My daughter has been bugging me since she was 13 to let her go with like 8 other friends , do you think i should let her?
2007-09-03 06:01:43 · 21 answers · asked by tots and fries 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If she is a responsible young adult, absolutely!
2007-09-03 07:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Alice 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My kids aren't old enough to deal with this yet, but I'll tell you what my sister's restrictions were for my 13 year old niece. 1: She must be with a group of friends, never alone. 2: My sister must have met all of the friends that will be attending. 3: She must be transported there and home by a parent that my sister knows.
4: She must be home by 8pm.
5: She must call home immediately if there is any deviation from the plan. (for example if a different parent is driving them home, or they decide to see a movie instead.)
These are their rules, and it must be known that my niece is a reliable, smart girl who can be trusted to follow the rules. They also live in a fairly small suburb. (I wouldn't let a kid go to a large metropolitan mall at that age.) There should be no reason that a kid that age can't go with her friends if there are some firm ground rules set up, and you can trust her to follow them, even when she isn't under surveillance.
2007-09-04 01:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the day yes, weekend nights, no. Perverted older guys tend to stalk the malls at those times because they know young girls will be there. Even when she goes during the day though make sure she has a cell phone to reach you, or even better you or one of the other mothers should be at the mall too, not with them, but mabye catch a movie or some lunch.
2007-09-03 13:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you live in a small town, yes, let her go. Drop her off and pick her up, make sure you know her friends, give her a time limit, or even go along with her, just keep yourself at the other end of the mall.
If you live in a big city, no, don't let her do it.
2007-09-07 11:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by angielynn219 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Yes I think you should let you daughter go with her friends to the mall because if you don't she will probably feel left out.
But I would advise her that if she doesn't behave or she doesn't do what you say she will not be allowed to go again
I know parents worry about their children it's only normal, but
you have to let them grow up. I hope this helps
2007-09-06 12:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by snowbirdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the last day of school two years ago when I was in 9th grade I went to the mall with a few people and I just turned 15 when we went.
2007-09-03 15:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if they are supervised with an adult 18 or older.
Many shopping malls now have rules requiring anyone under 18 be with an adult. This started because many younger kids where missing school, and causing trouble.
2007-09-03 14:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you go to the mall for a couple of hours of browsing and she and her friends hung out while you shopped, no problem.
I don't think she needs to just hang out there without a parent in the building.
I do think you might encourage her to invite her friends to hang out at your place.
Also, you might try to plan some outings with her and her friends. Ask her about activities & things they might enjoy that don't cost an arm and a leg. Get a good gaming system for them to play at your house......
2007-09-03 13:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes but only if she is responsible. My mom says I can go when I'm in eighth grade, but I'm not allowed to go just to hang out around the food court [ where the weirdos are] I actually have to shop.
2007-09-03 16:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah if your daughter is mature enough (your own personal call on that one) I'd let her. I did at age 14, probably 13 even
2007-09-03 13:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes I was aloud to go to the mall with friends since I was 11
2007-09-03 13:21:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋