How should I propose to my girlfriend?

Question

How do I marry my girlfriend? like what do I need to do 1st? My girlfriend wants to get married. She told me "Let's get married." I feel the same way. Do I talk to her parents 1st? What exactly do I tell her parents? Do i tell them this? "I've been with your daughter for 7 years now. I'm seriously in love with your daughter and I wouldn't want to cheat on her. I would stay loyal and faithful and will take care of her for the rest of my life. she means so much to me. Can I marry your daughter?". even if the parents does accept, how do I propose to her? Any ideas on the proposing idea?

Answer 1

Talk to her parents first...don't say all that "won't cheat on her" stuff, that is assumed if you are getting Married.... just ask for their blessing. Then buy a ring ( do you know what kind she likes? Yellow gold, while gold? paltinum? )...I don't know her so can't advise you when and where to propose.... Like if you guys really love chinese food you could have a fortune cookie made up with a fortune that says "will you marry me?" and then even have the ring put in another cookie and have them served to you at your favorite chinese food resteraunt... But it all depends on what she really likes or what you guys love to do together you know?

Answer 2

It is nice to ask the permission of the parents (especially father). I wouldn't mention anything about not cheating on her. The rest of the stuff is ok...but no sense even bringing up something negative, even though you don't plan on doing it.

Try to surprise and catch her off guard. But make it romantic as well. She will remember that moment the rest of her life and tell everyone she knows. Maybe you could plan a weekend getaway or something and do it then.

Here's what I did. I got a room at a hotel nearby and said that my sister was in town and she had a free night at the hotel, so she and her boyfriend were going to be in town. I had already told Jess that I'd take her out to a fondue restaurant that Friday night (it was a few days after her birthday). So I said my sister and her boyfriend would be joining. We weren't living together yet so I checked into the hotel, spread rose petals all around and lit like 20 candles. Then I went to pickup my now wife. I told her we were stopping by my sister's hotel room for a drink before dinner. I had called her just to go along and help sell the story. We got up to the hotel room and she was surprised. I did it then...and no my sister wasn't actually in town. I'm lucky I didn't set off any fire alarms in the hotel, but it was worth the risk.

Do whatever you feel comfortable with though and what you can afford, etc. You don't have to spend a ton on an activity to do, just make sure it comes from the heart. I have heard that doing it in a restaurant during dinner is very akward, but it could be romantic though. Good luck!

p.s. The engagement/wedding planning period sucks, so try to set a date less than a year away.

Answer 3

Find something that is special between the two of you or special to her. My husband made me my very favorite dinner at home. He had candlelight, wine the whole works. I was completely oblivious the whole time. Then for desert he told me had had pumpkin pie, it was in the oven. I opened up the oven, saw it in there and when I turned around he was on one knee. It was great. Another friend of mine got proposed to by her boyfriend when they had walked down to her favorite tree. She always went there to escape any problems she was having and since it was sacred to her he proposed there. If she isn't shy, you can always go with the fancy dinner at a restaurant and propose in front of all those people. You may want to be positive that she'll say yes though. Also, if you are close with friends and family, have a group of them together and propose in front of everyone. That way they all feel included and you don't have to spend the night calling people on the phone. Another idea, talk to her best friend so long as she isn't a big mouth and see if your girlfriend has ever mentioned an ideal proposal to her. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Well i would talk to the parents first but i would leave out the part about the cheating. I would just say that you would like to marry their daughter and promise that you will take care of her and ask for their blessing. Take into account your girlfriend's personality and personalize the proposal or ask some of her friends what they think she would like

Answer 5

Here are some unique ways to propose to a girl:
-Stick the ring inside a pastry. (make sure she doesn't choke on it. Rofl)
-Go out for dinner then take her for a walk. Pay a blimp to say "Will you marry me?" (pretty expensive but very nice. :O))
-Take her to a game and pay the stadium to say "_____(the name) I love you! Will you marry me?" (This might embarrass her a little if she's shy)
-Take her out for dancing pretend to have dropped something. Get down on your knees and propose. Tell her "I'm in love with you. I will stay loyal and faithful and will take care of you for all eternity. You're the one and only you and I don't know what I'd do with out you. Would you marry me?"
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Answer 6

if you really feel like you love her that much and you're sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with her, then i would say go ahead and propose. You don't have to ask her parents first, but its a good idea, it impresses them and makes them feel like you are a decent guy. And thats a great thing to say to them. As for the actual proposing, I think its a good idea to go ring shopping with her that way you know she'll like the ring. That is of course unless you found a ring you are 100% sure she'll like. A trip is always a good idea for a proposal. Think of a place you both like and see if she's available to go on the trip with you. Then propose on the beach, or in a very romantic spot. At night is always better, or at sunset. Good luck!

Answer 7

Yes, you should always go to the parents for permission first.

I know someone who did something clever. He went on a trip with his girlfriend in Hawaii. They were standing in front of this big geyser and he had a video camera. He told a stranger beforehand what was going on, and then asked the stranger to 'take a picture' [but really record them]. The geyser started up and he got down on one knee and proposed--and got it all on tape for later. I thought that was pretty sweet.

Answer 8

first- congratulations! itsthe thought that counts dear. seven years is a logn time and yes, I think you are right on track about talking to the parents first. I am not sure about her, but most women would take that to be "he cares for me and my parents too". it would mean a lot to her, (since you are even considerin to get the parents involved, i am assuming that she is close/in good terms with her family)...so yes, she will appreciate you talking to them first.

About how to propose her? what are he rlikes? does she like it big-and-huge-announced? or is she the "quieter" kinds? does she like sports?(-cliche'- about the "will you marry me" on the banner) but yes, since you and her have already talked about getting married, she will not say "no" and the "banner" thing wont be like putting her in the spotlight.

you could also do the surprise, dinner thing - take her to her favorite place, out of town? beach?hills? propose there.

sky's the limit and it basically depends on her likes....

good luck

Answer 9

first of all you better talk to the parent's first. most parent's will find it a great mark of respect if you ask there blessing especially fathers also speak from your heart when you are talking to the parent's they will appreciate it second if you get the blessing think about what your girlfriend would find really romantic and original if you cant figure it out ask her friends the will be a great help best of luck and i hope you will be very happy together

Answer 10

go and talk to her parents and tell exactly what you wrote .if they reject you then ask her whether she will leave her parents home and if yes then get married in court and if no then forget her .she is not the right girl for you in this case
this formula always work.only if the boy is 21 and girl is 19


go a head marry her