my 5 year old is getting bullied by 4 brothers talking to the parents is no good what should i do now?

Question

The 4 brothers are aged 6, 7, 8 and 10 it has been going on for about a year and the last time we spoke to the mother she tried attacking us with a slash hook. The police are a waste of time they won't do a thing so please help what else can i do

Answer 1

You are telling me that a woman attacked you with a "slash hook" and the police did nothing?

I suggest if they TOUCH your son again or even harass him you call the police and file a complaint. Do this every single time.

In the meantime- he's only 5 and you should be supervising him at all times. Don't send him out to play alone. If this is happening at school then notify the school and petition the school board for a zero tolerance policy on bullies.

Last, to keep your child safe you should think about moving. NO MEASURE IS TOO GREAT TO PROTECT YOUR CHILD.

Answer 2

If you can get any video evidence of their behaviour (including that of the parents) it would help convince the authorities.

I agree with the person who suggests you complain each and every time an incident occurs. The police will act if only to reduce the paperwork you cause! Turn up in person at the police station (or tell them you are going to if they don't come out - it might save you a trip) and keep a photographic record of all the injuries your child has received.

Is it only your child who is suffering? If there are other families involved, get together and present a united front to the police and to the bullies' parents.

You might also consider consulting the Citizens Advice Bureau, or a free legal service, to see if there are any civil legal routes you can take.

Answer 3

I would continue with the police and get a crime reference number ..

i would also log any events including dates times etc ...

The behaviour of these children is unacceptable and the mother obviously is problematic ..

I would call the police again and request a home visit and air your concerns about how they have treated your complaints and ask them what they suggest

If they are council tenants i would notify the housing office and let them know what is going on ..

You have tried to talk to the mother and that has not worked it is time for tougher action ...

Also and i know this is not what you want to hear but you may have to keep your child in as he may become a victim of more bullying and he is so little bless him ..

Answer 4

Besides hiring 4 eleven year olds who will take care of the 4 snot nosed bullies, you may think about a restraining order. And keep calling the worthless bunch of cops you've dealt with. And file a formal complaint on the police themselves! And write letters to any one who may have some kind of authority and jurisdiction with this kind of matter...And write at the bottom of each letter who you've also sent a letter to. They all need to cover their "sorry" butts and will start responding like crazy! Contact child protective services, the juvenile division, anyone! I had a problem quite similar with pretty much the same results...I became sooo frustrated, my only alternative seemed to buy a gun, kill the parents in close range "execution style" and bury their bodies in the backyard for fertilizing my tomatoes! Sounds harsh, and would have never done it, but having your child upset and in danger is such a helpless feeling. And when the parents of the devil child encourage it, it's easy to think those "dark" thoughts! Sooo, write those letters, make those copies, let each recipient know who else you've written! My phone was ringing off the wall. I even wrote to Civil rights...I'm white and they were white, but our civil rights were being violated! Keep me informed, ok?

Answer 5

Is this happening in school or just at home in the neighborhood? If it is at school then by all means get them involved, have a meeting with the teachers and principal and anyone else who is involved with the kids. if it is just at home then keep hasseling them with the police, they might not be able to do anything about it but they still have to respond to the call and maybe she will get tired of them coming. No wonder these children act the way they do if the mother actually did that to you! Teach your child to stand up to them or ignore them and come and tell you immediately...if it were my child I would not be able to let it go and I probably would have yelled at them kids a long time ago, do what you have to do to get it to stop! Good luck!

Answer 6

Get legal aid. Have a solicitor speak to the kids parents. If she attacks him, he will certainly be able to motivate the police to action. Tell him/her everything that has happened and if you can get pictures. Even if its just pictures to identify that family.

Explain to your son that situations like these call for your family to pull together and that they won't get away with it.

The key in any case of bullying is to show the aggressor that they will suffer every time they cross the line. Be careful though to stay within the law, I believe that most police officers are bullies deep down inside.

Answer 7

If this is a real concern, then videotape the kids behaviour.T Make 5 copies.Give a copy to the parents of these little darlings, a copy to the police and a copy to social services and say you want someone to take care of it.Let them know your 5th copy will be going to the local tv station if you can't get anyone to rein in these junior thugs.

Answer 8

i hate to say this but you may need to get your son in karate to help him learn discipline in this situation. No disrespect to you but your son needs to learn to stand up for himself but karate also teaches self discipline and peace only if attacked. Those other children and their parents maybe going through some issues but that does not excuse their negative actions towards your children but also empower your child and let him know that it is not okay to pick or bully on others but mainly be there as much as possible for that child. Talk to the police again and let them know that if they can not help if your child is attacked then you will step in. Also you can press charges on the other kids mother trying to attack you that is simple assault. But school wise try to get you child removed from all contact with those kids to show that you are doing everything that you can do. But I really do think karate would be a good thing to have if removing your child from the situation and the bullies keep bulling him.

Answer 9

without and raising of voice with the mum keep your calm and ask her to tell the children to stop bullying your child if she gets all nasty ring the police on her she is an adult and can be dealt with as long as you have done nothing wrong except be civil and explained to her what has happened .
do the kids go to the same school as yours inform the school what is happening and see if they have a anti bullying program .
Keep you child near your house so you can see whats happening -also ask around to see if the children are bullying anyone else -the mother having a go at you is not helping these kids and its no wonder they are bullying kids.


of course what would be dream scenario is your child just gives the eldest a good punch so hard he is scared off him and knows everytime he trys to bully your kids he's gonna get a thumping back ( i know we dont want to sink to their level but you should get what i mean)

Answer 10

Gosh this sounds like a nightmare and i know from personal experience that there is no easy answer. I had to move house! sorry if this is not the answer you wanted but i found that the yob culture wins the day and there is very little you can do about it.
Keep a diary with dates and times and if possible video it on camcorder (you also have to be careful doing this as apparantly against their human rights unless you have a sign up!).
However it would be evidence if you need to get them evicted? asbo? yourself moved by council?. Dont know all your circumstances but i wish you good luck