How do I get to meet decent men without going to clubs/pubs or online? Is it true that it is easier for an 80 yr old to meet men than a 40 yr old?
2007-09-03 09:14:29 · 19 answers · asked by Shady Cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in my 30's and single. I don't like the clubs/pubs either but have succombed to the online thing and actually have met some fairly decent men in my area. I think its a lot safer doing the online dating thing. You can pre-screen before actually meeting. Its a lot better. Just remember that the first time you meet an online date, make the meeting in a crowded location. Lot's of people around is much more secure rather than a secluded parking lot. Never let him pick you up at your home. And after you meet in person, if you don't feel any chemistry or if you didn't feel comfortable with him, you can always take yourself home because you have your car with you. Other than that, join a church or service club.
2007-09-03 09:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop going to clubs and bars to meet people. There are many sites, so just pick a few and u might find someone online. I hear people have met on here, and some haVe worked out. U never know unless u try. It's best to start off as friends anyway. OH, as for ur comment, maybe,because 80yr olds figure, they don't have much to loose, so they live like they were dying, and sometimes they get a catch. The way the guy sees it, they'll only live twenty years tops, then he can go and find a younger girl, and have all money to play with. OR, well, old women in nursing homes find younger men in nursing homes. There's easy access there.
2007-09-03 09:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really in the same situation. I am single since I lost my husband in 2005. I am not interested in an intimate or committed relationship yet, but a great friend for a companion and to go out with would be great. I don't want the computer stuff either, you don't know what you are getting into,Everyone at church is married too, or way to old or way to young.
This is a small town and most are married and have families or wild as hell.
Nobody ever knows when they maybe come single again, like I did. But to just have someone would be a super help
I am 53 and have physical problems, but I can do things and get around fine. I would like some fun and enjoyment.
2007-09-03 09:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over 40 and single? Yes. You'd be suprised what I think abou it. You can go to restuarants (there might be a guy, whose at least curious about you, waiting for a table, standing in back of you), public events, the cinema's foyer, or even one of the pizza parlours. As for the third question, I doubt it. I'm a good, decent guy, by the way. And at this time, I always drive a green car.
2007-09-03 09:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best of luck to you.........I agree with you, you're not going to find a decent man at a club, pub, or online. I know a lot of people go to malls to meet people, or you can even try Wal-Mart. Just be careful, and again, best of luck to you.
2007-09-03 09:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
join clubs an go out wwhere there would be that age group churches have groups for that and other clubs. even check on the internet for clubs in that age group. That is an excelent question. uI hoe you find some group where you can meet someone
2007-09-03 09:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by John W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably one way is to stop -wanting- to meet people for a date or a relationship for the moment - but try to connect with people with whom you can exchange something of mutual interest - just for example, using a site like - couchsurfing.com which is not a -dating- site, but a site for decent people to connect with others. Then just let relationships develop and watch them as they happen! In my humble experience, not trying to be in a relationship and just trying to give whatever you can to people in a no-returns-expected way rains relationships on you! Although your mileage may vary ...
my 2 cents
regards,
Keshav
2007-09-03 09:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well online is the best methoed. Although, its harder at 40 gravity has taken its toll but not al hope is lost. Church is great for that they have the singles club there or you can join a singles club out of church as well go to google and do a search.
good luck
2007-09-03 09:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by christina b 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Miss Shadey Cat, Ditto hon ! I am one but I am an old fashioned gentleman who is a disabled shut in and you are confirming what I have been hearing ! Sounds pretty sad and scarey ! Sweety I will pray for Jesus to put before you your soul mate who will love you for all eternity !
2007-09-03 09:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am over 40 and single. I love it!
2007-09-03 09:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋