kills them (at the age of 16) when social services fail to remove them from the home. What punishment do they deserve?
Interested in hearing from everyone, but especially those who grew up in similar circumstances.
2007-09-02 23:48:51 · 14 answers · asked by . 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He was put on trial at the age of 18 and received a life sentence. If I can track down a link to the story I'll post it.
2007-09-03 00:00:14 · update #1
here is a link to the story
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/whenkidsgetlife/five/ind.html
2007-09-03 00:10:28 · update #2
Open your Eyes - you are a very strong person.
2007-09-03 00:17:44 · update #3
Being that you just described my past...except i did not Kill my parents,
This kid needs help to move on..there should be no punishment for his or her crimes.
When you are abused like that...something happens to your brain...It goes into survival mode and you can get very primal...It has happened to me several times.
In my case...I bashed someone that was abusing me , in the head , with a cast Iron skillet. I hit him hard enough to kill him...
I was not in my sound mind..although I knew what I was doing, I did not at that time understand the implications of the action that I was committing...It is a very weird and scary place to be in.
Thankfully, I did dot end up as a news story, and was able to get away and get some much needed counseling.....Things like that happen in kind of like a dream state.
"What punishment do they deserve"...social services should be punished severely!
2007-09-03 02:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through to some extent. I am now twenty-six but I spent my younger years under similar abuse, though not from my mother. My father was an alcoholic and very abusive, though he still denies it to this day. I would often be choked, hit, etc. It is hard and yes I believe you could get through it if its primarily mental abuse (with just occasional physical abuse) .... but does it mean you SHOULD put up with it? Also keep in mind if its constant physical abuse or if it has worsened with time then you need to get OUT of that situation quick. It could mean your life. Especially if one or both of your parents have substance abuse problems (drugs, alcohol, etc). Honestly it all depends. In a situation where BOTH parents are abusive I think it would be difficult to continue living this way. If you have an outside family member you trust, like an aunt or uncle, grandparent, etc. I'd start there. If your parents respect this person maybe they can help intervene and get your parents to realize that what they are doing is wrong especially if there is physical abuse. Or perhaps they can fight for your custody. Foster situations can be very difficult and almost harder then what you are going through, granted not always but often enough. But if you don't have a relative or someone similar that can reach out to .... it may be your only choice.
2016-05-20 00:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by brinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I went through the verbal and physical abuse and social services wasn't helping the situation. Actually, it got to the point that when CPS was called, my beatings got worse. I thought about taking my parents out alot, myself included, but I knew it was wrong. I felt I had a mission to end the cycle and if I was dead or they were, there would be no way of doing this. I do what I can to prevent this from happening to other children who don't seem to have a "voice" as well as protecting my own children from becoming victims. It's a sad world when people hurt and violate the innocence of a child.
I never let them break me. I knew I was strong and it would be over soon. Honestly, I actually thank them, because if I never experienced hate and evil at it's best, I would never have developed into what I am today. Strong, independant, a protector, loving and unspoiled.
As far as the child in question, I would have to say, there should be punishment but as to what extent, it would be unknown to me since I don't know the facts.
2007-09-02 23:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
They need intense therapy.
Since they committed murder, they can't be allowed to roam free. Juvenile detention center is probably what will happen. On the one hand, I don't like that idea because kids in juvie either get victimized by tougher kids, or else they become more hardened criminals. But on the other hand, you have to protect the public from them - you have to put them somewhere.
With lots of time and good therapy, perhaps this person will be able to live in the community again.
I didn't grow up this way (thank all the gods!) but I work in the field.
2007-09-02 23:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by catrionn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They would deserve intense and long term therapy. At 16, under the circumstances, they would most likely not be charged as an adult.
In this world there would have to be evidence that the child was treated this way...no just his/her say so.
If a child was brought up in a violent, un-loving world...it would be difficult for them to truly understand that the murder of their parents was wrong. It would be what they lived. They harder part would be un-learning those ways and becoming a functioning member of society.
2007-09-03 00:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit more complicated than that. For one, criminal sanctions not only serve to "punish," but in the case of civil commitments/jail terms they also serve to protect society and/or give mental health officials a chance to rehabilitate the person without putting the general public at risk.
Without knowing more about the situation, it's impossible to give an informed opinion.
2007-09-02 23:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cathy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a horrible and very sad childhood. No way for anyone to live.
The kid should be under psychiatric care to deal with what he might have developed in his mind. Maybe he ended up with 2 or more personalities, you never know. He should be brought to his attention of him taking another human being's life, but never in prison. This individual did not grow & develope a regular personality, like he would have if he wasnt abused at all. He does not deserve life in prison because the parents made him insane. He was not in his right mind.
I would do all I can to bring this issue to the state's attention & the county mayor. I was thinking that he could sue the county(social services) for negligence, but that would be a very hard & expensive fight. Need an excellent lawyer. Of all the people that get faulsely accused, his parents slip thru the cracks of the system.
On personal note....
I had to create a separate yahoo acct just so that I can answer this question under no identity. I do see some of my contact friends here that answered this question.
Because I also was sexually, physically, mentally abused by the stepfather. My mom didnt know I was sexually abused but she knew about the physical abuse. I dont think that she knew what was mental abuse back then. My abuse was only 7 yrs, from age 8 and which is not as long.
My mom remarried sometime in the mid '70's. I will keep the sexual abuse details in private.
**3rd grade. Learning to read time on an anolog clock face. I needed help, tutoring. At home doing my homework, step-dad got frustrated so much he got mad. He made me stand in front of the clock on the wall, with him yelling and asking me, "What time is it?!" Holding a belt, he would hit me either on the butt or the back of the legs when I didnt know the answer and saying, "You have to learn this even if it takes all night. What are you going to do ____? They dont have idiot college for you!"
**Every time we had a strong wind and blew the side gate to the house open. He would beat me with the belt because he thought I forgot to close it. Then sometimes I would forget to take the garbage out to the curb the night before. That belt was his favorite belt that he never wore, it was weaved leather and had metal buttons all over it
**I was across the street playing with a friend and I saw that he was looking for me. So I went back home and he yelled and asking me where I was. I told him. I dont remember exactly what all he said but there was alot of yelling. Told me to go get that belt. He beat me in front of my mom while she was breastfeeding my sister. Dragged me down the hall-way by my hair to my room and beat me in there. We went back and forth. Dont know how long that lasted but I remember passing out on my bedroom floor while I was being beaten. The whole time he was yelling at me how stupid I was.
**One day step-dad made a wooden paddle with holes in it with duct tape wrapped around the handle. He was joking one day to my Ex-uncle about it because he thought it was funny that he made the joke that the paddle will move faster thru the air because of the holes. They were laughing at me.
**Many more instances
I know my mom was scared of this man. Scared to do anything. She never did stop him from hitting me.
She is not married to him anymore. I never blamed her for anything. She one day blamed herself. I had to comfort her that everything is ok now. I dont blame anyone except that step-dad.
Thanks GOD for everything that I have now.
2007-09-03 10:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't judge this.
Though, if they are able, they should get the ability to say what they think they deserve.
I would be interested in hearing what such a person felt about their actions.
Good Luck and Goddess Bless.
2007-09-02 23:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by earthcaress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think they deserve any punishment, if social services knew of this, then they need the punishment... the child probably needs to go to a mental hospital until they can truly decifer what is wrong and what is right and how to function properly in society...
2007-09-02 23:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by firechick1721 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A medal and a nice cup of tea is what they deserve
2007-09-02 23:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋