We just transferred her from her crib in our room 3 weeks ago. She will fall asleep in her room initially while we are sitting there with her but 2-3 hours later she starts calling for mom and dad. This goes on for 3-4-5 times a night until I get fed up and put her in our bed. She has a night light and everything else in her room to make it cozy and enticing. At least we think so. Please help us sleep deprived parents...
2007-09-03 04:33:08 · 6 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes the problem is that you give in to her.. so she has learned that all she needs to do is call and you will come, eventually. You have to adopt a little bit of a tough love attitude here and realize that you might lose a little sleep for a few more days, but it will stop. IF you keep giving in it will take longer and longer for it to stop. Talk to her when you put her to bed, tell her your expectation that she is big girl and must sleep in her bed. If you must check on her and remind her of your expectation one time when she starts yelling in the night, kiss her and then that is it no more checking or talking to at all. If she gets out of bed then you put her back in bed with no more talking, no more affection just be matter of fact. When she realizes it is not going to work and you take the no nonsense approach she will figure it out. Depending on how long this has been going on it may take a few days or a couple weeks but then it will be cured. All better for the long run.
2007-09-03 05:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jade645 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, she misses you! Just like a little kitten.
Make sure her belly is full. Cheese is a tooth-healthy before-bed snack.
Is her bed big enough? My son was waking up during the night because he turns like hands on a clock at night and limbs were going off the bed. A bigger bed helped us!
When she calls for you, call back, "It's ok, baby, we're right here, go to sleep." Wait and see if she'll go back to sleep. Go comfort her and let her work it out a little bit. Say comforting things from the hall. Go in and pat and comfort her.
Be firm but kind. Don't make her dread bedtime because it's a battleground.
This is important: Make sure she's getting lots of reassurance and bonding playtime during the day so that bedtime isn't bringing separation anxiety.
When she wakes up make it a chance to go to the potty. This will teach her that waking up at night is about taking care of business. Point out how dark it is outside and talk about how nice it is to go back to bed.
Play putting dolls to bed during a non stressed time of the day. Have a doll call for her mama and help your daughter be the mama doll who has to help little baby doll have sweet dreams in her own room.
Be patient! You can do this with love and it will leave a legacy of trust that you will value for the rest of your lives.
2007-09-03 15:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Angela C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was letting her stay in your room at all- if you have another baby, put them in their own room from the first day- I promise you'll thank me! As far as this problem, everyone else is correct- stay TOUGH and look forward to another few days of not much sleep. If you stay tough, it will be over in a few days. The first time she gets out of bed, take her back and say, it's bedtime. Good night. The next time, just say it's bedtime. After that, if she gets up, DO NOT sya anything at all- just take her to her bed- DO NOT stay. Keep this up as long as it takes, just remember, no talking. no touching. It shouldn't take more than 3 days. Good Luck
2007-09-03 13:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by nanny411 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others that one of the problems is that you finally give into her. She knows that if she keeps it up she will get her way. Kids are smarter than we think. I would maybe try telling her that big girls stay in there own bed. Also maybe give her an incentive if she stays in her bed all night then she gets something in the morning. Good Luck, I know it is tough to say no especially when you are tired.
2007-09-03 12:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kerri W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, is when you get fed up you take her to your bedroom to have her sleep with you and your husband. You need to be strong and ignore her. She will eventually stop crying and calling for you. You just need to break the cycle and and not give in.
2007-09-03 11:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Reality Has A Libertarian Bias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put toys on her crib and see what happens
2007-09-03 13:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by 12345yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋