What do We Do about my 8 year old step daughter and visitation.?

Question

When my husband was 16 he got his first love pregnant. it was his first time having adult relations. She got pregnant his daughter was born when he was just 2 weeks into his 17th birthday. his ex was 19. her own family said htat she just wanted to have a baby. then a year later she broke it off with him. He had to visit his daughter at the mothers house who lived with her parents. he asked to take his daughter but his ex refused. so he just continued to visit at the mothers untill his daughter was 5 then we were finally able to bring her to our house. every thing was good for a while untill I had a baby we have been married for 4 years and together about 7 his daughter is now 8. Now she doesnt even call him dad she calls her step dad dad and is afraid to make him mad. they dont want her coming to our house but we think that it is important to be consistant this past summer we took her to court and have all the state guided visitation. her mom doesnt want him to be in the picture. help

Answer 1

Well, my theme for today is...take the POWER out of the relationship and resolve it in this case for the child. She needs to know her father and she has that right. The fight is going on between adults who have opinions and are attempting to assert their own power as if it were a chess match that they are trying to win. That's wrong, because it's not about anyone winning except the kid. See if you can get all the adults together, for tea, or coffee, or dinner, or whatever, and have a conversation with an agreement that there will be no yelling and no interupting, and find a way to work this out with the child in mind, not themselves and their opinions of the other adults at the table. If you don't resolve this among yourselves, no court will be able to provide a peaceful situation, they will only impose a "winner" so to speak, and it won't be the kid.

Answer 2

Well as far as the ex, she has no choice. Your husband is the father and he has rights to his child. To have his daughter not even acknowledge him as her father and call him "step dad" is horrible not to mention not to get him mad. The poor needs counseling. Now that your husband is more active and has court visitation make sure he gets involved with her schooling and doctor's. As far as the ex, she has to deal with it and if she doesn't go by the court order, take her to court for contempt.

Answer 3

that's somewhat unusual and beside the point habit for a father at that age. maximum adult men are hesitant to alter a diaper, no longer to show wipe a newborn's rear after the age of two. The exposure to such issues is going previous the scope of the sanitized how toddlers are made talk maximum human beings get at that age. My parents advised me at age 4 that infants do no longer come from the stork yet my mom became pregnant on the time and that they did no longer desire me believing some fairy tale. document each little thing and take your daughter to work out a newborn psychologist, therapist or authorized scientific Social worker to work out in the event that they are in a position to get her to talk approximately what's quite happening. She's performing out for a reason that she's probable afraid to talk approximately. i do no longer mean to scare you yet she ought to no longer be telling you each little thing. The court docket could ought to get entangled by way of some style of supervised visitation if this is going on, based upon the severity. i could somewhat have your lawyer push for supervised visitation in easy of what's happening. that's no longer desirable and its negatively effecting your daughter.

Answer 4

Your husband needs to talk to a lawyer. Parenting laws differ from state to state and a lawyer from your state would know which legal steps your husband could take.

Answer 5

you and your husband doing great.
just support her and talk to ex very well.
both of you have child and we are doing great. we just want to meet step daughter and dont want anymore.
if she doesnt stop doing funny thing, you and your husband better think about court order.