Hi my boyfriend of 3 months is 19 and I'm 17. I'm about to visit him at college in a few weeks with my sister, and I know we're going to have alone time and make out like we usually do but I know he's had sex before. He knows I'm waiting to have sex with HIM but I don't think he knows I'm very much a virgin. Like I've never even touched one lol. He finds me really attractive and I think he's in for a surprise. I'm freaked out I'll freak him out. What do I tell him? Will it turn him off?
2007-09-03 08:15:23 · 27 answers · asked by caliblonde100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
17 will get him 15-20 in the slammer. Sorry, but it's true. If he were smart he'd wait until you're 18...
2007-09-03 08:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by squidward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a pro...then u a virgin or not he will just have sex and have his fill...from what you say...he is promiscuous and I would not suggest u to ever give in to him...this is because for him you are a sex object and not anything more...unless you are really desperate...
Another thing is being a virgin is nothing wrong...it will be a bit of surprise but someone who loves you will take you very delicately and have sex in a manner that you will love it rather than be hurt...
Most virgin girls pretend they had the best first sex...for that matter most girls pretend that...but unfortunately it is only a handful who are lucky...having sex is not about putting the male penis into the vagina...but it is about the experience...so think over if ever you want to enjoy it the right way ....may take time...but never too late....
A word of advice at all times ensure that this guy has got a condom...because if he has had sex before...god knows with how many ...and who knows how healthy his habits are as u can end up contracting anyone of AIDS/HIV/Vaginitis/Chlymida/Syphilus or even all....just be safe...
2007-09-03 15:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rony Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same issue a while back - my boyfriend never even considered that i may be a virgin, and i didn't want to tell him, because, for some reason, i felt embarassed to admit that i'd had no experience.. So we ended up doing it without me telling him, and i bled.. He got panicked, thinking he'd hurt me, until i admitted that i'd been a virgin! He was actually fairly mad that i hadn't told him.. I think most guys like the idea they're going to be the one to take a girl's virginity, and i think he wished he had known beforehand. I dont think its anything to be embarassed about, i think it turns guys on even more when they know they'll be taking the lead! Or else whats the preoccupation with women dressing as school girls?! Lol.
2007-09-03 15:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Libra ♎ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend of 3 months... and he doesn't know you're a virgin? lol. It's okay... just tell him.
Some guys aren't turned off by the fact that girls are virgins. It means they're "untouched". loool!
And I'm sure he'd be happy to give you experience! haha...
But anyways, if it gets to the point where he's asking for sex, then just leave him... And if he's waiting for you to give up your virginity to HIM, then that's kinda creepy... You should be able to do whatever you want with it. Maybe you would rather wait til after marriage...
oh whatever. lol. JUST BE SAFE!!!!!!! and know the consequences.
2007-09-03 15:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by PaperHeart59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to realize is if your parents would find out about you 2 having sex, they could bring charges against your boyfriend because he is over the age of 18 and you are under the age of 18.
It can cost him alot of problems.
But if I can't talk you out of it, then you need to just talk to him about this before you 2 are together.
Let him know you are nervous, then that way he will expect you to be.
You should be, being that you are a virgin.
Even men are nervous their first few times, even with someone new.
Just talk to him, but be mature about this and make sure you are being smart and using birth control.
That way you are protecting yourself and you're protecting him (by you not getting pregnant).
2007-09-03 15:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay a virgin. obviouly if he has done it before he doesn't care about a serious relationship and as soon as you are done he will move on to the next girl and do you want to get pregnant and have no father or get HIV or AIDS? no so stay a virgin and find someone else. Wait until marriage. It will be worth the wait and more enjoyable because you both made the commitment.
2007-09-03 15:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Master of Alternate Dimensions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you tell him you're a virgin, there's a strong likelihood that he'll never realise. (And bare in mind that even if he does, it's DEFINITELY not a turn off.) As a matter of fact, studies show that generally speaking, men PREFER having sex with a virgin; they enjoy 'deflowering' a girl so to speak. Sure you may be lacking a bit of experience, but that shouldn't matter. Just enjoy it! Best of luck.
2007-09-03 15:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth and hope that it does turn him off so that he won't wanna have sex with you. If you want to wait then do so, if he doesn't then get with a guy who will accept that. Because if he can't wait he will sleep with someone else anyway and if you do have sex with him, what if you decide to stop? Then he's going to just get with someone who will give it to him and nowadays a lot of women are more available than a cup of water.
2007-09-03 15:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Survivor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him the truth, you very much want him to be gentle. Some guys find it a big turn on to show you how to pleasure them and where to put your hand, plus if he loves you he will be very flattered that you waited for him. If he freaks out, he's probably afraid of the pressure.
2007-09-03 15:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No actually it will turn him on. Just don't do anything that you don't want to do. Make sure that you do let him know the experience that you do have, even if you don't have none because you have to give him a heads up on what he is getting himself into. Also one thing you are going to be nervous but let thing flow and be as calm as possible because the more nervous you are the more that you will not want to do it. Good luck!
2007-09-03 15:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋