Feeling a bit used...?

Question

Crap! I just let a guy use me and totally fell into a trap. This all happend like in August..I liked this guy that was taken and I know him real well but so anyway one night, we both happend to be up really late(we live in the same neighborhood) and I was outside listening to music while he drove by in his pickup, but saw me and pulled over right out front my house. We talked for a while and then he asked me if I wanted to come over to his house, I told him yeah sure. So when I went over there he said u wanna watch a movie? I said ok, so we both were just sitting on his bed about to watch a movie. Then he turns off the lights and gets close to me. And eventually we fooled around but didnt have sex. I feel horrible that I let it go that far. What should I do now? It was my first experience with a guy but now I regret it. And I also feel like I just gave him a freakin ego boost! Is there a possible way to make myself feel better?

Answer 1

Please do not beat yourself up over this. We all have experiences that we wish we could go back in time and get a "do over" Please learn your own limits, and know that guys usually do not think ahead, they sometimes live only for the moment. They can't help it, it is all the hormones raging through their bodies. Remember what happened, but only as a reference so that you don't have to wake up feeling this way again.

Answer 2

Yes- don't ever talk to the doucebag again. He is obviously a loser because he doesn't have enough respect for himself, his "significant" other, or you because he was cheating. From the way that you describe it, it sounds like he was dead sober--- That would make him a complete asshole.

If he cheats on someone else, he will cheat on you. And- he probably planned to come by your house (because he is a douchebag.)

Next time you seem him, you should tell him to get a better pick up line than "want to watch a movie." Then if he still thinks he is hot **** tell him that you just couldn't imagine having sex with him because you want your first sexual experience to be with a non- douchebag.

Or, if you don't want to get into all of that drama just tell him regards to his girlfriend.

Yet- The best tactic is to not talk to him at all. Avoid him. Look at him like he is the maggot on a piece of crusted Popeye's chicken. And if he approaches you- make start talking **** about him, but don't mention his name.

But please don't call or stalk him. That would make you a pathetic loser and worthy or being treated like a sack of ****. Get over him by finding a hotter guy who is worth your time or get a dog if it is bothering you that much.

Even a cocker spaniel would be more worthwhile than this guy.

Answer 3

You seemed to have had a learning experience with relationships in a fairly safe situation, and no harm no foul. You have learned that this type of intimate interaction is not what you want right now, and you will be more knowledgeable in the future before things go further than you want them to go. Also, it sounds like the guy involved is attracted to you and if he feels happy about being intimate with someone he feels this way about, that is only natural. I wish you the best, it's okay to make a few mistakes along the way. Don't be so hard on yourself. Peace

Answer 4

I think you need to put this down to life's experiences. Every girl on this site will have a similar story, but luckily yours stopped where it did.
You obviously have a lot of integrity, which is great. There is no point in regretting stuff though, because there is nothing you can do about it. Take the good from the bad and reassure yourself that you are wiser now than you were then x

Answer 5

Concerning him: You might want to let someone know that you are going to have a chat with him one evening !! & try to have the mood seem the same as the night you had been with him !! Nut this time if he even acts like he has plans to to act in a same way,' LOOK him right in the face & say something like "NO WAY BUDDY YOU WO'NT GET AS`FAR AS YOU DID LASTIME !! SO STEP BACK!! & then so you can finish it up ,'Let him know how uncomfortable it had you feeling & that he needs to be more of a gentleman !! & to learn better how to approach a LADY!!& that you'll see him again possibly on your time !! ~!!! "R"r`r.r,r`r.'-

Answer 6

I think you should be cheering about the fact you didn't take lets say a "home run" you need different experiences in life to make u appreciate when the real thing comes along - just be thankful that you did make a "home run!" I think that in it's self is something to feel damn good about! His ego probably wasn't boosted coz he didn't make it a "home run" think of it that way! Good Luck : )

Answer 7

this man sounds like a class A asshole...and yes u def. gave him an ego boost...4 get about him, ignore the calls, messages, ect...it will drive him nuts and his ego will plummit lower than it was before you...this is just a lesson you learned....must be more cautious and learn how to control your hormones 1st of all and also learn how to put your foot down and say NO...you gain more respect from that later on

Answer 8

Aww hon, That sucks. Guys are assholes. I wouldn't let it get you down though :) And be proud of yourself that you didn't let it go all the way. Sometimes its hard saying no, especially if they are pushy.

Just let this be a lesson and things will be fine! And now you know what kind of guys to look out for!

*I also find shopping, ice cream and time with my girls cheers me up :p xx

Answer 9

Hi1 This is Anoop B Ther is only one way out get engaged with someone to whom you like ........and just forget abt that time .And make sure that you'll not repeat the same thing again ever in your life>>>>>>>

Answer 10

It shows that you were willing but afraid of social sanctions. This only shows your timidity and now your are inventing the
excuses to overcome your odd behavior and cursing the
moment when you agreed to accompany him to his house.
Never do it again.