Sibling rivalry...?

Question

My brother and i are constantly fighting. He is younger than i am, will it get better when we are older??

He and i are 8 years apart. If that helps.

Answer 1

Generally, siblings get along well together as they have grown-up and matured. But this doesn't imply that everything has to be serious between them all the time. Yes, your bro might still be a clever prankster but it's just the way he is. You did not specify what things are you fighting about. If it is just a mere petty thing like who gets to go on the computer or use the phone then don't worry about it. In time, the two of you (I am sure) will come to a realization and eventually understand that you will have to give each other the opportunity of fairness. But if you two start fighting about serious things now -- such as for your parents' affectons or are hurting the entire family by turning everyone against each other -- then this is NOT a healthy practice. Remember, if you sow the seeds of evil now, you will come to regret it later in life. That's what I'm learning now and I still continue to learn to appreciate my younger bro even though he is a prick really. Sometimes it just takes an effort of cooperation on both your parts and maybe your parents' / guardians' parts to fix the knot. I hope you got through what I've said and good luck with your situation.

Answer 2

give it time he is just a little brother who loves to get into his older sisters life. Most boys do when they are younger and they feel that they should look out for you even if that is showing love be harassing you. Things will get better i have an older brother and has we have gotten older we have become best friends. Hang in there im sure things will become better just remember never stab your brother in the back when it comes to your parents when you are older he could be the one who helps you get away with stuff haha Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, usually it ends up getting better, but not always. So that's why you want to be careful that this doesn't deteriorate into outright animosity, because depending on other issues it's possible it could be a life-long thing. If you two can have a civil conversation, grab him and try to get an agreement that you will stop this. If you fight over resources, organize the resources by time or one day he gets it, then next day you do, no questions asked. Take the POWER out of the relationship and organize it.

Answer 4

Your brother is going to do whatever it takes to get attention and that is normal for all kid brothers. He will naturally act-out to get his way. The only thing you can do is tell him, "Look, if you are going to act that way, I don't care to put up with you! I will only be around you if you behave and be nice." Then walk away... go to your room or go for a walk around the block to blow off the stress. If you refuse to get baited into his game, he will eventually get the idea.
A walk around the block is generally a good idea in any pressure-cooker situation. It will help you to keep from transferring that stress into other situations like school.
You can also offer the carrot-and-stick approach... we've just gone over the "stick". You can also "reward" her in some way... perhaps play a game with him or take him somewhere or something like that.

Answer 5

I seriously doubt it, I've wondered the same thing because my brother and i do it too. but I look at my dad and his siblings and there all really good friends and I've never seen them fight. But you'll probably frow out of the arguing when you get older and move out of the house. Its probably just the spending every waking minute together can get to you

Answer 6

You can only hope so. It depends on a lot of things like how old you are now and how much of a gap there is between you. Generally speaking with Age comes Maturity so you'll probably stop fighting... but there's always those few people who never really "grow up"

Answer 7

some sibling rivalry is normal as children. I am one of 6 kids and we were monsters as kids physical fights and now most of us are pretty close. we would do any thing for each other. I love them and know that they love me. just pick your battles. think about how important the point you need to get across is and dont cross any boundries.

Answer 8

it will definetly get better when youre older. my parents used to fight all the time with theyre siblings, now their best friends.

and im currently going threw sibling rivalry as well, so don't worry about it. once you get older, everything will be perfect [=

Answer 9

Yep. Im still having a little trouble with my brothers but now its at least better than before. Little bros usaully get better caus they get older and learn (and dont care about things as much)
Just try to survive it now, and youll soon be free....

Answer 10

I have a sister who is 14 months younger than me. Growing up, we fought all the time (we also played together), but yes, as you get older, you will outgrow it and become more allies than enemies.