I recently graduated from college, and now my stepmom is graduating, too, in a couple of months.
She and my dad never even sent a card for my graduation, yet they expect me to fly across the country for her commencement ceremony.
I told him that it hurt me, and he still expects me to go.
I don't want to be spiteful, but I cannot justify spending money that I don't have, and taking unpaid time off work, to celebrate her special time, when my special time wasn't even acknowledged by them.
Am I being witchy?
2007-09-03 05:12:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mommabear: I paid for college myself, and I did attend my own commencement ceremony - I wasn't looking for a gift, but acknowledgement would have been nice. But for them to expect so much from me is not sitting well with me. I agree, they are selfish and self-absorbed..they always have been and I should expect it by now.
2007-09-03 06:19:58 · update #1
Question for you: Did you go through your college's graduation ceremony? Lots of people don't. If you didn't, then what kind of acknowlegement did you expect? Did your dad help pay for college? Maybe he felt that he had already given you your gift -- an education? My parents didn't give me a graduation gift when i graduated from college either -- but after four years of paying my way 100% and helping me buy a car, it never occured to me that they would!
On the other hand, if your dad didn't have anything to do with financing your college education, you went through graduation and he blew it off, and now he expects you to make the effort to go to your step-moms graduation: If you can't make it, you can't make it. If they never acknowleged your graduation from college, they really are selfish and self-absorbed.
2007-09-03 06:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being witchy and the fact that your father isn't acknowledging your feelings only validates whose feelings he values more. That is sad, but I have had it happen from my mother and when the time came, (not to be bitchy) but, because I didn't have the money or the emotional attachment that I "should've" had I didn't feel bad about racing off to go see her and her boyfriend and putting myself in a financial bind (though temporary) for people who cared only for themselves and not even in the slightest degree for me--and if I had gone, I would've missed out on a promotion at my job so, not going was well worth it. Good luck on whatever you decide. . .:-)
2007-09-03 12:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by ba_in_pa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a card and explain about the finances. It comes down to economics. If they do not understand, that isn't your fault. If you know the real reason is money, they you have done the best you can. Move on.
2007-09-03 12:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is upon u to think what to do but call them up wish ur regards and tell some good reason from work and say sorry for not able to make.
2007-09-03 12:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by bawa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're being unfair. Unless they offer to pay for your way there and give you money to reemburse you for your time off from work, stick to your decision of telling them no.
2007-09-03 12:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not witchy.
you just give her card and tell them i cant come because of money. but im very happy you graduate..... something something...
thats it.
if they still complain about this... just tell them why you didnt celebrate my graduation?
2007-09-03 12:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by askawow 47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. i would be pissed off to. you worked hard to go through school and graduate and it should have been acknowledged. btw...congrats on graduating!!!!
2007-09-03 12:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by myourchisin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-09-03 12:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by ♥wh♥tஐAre♥U♥Lஐஐking?ஐALEXANDRAஐஐ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋