what can you do if your depressed because you don't like the way your aging or the way your looking?

Question

im 30 now but im aging not very well, im bald, i have im perfections like two missing teeth, at the front, bottom, due to accident years ago..
im very tanned, and my skin as turned bumby and course looking, even though i use face wash and the moisterizer.
i have deep blue saphire eyes which upsets me because i feel it looks unusual because im native american heritage, but i feel my appearence makes me look like an ugly aging white guy...and i feel it makes me not look like my race, who iam..

im wondering if anyone can relate or advise?

Answer 1

From your description, you sound kinda cute! Other than the 2 missing teeth, which you ought to just have fixed - what's wrong with balding - you were born bald! I think it makes a man look distinguished!

And my gracious, sapphire blue eyes? How gorgeous they must be! I have boring old brown eyes. Get colored contact lenses. Everything you described can be fixed somehow or another.

Otherwise, talk with a counselor (psychologist) if you have to. But, you're getting free advice right here right now.

Embrace your uniqueness - look at all of the people who go to great lengths to stand out and be an individual! You're so lucky! Be confident!

You didn't say if you were fit or fat. I'm assuming you don't have those kinds of body issues - be thankful and be happy!

Answer 2

Should go about the teeth and have some put on,it changes allot your appearance, sometimes it looks cool shaving all your head.you must wait for it to get tanned but it can look real cool,
and do some exercise if you don't do it now,this will make your body feel better, and last but not least I would go to a psychologist just to boost me up a little it helps allot.
Think about it.
Take care

Answer 3

Depression is something that will occur in many people's
lives, for various reasons. But the "normal" occurrence of
a plunge in mood due to stressful events in your life,
usually doesn't last very long, before a person's natural
resilience responds to the environment of friends and
family.

Treatment for depression and anxiety may be needed if you
experience persistent, multiple symptoms for more than two
weeks. These may include a combination of half or more of
the following:

* Sleeplessness, insomnia
* Ongoing negative moods for no reason
* Lack of energy or ambition
* Feeling helpless or worthless
* Believing nobody cares
* Hyper states like edginess or nervousness
* Inability to make decisions or concentrate on things
* Physical aches and pains that don't go away
* Suicidal thoughts

Depending on the condition of a depressed person, they may
require admission to a depression treatment center, where
they can be monitored while receiving psychological
counseling and medication therapy.

Depression is an emotional disorder, and nothing to be
ashamed of. But often, people who are depressed are
suffering from negative thoughts about themselves, and the
illness can feed on that.

If you recognize five or more of the above symptoms in
someone you love, talk to them about how they feel. If
they won't talk to you, go to their family, friends, or
even their doctor.

Treatment may be as simple as counseling and medication
that can be undertaken while in their own environment, or
the doctor may recommend a short stay in a depression
treatment facility to get them back on an even keel.

The medications available have redefined the treatment for
depression and anxiety, giving patients a break from the
emotional state that is weighing them down, while they
receive therapy to resolve the issues that caused their
illness.

Answer 4

Ok, you are still young, so no need to worry about that. Obviously, go to the dentist and get the teeth fixed. You may want to see a dermatologist.

Answer 5

I think that you should stop centering on the things you see as bad, and let someone else tell you if they think you are 'old and aging and ugly" ..I bet, that most women, if they saw your photo, would find you quite attractive...we sometimes, are our own worst enemies, and just when you think you are the ugliest person in the world, that 'someone special',..finds you the most attractive..It is sad, that you feel so bad about yourself, because I just bet you, you are one handsome lad

Answer 6

You can relate to just about every middle aged person in the country. That's why they call it a 'middle age crisis'. Not everyone ages 'gracefully'.

I like watching old movies with familar faces in them. It makes me feel better. To see Clint Eastwood or Paul Newman as a young man, then to watch them in a modern day film...it puts things in perspective for me. Everyone ages. Even the beautiful people.

Answer 7

Hi. A lot of people don't like the way they look. It can be depressing at times, but just try to look the best you can, and if nobody can accept you, then don't waste your time on them.
Looks aren't everything.