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sign of low selfestem ? And how do I get myself to feel comfortable around people who make me feel like that?. I use to not show up for family events. but now I do because I feel everyones getting up there in age. but not the whole family is like that. Sometimes I wonder if its all in my head or not? its just so hard to explain I need advice if anybody could figure this out.lol

2007-09-03 06:51:46 · 10 answers · asked by jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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you probably just dont feel comfy round them. if you havent known them for long, then prob. if you've known them all your life, then find something you have in common with all of them

2007-09-03 06:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by ily<33 2 · 0 0

I don't think that you are as much of an 'outcast' but not close and familiar due to your earlier absences from family events.

Establishing relationships now will be a little more difficult as I think they see you as an 'unknown' person, perhaps a little confused as to your sudden appearance.

Just continue attending the events, they will come around eventually, but it may take a little time. Some may eventually ask you where you have been for so long? Get ready with some answers.

Hang in there.

2007-09-03 13:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0 0

I have been shy my whole life and it took me a long time to get comfortable around my mom's family. I never knew my dad's family because they live so far away. Now that I am grown, I can talk to my mom's family like I see them every day. For some people it just takes time to get to know someone.

2007-09-03 14:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0 0

I know that feeling except it's my step mom's family I feel like they don't accept me because I'm from my dad's old life from his first wife my mom, I most of the time don't go just becuase there really nice to my younger sister, but we have the same mom my dad's first wife, so I don't get it. What i might do is tell your parents or dad about it and see what he says knwone should feel like an outcast w/ their family!!!! I would go to the events and try and make converstaion or something just to show taht your trying especially if one of your parents is watching it because maybe they hadn't noticed until you pointed it out, good luck!!!!

2007-09-03 13:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by Luckyboo8 2 · 0 0

You are very likely not imagining things. Family can be a very weird thing. Sometimes family can be the best thing in your life and sometimes family sucks.
Trust your instinct. Don't simply like people out of family obligation. If family members aren't nice to you, spend as little time with them as you can. Pop your head in, say hi, and then go spend the rest of the day with someone who you enjoy being with. Even if they are family, life is too sort to spend it with people who are not nice to you.
I'm in the same boat. I am a weird but nice person, but most of my relatives can't see past the "weird" so they can't bother to say "hi" to me. I'm done reaching out to them. I spent too many of my years trying to stay in touch. If they want to check in on my existence, that's up to them but I won't hold my breath. I now spend my time with people who appreciate me. Yes, it hurts that most of my family members brush me off, but I let it be their problem, rather than mine.

2007-09-03 14:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0 0

Its sad to say but it seems that most of the time children or closer to their mother's side of the family. I doubt they have anything against you. Maybe they just don't know you that well.

2007-09-03 13:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Red 2 · 0 0

well I can answer about feeling like an outcast on ure dad's side of the family. bcuz my mother's side of the family hates my dad. and I'm alot like my dad so that means they pretty much hate me. well atleast my grandpa. but anyways wat u should do is u should maybe tell ure dad about wat his side of the family feels like to u and discuss ways to fix it. and i know it mite seem like an easy thing 4 me to say but I held in all my feelings and then wen i told my mom it really helped me alot. It could be in ure head or it could not. ask ure dad's opinion and see wat he says. but if u feel strongly about this then i probably think it's not in ure head. and if none of that stuff works then try to discuss similar and particular things with that side of the family that is to there interest.

- I really hope I could help :)

2007-09-03 14:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by soccercutie 1 · 0 0

Be true to yourself. Can you look in the mirror everyday and be ok with who you are? If so, don't let the feeling get your down. You can't pick your family so you must accept them for who they are.

2007-09-03 13:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Njtex 1 · 0 0

there has to be more to this story. does your father's side not like your mom or your mom's side of the family? is it a cultural difference or maybe a religious difference? it sounds like they're projecting their issues onto you.

2007-09-03 13:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0 0

You might not be imagining it. It's possible that the family is cold and subtely rude.

2007-09-03 13:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Infield Girl (Austin, TX) 1 · 1 0

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