See, a few days after he proposed, we found out that he had cancer. It was too late for them to be able to help him, too. So, after he died, I thought about a lot of things. Suicide for one, but I decided against that because it would've ruined everything that he did for me. So now... I am very young, and there is one person in particular after all these years of his death that still persists to get with me. Is it ok to find someone new now? I've always thought it would suck to finally get to Heaven and find out that the one you love most found someone new ><; kind of childish but it bothers me. What do I do?
2007-09-03 05:37:24 · 55 answers · asked by Silvia Imoen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is about moving forward. I had my fiance to walk away from me and found out that she was engaged to someone else at the very time she accepted my ring. I felt the same fear of going forward that you do, but the only difference is that she had not died. I felt that I was violating my commitment to her if I thought that I could love someone
else.
You never stop loving someone, but when its time to move forward, God will give you a greater love for someone else so that you can move forward without feeling condemnation.
Give it a chance, knowing that the place your husband had will never be lost, but a greater love will help carry you into your future.
You will be okay.
Tim
2007-09-03 05:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I once was with a guy for over five years and finally married him but then his true colors came out and after 2 months I got out but then a year and a half later he was found decieced. And I mourned for just a short bit. But I had already found someone and we've been together 7 yr. But still today I will never open up all the way,Trust I guess.Sorry to hear of your loss.Life is to short to mourn so just go with the flow and what happends ,happens because it's suppose to,k,.
2007-09-03 06:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by nanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. I can't possibly imagine what it is like to lose someone that close to you. I didn't know him, but I am sure he would wish you all the happiness in the world and would not want you to be lonely. I don't know exactly how long it has been since he passed, but sounds like it's been a few years? I think it is time you moved on. The memories will always be there and if this person that persits truly cares, he will understand that you will always hold a very special place in your heart for him.
2007-09-03 06:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is until "death do you part" and sadly death did part you... ( for now at least ) It says that for a reason, because you are suppossed to go on and live your life and be happy and have love again. You were a wonderful woman to stick by your man in sickness when it doesn't sound like you even got the "health" part of the vows... SO please go out there and find someone else who you deserve, who will love and care for you. I know your husband would want that.
2007-09-03 05:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetheart. It is definitely okay for you to find someone new. It's been years. It's not like you are rushing into a relationship right after your death. I know it will be hard, but you have to move on with your life. You have goals and dreams that need to be accomplished! - I doubt that you would want to spend the rest of your life being Lonely. Start dating again! Good luck!
2007-09-03 05:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by JustaThought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. He would want you to be happy, even if that means finding someone new, and moving on. Give the guy a try. If it feels wrong then stop seeing him. But give it some time before you go out with him. I think you're husband will understand. i am so sorry once again.
2007-09-03 05:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by k9lover876 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband would want you to be the happiest you could be, I guarantee it.
It is perfectly fine to find a new spouse. Just make sure they know ahead of time that you will always love your first husband, and there will be times that you are sad when you remember him. Most people would be fine with this, but some get jealous.
2007-09-03 05:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to find somone else as long as your ready and healed on the inside. Your husband would not want you wasting your life holding on to him. He would want you to be with someone who would love you and someone you could share your life with. Don't be scared to go out you do deserve a life of happiness I'm sure your husband will look down and send you his blessings if he could. I wish you lot's of luck on your journey through life and I know that it will be hard but you will make it.
2007-09-03 05:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is alright. You loved your husband but that doesn't mean you shouldn't move on. Always keep a part of your heart for him and never let anyone take that place--but that doesn't mean you should be alone for the rest of your life. You're young. He'd want you to be happy.
2007-09-03 05:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Till death do you part. Its ok to move forward with your life and he would of wanted you to be happy. I however just hope this is not someone who was a close friend of his. Sorry you had to go through that. Keep him in your heart and go on with your life like he would of wanted.
2007-09-03 05:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Princess J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋