I know for sure that I've loved sincerely only once in this lifetime. As a paradox, since then I have no problem seducing women and getting them into bed, but soon I get very bored and I dump them, hurting both them and me. On the other hand, just the idea of not having a girlfriend drives me wild, and I go round in this vicious circle. I am 23 and the relation I mentioned ended about six months ago (lasting about an year).
2007-09-03 05:40:53 · 21 answers · asked by blind_crusader 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start by loving yourself. Not to be confused with worshiping yourself. If a parent loves a child they will guide them and discipline them. This is what you will need to do for yourself. Quit giving yourself away so easily. You deserve more and believe me the women know in their hearts that you are not going to be there forever. Love you most.
2007-09-03 05:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by vintagepink- 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love isn't something that you can make/will to happen, as the best kind of love is one that grows over time. It sounds as though you need to figure out a bit more about yourself first so that when "love", or at least the beginnings of love, comes along you can recognize it and treat it accordingly. Also realize that love is based on more than how sexually attractive a woman is--and you must look for more in a woman than if you want to sleep with her (i.e. her interests, does she make you want to become a better person, do you want to keep learning more about her). Look into what made your last relationship end, and what you miss about the person you used to date and see if there are any clues you can use for the future. Good luck.
2007-09-03 12:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you havent found what you are looking for yet. i wouldnt suggest sleeping with one and then dumping them. thats cruel. soiunds like you need to take your time in a woman, figure out what it is you want in a female. we are all unique and different in our own way. and youre only 23, heck you got plenty of time, so dont rrush yourself. but dont these women for granted either. maybe the problems lay within you, and not the women. or it could be the last relationship really messed you up cause youre lonely now. just be yourself and get to know woman, know them as friends first then tackle the situation if shes the one for you. good luck to you i surely you find what you are looking for.
2007-09-03 12:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gonna wait until one of those you hurt hurts you back even worse before you stop? maybe that'll be what it takes to make you stop doing wrong to other people.
Oh! By the way, women are PEOPLE too!!! You know, they have a mom and dad and sibs and friends and they count as much or more than you.
Why not go do volunteer work or something until you figure out what the hell you want from life.
2007-09-03 12:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by SQD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to motivate yourself to love. If you found the right girl it wouldn't be work.
Maybe you aren't over the previous relationship. Maybe you should try waiting before getting someone into bed.
If your goal is to use women for sex, then you will never see a woman as more than that. I am not judging, just trying to help. You need to go into a date with the desire to really get to know someone and enjoy spending time with them before the physical stuff comes in.
Good Luck.
2007-09-03 12:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by GoldenButterflyKisses 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot motivate yourself to take a relationship serious???
You are still in your Avenging Angel State, for blowing your steady relationship for what reason? How serious was it?
Take your Time before you tie yourself down again. A steady relationship needs a commitment and when it is not in the stars of today, no one knows what the future brings. You might meet the Love of your Life tomorrow and feel completely overwhelmed and ready to start a family
2007-09-03 12:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Alma of Avalon Grailguard 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to 'get the girl in bed' to have a relationship, then you are hopeless...I think getting to know the girl, and spending time doing stuff together-example movies, dinner, or even shoppping (girls like that a man won't be embarassed to shop with her) It shouldn't be all about you, don't be afraid to do stuff for her. Next time you find a really great girl, don't seduce.... introduce. It will give you a desire for her, and it will drive you to produce an intress in her personality, and feelings. You won't get your feelings hurt this way, and neither will she!
2007-09-03 12:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ashla 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
these things take time. at some point you will spot someone that intrigues you to where you will need to have them around to get to know them. Before long you will be wrapped up in love once again. guard your heart though and don't freely just invite them in your life. Respect your body and allow only those worthy of you to come near you.
2007-09-03 12:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a man whore isn't going to get you the love you want. Just be by yourself for a while and grow from your experience and then jump back in the game when you are ready.
2007-09-03 12:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another example of karma and the circle of life: you hurt someone, you yourself would get hurt too.
I believe there's no such thing as motivating one's self to love again. When the ONE arrives you'll know that it's about time to love again.
2007-09-03 12:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by 123mantobeat456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋