Self -Harmers Only. (Specifically cutters)?

Question

Ok, ive cut my legs. A large area at the top but they are only very little surface cuts. I've realised ive made a big mistake and i dont wanna tell my girlfriend. Its hard to hide it from her so does anyone have a quick solution to get the cuts to heal as fast as possible. Im desperate. Please

She already knows I do it. She will be dissapointed if i tell her ive done it again. I cant stand it. I hate her reactions... I understand why she is like that but i jus realise its a big mistake and more trouble then its worth.

Answer 1

You would be better off telling your girlfriend the truth from the beginning. Still, proper treatment of the cuts will help them heal a little quicker. Clean them, use neosporin, and bandage them.

Answer 2

Sounds like you need the advice of the medically inclined vs the mentally declined.
Depending on the stage that they are in.....
If fresh, clean with an antiseptic then cover to prevent infection. If you don't want a big bandage on them, use new-skin. It's a liquid bandage that has antiseptic already in it and when it dries you can't even tell it's there.
if old, don't pick at them and let them heal as best they can by themselves. Opening them up again will only prolong the healing. Unless you apply an antiseptic when they are open.
Oh and talk to a therapist, no really. There is a reason that you cut yourself and it's not because you enjoy it. Get help and try to live a 'normal' healthy life.

Answer 3

There is one way to get the cuts to 'knit' back together quicker, and the is to make some steristrips from micropore. This will pull the wounds together, and in a couple of days they will look like scratches.

I am a S/Her mainly cutting, and I have found a website that is really great, it is a totally a nonjudgemental site for people who self harm, and the best thing is it does not encourage harming in anyway, or pressurise you in giving up. I am a member on the site www.recoveryourlife.com check it out, as it has chat rooms, forums with firstaid advice, and you can talk to a moderator online when you are feeling down.

Good luck.

Answer 4

i only do surface cuts, and haven't found a quick way of making them heal - healing is exactly that - it's where the skin has to completely repair itself, so it will take time. but, being only surface cuts, they won't take as long as deep ones. when the scab has formed you could try something like germolene or some other cream that is good for keeping the cut disinfected but also should help with healing. i'm not sure if it works though. it's probably best just to make sure the cuts are clean, and let the air get to them so they can start to heal. and don't pick at the scabs as that makes them scar more easily.

also, your girlfriend reacting badly isn't helping. as your girlfriend, she needs to be supportive and understanding. quietly sit down with her, before or after she notices the cuts, and explain to her why you do it, and that you'd like her to help and support you in the hope that you may be able to stop with her encouragement. ideally of course, you need to get professional help from a doctor, psychiatrist or councellor so that you can stop and deal with the problems that caused you to start in the first place.

if you want any alternatives to self harm feel free to email me, or you can just email me if you wanna chat.

good luck.
stay strong, stay safe.

Answer 5

Ok...
Theres not actualy way of making them vanish...im sure a lot of us wish there was!...If they arent too bad some sort of concealer should do the trick or simply cover them up!...
However the best thing would be to just tell your girlfriend!...
You say she will be disappointed but at the end of the day you cant change what you have done...and im sure she would be even more disappointed if she found out that you hadnt told her!...
Explain to her the situation and the feeling behind you cutting your legs and hopefully this will help her to realise that you need her support rather than opinion!...
Hope this helps...
Feel free to email me if you want to talk...
Take care...
and remember the truth is the only thing that can make this situation any better...
Xox....

Answer 6

well my boyfriend was the same because he didnt understand it.....we went thru a stage where he even sed he (shock tactic) that he would leave if i did it again...turns out he wouldnt leave at all and shock tactics ARENT the answer it just makes u hide the self harm from them and lie if you can get her to understand that you being able to tell her means that eventually the self harm will have no power and you wil stop, this happened with me; my boyfriend realised that me doing it was my coping mechanism and making me stop wasnt the answer, i then was able to tell him if i had done it or he would ask (they get really good at telling when you have done it) i would tell him the truth and he would ask to see and give me a hug then the self harm had very little power over me anymore because he and many of my friends and doctor and parents knew...the more people who know the less control the self harm has over you. I also felt awful lieing to my boyfriend and it feels better that he knows.

Use bio oil to clear scars and to heal the cuts there is little you can do really, i suggest sitting down with your girlfriend and explain it is your coping mechanism and you want to stop and it is a mistake for you and you want to get professional help, then ask her if she will help you by not being upset and just being there for you, if she really cares this should work but always accept that your loved one self harming is a difficult thing to accept, print out some info from the webpages i will give you, it helps to give them some understanding of why you do it and what helps and doesnt etc.

try covering the cuts up, dont put anything on them like cream and dont rub them as it makes them redder (remember the blood rushes to the skin if it is rubbed or agitated, i used to use antiseptic creams but i find there is little point and they sometimes are worse than good, plasters make the wound soggy but im not sure if they heal quicker i never really put them on my arms as people say 'what did you do?' while staring *why people have to ask i do not know but i immediatly go bright red and stammer on my words*)

Answer 7

There is a homeopathic cream called Hypercal - very good for speeding up the healing.

I would be honest with your girlfriend though. No matter how hard it might be. A lie or untruth will only really hurt you and make you run the risk of doing it again (I know from experience).

Good health to you always
Tyr

Answer 8

Im a self harmer my self and wont tell you to stop as I know what its like as my boyfriend is the same as your partner but what I will normally do is keep a flannel under my pillow and when I do harm just get up a wet it a put it on my and leave it , then in the morning put aloe vera gel on it ... (you can get it from Holland and Barrats) x

Answer 9

I'm an ex-self harmer but whatever, there's no fast way of making them heal in my opinion. Could you put a plaster over them or something? Or maybe a bandage? There's no quick soloutions to healing sadly. If only....

Answer 10

leave them a day or so then pick the scabs off. If they are only small then they shouldn't bleed again and they will just look like old scars.

Moisturise them with something like bio-oil or with vitamin e in it so make them look less red and stop the skin peeling as this will look the same as a scab.

As for your gf she may not notice, in my experience people aren't very observant when it comes to these things, however u could do with having an excuse if it will sound plausibe. idk, you were wearing shorts and the cat scratched you - always a good one.