my boyfriend dumped me at the beginning of august and i still can't get over him. I miss him so much. he was so good to me and he treated me so great. i just cant get over him. everytime i hear his name or hear his voice or see him, it just breaks my heart. him and i are still good friends but how can i get over him and move on? i really liked him. thanks in advance.
2007-09-03 07:54:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he just wanted to be single.
2007-09-03 08:02:11 · update #1
no, i never dumped him.
2007-09-03 08:03:54 · update #2
It just might help you if you tried to avoid running into him, going to "familiar" places, doing things that would bring back memories of him to mind. Every time you do any of these things, you're "setting yourself up" for hurt! So instead of "asking for hurt" avoid it. You have to worry about you & your feelings. You have to set yourself apart complete from him. He's the one who broke things up, he's the one & everything connected to him that you want to put in the past of your life today. You're going FORWARD...By doing this, you're going to have to put the past in the past, leave it there, & start a whole new beginning. Why do you have to even stay friends w/him. You know it's not going to get you anywhere, not going to make things better for you. That's just hurting YOU. Until you break that cord of involvement w/him completely, it's just going to keep yanking on your heart strings. Think about it. YOU stop hurting YOU. You've got to get him out of your life completely in order to be able to think of other things, even think about starting a new beginning. You deserve better. Why should he still get your "respect" of even befriending him. He sure didn't show you respect when he decided he wanted to move on, he wanted to be free, by getting rid of you, gave him HIS freedom to do what he wants to do. Now it's YOUR turn to be free of him to be able to do things for YOU. Turn things around & look at them in a different lite. HE wanted his freedom, you were keeping him from having it. What did he do? Got rid of you. Gather up your self respect & let go of him once & for all. You certainly deserve better than that. Yea, he treated you great - that was past tense. That was then, this is now. Stand up for yourself & make up your mind you deserve someone who really wants you for you. Someone who w/not suddenly want his freedom & you just weren't a part of the future he wanted. I was married for 16 yrs. My husband "suddenly" didn't want to be married any more! He wanted to be free to "hang out" with who he wanted to, which didn't include me. I overcame that & all because I realized I was worth more than a "has been". Do the same thing. Start over & see if you don't make out even better than you can even imagine you would. There are bigger & better things out there for YOU. GO GET THEM..I KNOW you can do it. Just make up your mind. But, definately cut that string you're holding on to because it slowly is becoming a thread. Look ahead, not back & KNOW you're going to be OK & even better than you were before. Good luck to you, & I KNOW you CAN do it...
2007-09-03 09:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Sorry about him breaking up with
you first off all - that sucks and I know how
that feels. If you guys are still friends that's
great, because it shows that your friendship
can withstand some thing not all friendships
can do.
But to get over some one it isn't always so
easy. By spending time with him as friends,
that might be a set back on moving on.
I'm not saying you should stop being friends
with him, but you ought to spend your time
doing things that make you happy that don't
pertain to your relationship with him. Put away
all the things that remind you of him and don't
look at them. Anything in your life that reminds
you of him - just avoid it. Even the guy himself -
try not to spend so much time with him (I know,
hard, right?)...still be his friend if that's what you
want but try not to spend a lot of time with him.
Seriously - hang out with your girlfriends and
do things with other girls and guys. Make more
guy friends: they're a lot of fun to just hang out
with. Think of things you couldn't do when you
were in a relationship and maybe go out and
do those things...there may be freedoms you
never knew about.
I really hope you move on. It's a good feeling
to have. And just keep in mind that the best
part of breaking up is that there is still some one
out there for you to find.
2007-09-03 15:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wonderland Extremity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the exact same position. My BF dumped me at the beginning of august also and I am still going crazy over it. The only thing that will help is time and having good friends to talk to. I also Try and keep busy so i don't think about him as much.
2007-09-03 15:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it really gets you that much.. you should definitely stop seeing him altogether. I just got dumped back in July. Trust me the best thing you can do is cut off all contact with him. It's the only way to move on. I found that out the hard way.. and I'm still not over him.
2007-09-03 14:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like it'll take some time, but try hanging out with other friends more often, meet different people. Just ry to get him out of your head. Why don't you focus on YOU and what YOU deserve. They say you shouldn't cry over someone who wouldn't cry over you, and that you shouldn't love the heart that hurts you, and hurt the heart that loves you.
Good luck with everything.
2007-09-03 15:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by The Don 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why he dumped you?There is reason for him to change especially when you are sayign he used to be nice to you. is there still space where u can ask and request him at least for normal friendship? Although he dumped u, you never dumped him yes? then why dont you call him and be in touch with him.
2007-09-03 15:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it may take not seeing him to get over him. I know you want to remain friends, but it makes it 10X worse when you still see the person because it reopens the heart break every time. It's going to be even harder when he finds someone else. Have you ever heard the saying..."The hardest thing you can do is watch someone you love, love someone else?" It's true.
2007-09-03 15:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait he dumped you? Why? That's backwards usually the girl dumps the sweet guys! Well I'd say talk to him and just tell him how you feel, drop all pride or fears or whatever it is that might hold you back and tell him!
2007-09-03 15:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just flirting with other guys and having parties or whatever alot just try to keep him outta your head for a couple weeks look at other guys and just think to yourself "oh hes kinda cute" get back out there there are alot of people who probably think your a great catch and want you to date them so just ask yourself does he really love me if he dumped me???
2007-09-03 15:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by devilschild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be logical If he was so good then how come he dumped you?It is your past tense,a closed chapter.Don't try to open it again.
Hang out with other boys,if possible in front of him.it always works.
2007-09-03 15:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by loverofSEV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋