Are great looking women easier to get together with than average ones?

Question

Okay, before I ask this, I'm not bragging, I'm no sex god and I certainly don't think I'm god's gift to womankind. This is not an ego thing. But...

I think I'm a fairly average looking guy, with a reasonable personality, and I'm not rich. For some reason though I always find that it's easier to hook up with women who are better looking and more attractive than me. The ones who I think are about my level are never interested in me, as they always seem to have incredibly high standards.

I'm certainly not complaining, but what the hell is going on here?

My theory is that the gorgeous girls are used to arrogant meatheads hitting on them, they've seen it all before and aren't impressed, so they like it when a more honest, down to earth guy has the courage to approach them. The average looking girls on the other hand want great looking guys because they have a more rose-tinted idea of what they're going to get.

What does anyone else think?

No abuse please!

very good point, cliffe-climber. I tend not to actually try it on with the lookers, at least not at first anyway, I just chat to them really naturally, and that seems to get my foot in the door. I take your opinion on board!

Some other good opinions here so far too, thanks everyone! Particularly interesting hearing the female viewpoint.

Rob C, you misunderstand me! Personality is very, very important to me. Good looking or not, it's a girl's personality that attracts me the most, I'm just curious to know why the ones I have most luck with happen to be the ones who are considered extremely physically attractive by other men (and women).

I should mention that my idea of a physically beautiful woman is an awful lot classier than you seem to think as well, and I suspect that my idea of a great woman is actually very close to yours!

Cara, is that a dig at me? While I'm not awesome looking or fabulously rich, I certainly wouldn't say I'm a loser, just an ordinary guy!

You have drawn attention to another interesting phenomenon though, that of perfectly decent women dating total losers and attempting to 'fix' them. There's fuel there for a whole other question there I think!

Answer 1

On the other hand, it may be to do with the way you approach women who you think are beyond you. When you talk to these women, you are more relaxed because you half expect to be turned down, so you're on a hiding to nothing.

When you chat with women who you think are "about my level" you might be more cautious, because it'd be quite embarrassing to be rejected by these women.

So rather than looking at the difference in the women's reaction to you, you ought to be thinking how you subconsciously treat them differently.

Answer 2

There really is no answer to this question because it puts women into hot or average looking catergories.

No one is the same. No situation is the same.

But I will give my only thoughts on it. Girls who are hot are more likely to be hit on and thus more likely to be having a lot of sex. Same as with guys. The hotter guys are getting all the sex.

So you just happen to be picking the easier targets. Even if you are just average....a bit of drinking and bam ...you got one.

But ask yourself this. Are they really the hot girls? Or are they just the sluty looking girls? Because I bet you 9 times out of ten you can take the honour law student in the back being quit and not drinking too much and throw some wild clothes on her and do her up and you would think she is the hot girl.

Also...maybe what you think of as an average girl isnt correct.
The intelligent, conservative hard to get ones are probably the ones out of your league. Not the **** in the shiny sliver skirt dancing on the bar.

Answer 3

I agree, many men are attractive, few are genuine. When I was single, I didn't trust men who are too good looking. There needs to be attraction, but the frequently most attractive men are too arrogant and self absorbed to bother with. They don't develop the interpersonal skills that many men possess. My preference has always been the king of the nerds. A cutie with brains rather than brawn. Many men are too shy to approach the most attractive women so you'll find less competition also. I'm 32 and have been out with many beautiful women. Men gravitate towards less attractive women to prevent their ego from being hurt. I people watch.

Answer 4

I think beautiful women find it harder to maintain relationships than their plainer sisters, to be honest.
Look at Kate Moss. She clings onto that no hoper Pete Doherty because she would rather be with a man than be alone, in case the general public conclude that there must be something terribly wrong with her if she doesn't have a boyfriend. She thinks it's her fault he treats her so badly, and she's desperate to change him to prove to the world that she isn't so awful after all...
This applies to a lot of beautiful women who hang out with losers, I think. The plainer girls are all walking down the aisle while the pretty girls struggle.

Answer 5

Do what I do. Give up. I'm going to be single unless a women I love throws herself at me. I'm not going to do anything anymore to try to impress any girl or try to win them over. Not gonna even try! I've had girlfriends but it's a pain in the *** to start over and find one all over again when the relationship ends. I am good looking and fun but women want every detail to be perfect, 100%!

Answer 6

I think that drop dead gorgeous women just want a simple, down-to-earth guy rather than a showmanistic pig. On the other hand, the average girl wants what the drop dead gorgeous woman could easily have, and they go through so much to get someone that will just use and abuse them 99.9% of the time.

Answer 7

Maybe its because you take time to talk to them and don't just stare at them with your tongue hanging out.
Good looking women and regular ones like to be treated nicely first and foremost. Maybe you are spot on!
Apparentley regular guys are more likely to approach a woman who is obviously out of their league on a basis they have nothing to lose, so why not .
Why do people think life is easier when you are good looking?-they have crap things happen to them and even the most stunningly gorgoeus get cheated on!
Life sucks!

Answer 8

Well, pardon my cynicism but it's also possible that great-looking women have "lower standards" because they've so often been treated so superficially ... everyone's after them because they look great, and they might just have started to base their self-esteem and how they relate to men on affirming their own sex appeal. Plainer women don't get approached as often, nor treated as special based on looks alone, so they maybe don't have an expectation that they'll be approached ... and when they get one they think, 'oh this guy is so superficial, he's coming on to me already!?' They're maybe not holding out for dreamboats, they just are looking for more substance.

Answer 9

I think it all depends on the individuals. Some are attracted to the wrong partners where as others find the right ones. Finding the right person is a game of chance!

Answer 10

well I guess you're right in someway but in my case I think good-looking guys are hard to get. I'm a pretty lady but it's hard for me to find at least an average guy. And when I find one he starts playing hard to get again...maybe something psychological...perhaps. It's really weird and interesting.
I think people shouldn't care extremely about looks. It's important, but it's not the most important characterist in a person. The inside is what really makes us happy with him/her!