, I'm sure a few guys can handle it, but most probably can't, but out of those few you will find your Mr. Right.
Good Luck
2007-09-06 03:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by rf186 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well coming from a guy who can only see you lil avatar which as far as I can tell, shows that you do look really good. With that being said, if I was dating a girl that looked as good as you and a few months into the relationship you suddenly mention that you are a virgin I would think I did something bad. We probably have been kissing and rubbing a lil bit over the two months and as a man when I kiss and rub sexy females, it gets my mind running, my motor running, and my rooster rising. But if I knew before hand that my rising rooster would not be going to rest in the warm barn, then it would be a lot easier to control then if I didn't know before hand. Let me tell ya anticipation is a mutherphucka!! And I am trying to give you a quality answer from a guys perspective....and you do look hella good so hopefully you can find a guy who is worth your time and effort because it seems like you have met a few who are giving nice guys in general a bad name....
2007-09-04 06:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes let them know up front that youre not down with having sex with them...If they dont respect you for that it will be out of the way from the jump...It will show how shallow the dude is. Youre young and have a lot a head of you. You dont need that pressure from a dude. Your doing good by yourself by not having sex right now anyways...And if I were you I wouldnt try for a relationship...Just have guy friends/companions that you can go out with but wont have the burden of him trying to sleep with u....I take that back he will try...lol but its not like you have to feel obligated like a girlfriend would because she feels like he is gonna cheat...but because you guys are just FRIENDS it should take away the need to tell him anything like that up front or at least not right away.Having a friendship with a dude is better for your situation also because your are getting to know him in an unbiased way...If you were to just up and be his girlfriend he may hold things back more. Another thing you guys can go out and do relationship type things without having an intimate relationship...because its established that its not like that...he may date other ppl but its not the same as if he where actually supposed to be dedicated too you.
It hard being you and it good at the same time...So continue to be a virgin as long as you need... a relationship will always be available when the time is right. But for now have male friends
2007-09-04 19:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ns@YnE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i guess either or because untill you find the RIGHT GUY you get the same responce.
but being up front doesnt mean you have to come right out and say it.
you can just ask what a guy is looking for in a women
or how long is he willing to wait for the women to be ready for that experience.
but just have a good time and expect it to happen alot.
today SEX is such a big thing that we women and men have forgotten the most important part of realtionship.
knowing each other heart and mind and letting sex come last and naturaly.
being satisfied with being with a women/man for who they are not for how long or how good or how sexy they are in bed.
2007-09-04 06:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront and honest. This is a part of your life that is so important to you that it will be impossible to hide or live with without being clear and specific about your expectations. Don't be scared of rejection... ur intentions are meaningful and that is worthy or recognition at all times. There are plenty of guys who are virgins or who will respect your desire to wait. Its commendable, so brush those jerks off and remember that your gonna have to live with your decisions at the end of the day and there is no one (until THE ONE) who can sway that feeling. Your body, your choice, your rules until you're ready to compromise.
2007-09-06 15:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by Benny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really don't know why you have to say it at all. LOL I think you're just putting guys off by bringing it up. If a guy really likes you, he will wait until you're ready. But even a good guy might be put off by you telling him that he shouldn't expect sex any time soon. Just speaking for myself, it would kind of come across like you are suspicious of my intentions, or something. Just a thought.
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2016-12-16 10:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why you should ever have to compromise your self for anyone. If those men can't understand your self worth and what you are doing for you then let them keep it moving. Continue to be up front and let them know when the subject comes up where you stand. Good luck to you and don't let anyone try to change you. Once you do it you can't get it back.
2007-09-04 09:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by honeyb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would go with whole up front thing. this is a very important decision that you have made to live by and any guy trying to have any sort of relationship with you needs to know this so that he can understand the choice that you have made in your life. be strong and just remember that any guy that doesn't accept your decision doesn't deserve to even be standing next to you. don't worry, you will one day find the right guy and your world will totally flipped. TRUE LOVE WAITS!
2007-09-03 11:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by big chiefing 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋