Ok, so me and my boyfriend just broke up and we hade been dating for 11 months a year in two weeks and i feel like i made a mistake cause I love him and i feel like i lost a really important person in my life and i know that he still loves me and would take me back in any second he even told me that. but i just dont want to deal with everything that he put me through i know that when you love someone you should be able to deal with everything that happens, but i just couldnt. i was ready to give him the world and he was the same way, but he didnt have any life goals or ideas for the future and he told me that he wanted me to support him but i think he was kidding i dont know i am so confused, should i continue this or should we get back together please help
2007-09-03 05:05:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its normal for you to feel this way because you were with him so long so you will always love him and he was a major part of your life you just cant stop loving him the next day after you guessbreak up its hard because you love him but there is a saying if u love some one let him go and if he comes back to you then its love and if not then you guys were not meant to me. so just dont put your self through that much pain u could give him a time limit and see if he gets ajob and keeps it then go from there make him prove that he will change
2007-09-11 03:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all. A lot of times when you break up with someone you've been in a relationship with for a long time, your first instinct is to want to get back together. It's natural to feel like you've made a huge mistake because you're hurt and you think the way to stop the hurt is to go back to how things used to be.
I'm sure that you genuinely love him but if he has no life goals or real plans for the future love may not be enough. I don't know how old you are or whatever but if there is even the slimmest chance that you MIGHT marry this guy...do you really want to be the one in the relationship who has to pay for everything? While he does nothing? It doesn't seem like he would take care of you, or be a support system if something goes wrong. Relationships need to be equal partnerships and it just doesn't seem like he would hold up his end.
2007-09-03 12:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by jinxmalfoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one, anyhow its really your decision, do you want to keep him and support him or no?talk to him and tell him that when you guys will have kids who is going to take care of the kids, so he has to set a goal. Everybody loves someone and loses them but they have to move on. In your case a guy with no goal is nothing, no stable future and may be later you guys will break up again just coz he doesnt have that stable future. Talk to him and make him understand all these things and see what his reply is and then you decide whether you want to stay with him or no. The longer you stay around him, the more you will love him.
2007-09-03 12:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by luvis4losers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all about compromise, if he only wants you for you to support him then it'll never work.
You need to make sure that you want him back for the right reasons, but if he is putting you through so much then he needs to be prepared to give something back in return for your love.
if he really doesn't want to work and you are ok with that then he needs to provide a service for you such as doing the majority of the housework etc.
Don't go back and be used by him, i know how it feels to feel used. it isn't nice.
2007-09-11 09:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by andy jackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loved you and wanted to be with you then he will be willing to change all that for the better. but just dont push too hard.
2007-09-11 09:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to call you after he has been steadily employed for 6 months, if you still have these feelings for him, try again.... my $ is on he won't call you, he will have moved on to someone who will put up with a lazy jerk
2007-09-10 18:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋