I feel i dont have anything in life.Im 16 and i have lil mentally challenged bro and almost my whole life i have been taking care of him.Not just that,some how im not able to make friends or make anyone like me.Like how some people talk alot and then people want to be around them.This happens occasionaly but whenever we have a prayer meeting or something im always in the room with my bro and whenever someone(like my cousins)try to talk to me im not able to talk.And thats why no one wish to be around me or wanna be friends with me.I feel horrible because i dont have anyone in life to look up to.My family doesnt treat me right,i dont have any friends,nor have i ever dated a guy.I mean i dont know what im doing wrong or what im being punished for i mean i takecare of my lil bro i doo soo much for him why cant i not have a good,normal life?I pray everyday and yes im very relegious.But i cant understand why bad things happen with good people?I VERY depressed and dont know what do to.And this that i told u is not all theres alot more in my life i can tell.
2007-09-03 08:31:41 · 12 answers · asked by BlossomMe 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just ask God why did he even brought me into this world when i was meant to be treated like this? : (
Can someone please help me....im broking...i dont know what to do?
2007-09-03 08:37:09 · update #1
Sixteen is a tough age for a lot of people, regardless of circumstances. You're almost an adult but not able to be on your own yet. You are doing a good thing taking care of your brother and God will bless you for it. I think you're a little shy but you'll grow out of it. I'm sorry about your family, but remember, you'll be able to get out on your own in a couple of years and get a job and things will definitely improve then. And you will have friends. Keep praying and trusting in the Lord Jesus Christ. Read your Bible, especially the New Testament, Proverbs, and Psalms. There is so much to learn in Proverbs. You say you are religious, but do you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ? Have you ever invited him into your life? I will pray for you. I think God has a wonderful plan for your life. But in the meantime, you need to honor your parents and try to keep a good attitude. The good thing about trials is that they end. Try to be patient. God really loves you. God bless you.
2007-09-03 08:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to take care of your brother all the time . That is just not right. In fact its a form of child abuse when a child has to look after an ill and mentally challenged brother.. Can you talk to a school counciler? You need a break from that kind of stress. Tell a teacher or your pastor. Tell them a lady on the internet told you to talk to them because you need help. I wish you well, hang in there. Iam going to pray for you right now.
2007-09-03 09:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you can't talk when your brother is around, but you don't say why. And why do you say your family doesn't "treat you right"? Perhaps you feel like your brother gets too much attention? It's sad, but it's normal for a family to spend all of its energy on the child that needs the most attention and have little left for those who don't need as much.
There are lots of kids in your situation. Try going online and finding a support group for siblings of special needs children, I'm sure you'll find the support you need.
Good luck!
2007-09-03 08:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Reileah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((HUG)))
Oh, sweetie, I wish I could give you a hug for real.
Without observing your situation, I really don't have any answers for you. All I can tell you is that you WILL have the opportunity to break free one day, and be the beautiful person that you are.
Be patient, and be ready, and above all, be brave. It will take a great deal of courage to break free when the chance comes. In the meantime, find a role model, someone who's accomplishments you admire. Think of ways you can do the things you want to do. Make plans. Have dreams.
You might try bringing this up to your parents. It sounds to me like they rely on you so much to take care of your brother, they've forgotton that you have needs, too. Try enlightening them After all, what have you got to lose?
Good luck, and blessed be.
2007-09-03 08:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are a little bit broken.
Shyness is common and can be hard to overcome.
I think that because you have taken care of your brother for so long that you have become accustomed to that lifestyle and are now afraid to step out of it.
The first step for you is going to be courage. Say your prayers and ask for courage. Courage to step outside the little box you have put yourself in.
Once you have that I am sure that you will find that dealing with others will become easier.
This is not your fault. You have been put in an unenviable situation and now you are owning it. Loving your brother is one thing, becoming his primary care giver is another.
Somewhere in here you have to find out who your are. What is it that you like and dislike and you need to talk to your parents about being a person in your own right and not your brothers keeper..
I think that once you find the confidence you need, you will find that people, religious or not, will come to you. You just have to make yourself available to them. Do not be closed off to meeting others.
Your cousins are a good place to start. Ask them for advice. Ask them to help you. Ask them to take you places where you can see and experience other things in life.
All of this must be without your brother of course.
All is not lost and don't give up hope.
You have to have faith in yourself as a person. It is all about loving you first and allowing yourself the chance to grow as a person.
I wish you well.
2007-09-03 08:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God bless you! I hope and pray that you live with parents or at least a guardian. First, don't give up hope. We go through things in our life that at first seem like God is against us. God just wants to strengthen our faith. Keep on praying and talking to Him. Secondly, talk to people while you are taking care of your brother. If you have to, ask someone to help you with what you are doing. Lastly, don't be "religious". Have a relationship with God, the creator of the universe. He does care for you. He wants you to talk to Him everyday. He loves you. Maybe you are the only one that can take care of your little brother the way he needs to be taken care of. He needs you. Possibly more than you know. Keep going in your faith. Keep on loving God and talking to Him. He will reward you someday. That someday maybe the day that you see HIm in Heaven, but that day will come.
2007-09-03 08:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by brotherzbob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't know your home situation or your parents ability to provide other care for your brother.
It seems like you need to express to your parents that you want to be able to have time away from your brother. It is not cool that they do not see your needs and help you as much as you seem to help your brother.
If the situation is that you are expected to be with your brother 24/7 that is unfair. Your parents should accept responsibility....he is their child, not yours.
If they are so selfish that they don't help you....use the love and kindness you show your brother to shape the amazing woman you will become.
In two years you will be legally able to make your own choices.
If your parents are abusing you in any way call 911.
2007-09-03 08:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by universatile love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is really something bad to think like that you are so negative in your way of thinking in the manner how you look to the world also i notice that you are not self confident u think that no one likes you or cares for you it is not true you can start from your family try to build close and strong relationship i don't think that there is parents in the world that hate their child try to be strong and come over this be your self go ahead and u'll find something common between u and the othres or even try to creat it
2007-09-04 23:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create Your Relationship with Our Creator
and have UnConditional Love and Peace in Your Life.
2007-09-03 08:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back when I was your age and stressed and depressed, someone gave me this prayer. Even without knowing it was a prayer, it made me feel better:
Thy name is my healing, O my God, and remembrance of Thee is my remedy. Nearness to Thee is my hope, and love for Thee is my companion. Thy mercy to me is my healing and my succor in both this world and the world to come. Thou, verily, art the All-Bountiful, the All-Knowing, the All-Wise.
- Bahá'u'lláh
(Compilations, Baha'i Prayers, p. 85)
God bless!
2007-09-03 08:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by world_gypsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋