are no commitments of staying to gether between us.Now a days I am obsessed as i frequently call him up knowing he is at his workplace or at home.He doesnt reply always but just once a while.We often had physical relations and he comes to see me often at my place.Though physically i dont expect much from him i feel like seeing him often which he fears as he knows ill be leaving to settle in US within few years .He says its painful to part so with this reason he wants to avoid getting close to me.I love him a lot and i want to help him without any expectations as he works with the bank and he hails from a middle class family.I am confused as i am too attached to him and i dont want t him to avoid seeing me or talking to me.I have two kids a daughter who is 22 and a son who is 15 and i am a divorcee
2007-09-03 08:33:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you say makes no sense. First you say no committments. Then you say he's married. THAT is a committment, which does not involve you. It does NOT sound as tho you have any future in this. Why would you put yourself in such a heart breaking situation as this??? And what kind of example are you setting for your daughter and son?
Please, think hard about what you are doing to yourself.
HE is NOT worth your time.........
2007-09-03 08:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
I cant put this any other way. I mean no harm. Wake up and smell the coffee. He's doing nothing but getting his cake and eating it for free. He has no intentions of of leaving his family for you. It's just a booty call. He's cheating on his wife, and his family too. Yes your playing a part in it too, because your letting him get away with it. Your also hurting your 15 yr. old. He may be around for a long time, then again he may not. But he's not going to leave his wife and family. If you want that kind of relasionship with no love in it, and letting yoru 15yr old see this (which is sad) then by all means continue, but that isn't being a very good role modle....so stop, and learn from your mistake. There are men out there that are not married, and that are looking for single women. Hes not the only guy in the world, and you deserve better. Someone thats single, and dont have baggage.
Good luck
Alabama
2007-09-03 08:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by James R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it REALLY odd that you love Mike more than you son ... But anyways ... You have to realize that you haven't just ruined your own life , you've ruined 4. 1. Your own 2. Mike's 3. Mike's parents 4. Your son's You have to realize what you've done to everyone and how you've "corrupted" their lives in a way . Mike can't go to college and lost a friend , his parents are disgraced and your son is obviously torn for life because his mom just fell in love with his best friend . I strongly suggest ending things with Mike . It will hurt , but you shouldn't let one person ruin so many others . If Mike loves you back that much , you two can TRY living on your own . Both of you should get jobs and work to pay off Mike's last year of college . This is a really hard situation . What will you do about Mikes family too ? Will they not be disgraced for life if you two get married ? I know nothing should stand in the way of love , But this situation is just too corrupted , nothing can happen without something bad happening in return . In the end , it's your choice ( and Mikes ) . End it or live with guilt GL ♥
2016-05-20 04:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for this reply. That said,There is no fool like a old fool.You are a fool.He is using you for sex.He doesn't have to take you out.There is no motel bills.You are a non profit prostitute.There is no feeling of love for you,what he feels is lust for a easy screw.We haven't even got into the age.You are old enough to be his mother.What do you thank your son would think about you when he finds out.He will find out,because you are not going to give up your young lover so easy and you will do something foolish and the whole world will find out.You are so wrong to think he will pick you,a middle age woman,over his secure life.I know you will not listen when I tell you to drop this sick affair.Think of your children,and your dignity and get out now while you can with out them ever knowing about your selfish affair with a young married man.
2007-09-03 08:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your having an affair with a 29 year old married young man and are wondering why it may not work out?Most mistresses get left for the wife and or ,another woman.Perhaps you are going through a mid life crisis.Maybe the reason you want him so much is because he belongs to someone else.Do your children and yourself a favor. Move on with your life and find someone who is loving and available not only to you but your children as well.It isn,t okay to date married men,your children should learn this as well.
2007-09-03 08:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married, so you're the other woman. But is he happily married? And how old is his wife? I think the reason he fails to reply when you call, is she's home. Or he's busy at work. Believe me, madam, you're in love with him, and he's trying to be careful. And even though your thought is in the right place, your heart seems to be on the wrong man.
2007-09-03 08:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm this younger man makes you feel desired, attractive and loved, but it's a fallacy I'd say. I'd break it off immediately. It can't go anywhere and sleeping with someone else's man is bad karma. Find someone else. There are plenty of hot 29 year old that can make you feel special. Real love is love that protects eachother's hearts. Neither of you are doing this.
2007-09-03 08:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him alone. He's married & since you see the distress you're causing yourself, instead of figuring out how to help him or be so open to help him..turn the energy around and help yourself by getting over him and knowing that you can't have him. What's the point in being in love with someone who is already married & you know you can't have them? It's unhealthy to put yourself in that situation..You need to really pull back as painful as it is..the best way to help him is to respect his marriage.
2007-09-03 08:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewww gross. I just got a mental picture of what the kids wife must look like if he is cheating on her with a really old senior citizen.
2007-09-03 08:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he is married darling do not waste your time. he is not gonna leave his wiffe for you . even if he does the pain that his wife will go through it is gonna come back to you. i know you said you love him but these toyboy lovers are not very serious with life please stop fooling yourself, you do not want your daughter to be in a marriage where her hubband is cheating on her do you? as long as you know that what goes around comes around
2007-09-03 08:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋