OK, why do people who loved eachother, when the relationship fails, need to walk away entirely, hate eachother, and cut all ties.
this excludes the initial seperatio, non-communication period after the relationship to heal.
If you loved eachother, there was a reason, compatability etc. Why not rebuild as friends, or at least acknowledge eachother?
It just doesn't make sense to me to throw away people whom you know so well and would make great friends. What are the reasons....is it just easier....most relationships fail eventually, why not continue to get something from them?
2007-09-03 04:37:22 · 8 answers · asked by someguy_in_halifax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When relationships end, it usually isn't a mutual dissolution of feelings. One person still loves the other very much, but the other has lost interest. I can tell you from experience, it's very painful to feign a friendship with someone you love romantically, and having them in your life can be torturous. The thing you want most in the world is dangled in front of you, just out of reach. A friendship won't work under those conditions, and so many of us choose to take our lives in new directions. It's a sad and difficult choice to make, but sometimes it's a necessary one.
2007-09-03 05:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by highball116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they may have never loved each other...just thought they did for a while.
Other then that it is much easier to make a clean break and have no contact. Why be friends if you can't be lovers. The after relationship friends thing can be very awkward as to where do you draw the line.
And on top of that, the one who had the relationship ended on them might not want to let go. And they will do all sorts of 'lovey' things to try and win the other person back. The one who ended the relationship may not want to put up with that...they got rid of that person for a reason.
2007-09-03 11:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes it hurts too bad, usually more so for one partner than for the other, to be around that person. Especially if it ended badly. My ex broke up with me by leaving a note on my bed one night while I was at work that said "Sorry I just don't want to be with anyone right now" and I never heard from him again after that. So after that I had no desire to see him or talk to him and I still don't. Though I still love (as a friend) and talk to another one of my exes. So I think it really depends on how things ended.
2007-09-03 11:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by poptart_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, maybe. If you're no longer together, it's probably because one of you did something to either hurt, disappoint or anger the other. You can't always forgive or forget, unfortunately. That's why most people are not able to remain friends after a break-up. Too much resentment, not enough forgiveness.
2007-09-03 12:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why the relationship ended. Sometimes the pain that was caused is greater than the love that was there. I can only speak for myself of course but I know that when I was hurt I wasn't going to give him another chance to do it again. Its easier for my peace of mind to just walk away.
2007-09-03 11:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by gagirl01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know; the reason varies. be aware of the fact that recounting good memories may be just as bad as remembering bad ones. and the pain drives people to a different direction, namely one that involves severing all ties with a former love. there ARE romantic relationships out there that have fallen but have been reconstructed in the form of a 'friendlier' one. so it really depends on the person and their reason.
2007-09-03 11:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk.. i question the same thing you do. I mean I guess though if it was really serious and one person like cheated on you or something then I would be mad and probably not want to talk to them. PLus a lot of people say they are in love but that doesnt mean that 1. they are and 2. that both of them feel that way. Its sooo complicated.
but, I feel like unless your ex did something REALLY to you, you should at least acknowledge them, it shows them how nice you are and what they are missing out on hahaha.
:)
2007-09-03 11:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Taytay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you want somthing from them
2007-09-03 11:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋