I have known this guy for 4 years, he said he always wanted to ask me out. we went away for the weekend together. the thing is i wanna know if it just means sex to him.
the thing is i know that he is romantic, just he wasn't particularly with me. not in words anyway. in actions, he bought me a little present, he's trying to get me to do things with his friends more, he lent me his jacket, cuddled up with me. but most of what he says now is like 'you shagged me out. i need to recover! thanks for a great weekend babe' i was just hoping that he'd give just a tiny bit more, like 'i'm so excited' or 'your sweet' or something. i guess the fact that he's texted me a bit after counts for something, but... it sounds funny, we had a good time, i'm not sure why i'm thinking on it so much. i'm not trying to marry the guy, just would like to be more than friends who have sex.
2007-09-03 09:14:57 · 18 answers · asked by maria h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes.
2007-09-03 09:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't it suck, u can b BEST friends then u go and have sex with the guy, u were probably a little disapointed- right, anyways now hes all wigging out on u and here u've lost your best friend cause u can't talk 2 this weird-o. I think every woman over 40 has done this one. (that is unless she is a lady like my mom) My thought is he is scarded ******** because his "safe" gal friend will now be trying to get into his pockets just like all the other ones that he has sex with
2007-09-03 16:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by mman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem in a hurry, to be like the women you've seen in movies. You should be willing to marry him after you start having sex with him, if not before. Sounds like a combination of more than friends, and confused.
2007-09-03 16:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
those words are to much like **** friends. My advice is to talk to him about it. you reall need to talk to him . If he is only joking, he needs to to learn a different way to talk to you. You are not a pice of *** you are a person and sounds like he doesnt have a clue some men just lack certain things but that is over the line tell him you are confused you dont know what type of relationship he is seeking and you need to know if he says he is seeking what you are seeking tell him that is didnt seem that way by the way he was talking to you the other night say it nicely some times it takes getting to know the other perosn and how to talk to them
2007-09-03 16:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by christina b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy with the results from the fling this time, then don't do it anymore. If he asks just tell him you're into someone else. Either he will get crazy jealous and try to win you back or he'll take off. Either way you won't be feeling used.
2007-09-03 16:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool and ignore him for a while, see if he comes around. He may need some time to think about things. In the meantime, keep busy with your other friends and ignore him. He will eventually have to say something.
2007-09-03 16:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've known him for 4 years... sounds like just what you are thinking friends that have sex is his goal... but to be absolutely sure ask him, stay serious and don't let him blow you off or trivialize your feeling, you can let him know that you want more also, but i think you are right just friends.
2007-09-03 16:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't friends that had sex, you are someone he knows that he wanted to have sex with. You filled the bill at the time, now he will move on to someone else unless he can't get someone else, then he'll call again. That is why you don't have casual sex.
2007-09-03 16:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid you are getting a wake-up call----most guys are thinking one-night stand, girls are thinking relationship. I hope you have not learned a hard lesson--dont give sex right away. There is an old song, "will he love me tomorrow" (from way back , but we had to learn lessons too)---the answer is---probably not.
2007-09-03 16:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by skyward 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yepp
2007-09-03 16:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by blondenside215 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll need to tell him this....be upfront an honest. This way you're not thought of as a booty call. If he doesn't want that, then don't have sex with him anymore. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-03 16:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋