I'm involved with two men and I feel insecure about them both. The first is my husband of 5 years who I love and he loves me but he never pays me enough attention and always puts everyone before me I feel, also he doesn't earn enough and my money supports us most of the time. I feel like hanging around and waiting to see what will change with his career as he just earned a diploma in engineering and so has yet to go further in that field but I'm also scared I'll end up supporting the two of us for the rest of our lives. Is this wrong? The second guy is a 60 year old man who I just met and I suppose I don't really know as much but he wants to lavish me with gifts and is taking me away on a surpise weekend and always pays me attention and seems to worship the ground I walk on. But he says he hates older women and is with young women because they make him feel exciting...so I'm thinking what happens to me when I get a little bit older even though he promises that he will treat me right?
2007-09-02 21:49:25 · 19 answers · asked by snewell2222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I couldn't give a rats bottom about you - I feel so sad for your poor husband. I hope he chucks you out on the streets! HOME WRECKER!!!!!!!
2007-09-02 21:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Stay with the young one. The old man can't do anything for you and it seems like he just want to buy you. He's likely to die soon anyway, so he's just looking for a young thrill. And of course he would pay attention to you, "lavish you with gifts and worship the ground you walk on". What old man wouldn't to be with a younger woman? He doesn't care about you. He's just buying you, because he knows you'll stay and make him feel young again. If you know your husband loves you and you love him, then why would you mess that up? If he doesn't pay enough attention to you, then tell him. If he isn't making enough money, help him look for a better paying job. It should be easier since he has his degree. Don't end a 5 year marriage, because you can't handle it. Don't try to solve all your problems by thinking being with an older man will help you. It wont! Instead of leaving your loving husband for a man that doesn't care about you, try to help him. Your marriage will grow in the process.
2007-09-02 23:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Neo Siren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like the attention and the father figure. Sure Im an ole guy but my gf is 42 and Im 46. He knows he can impress you with his money and get some young on the side. When you are 34 he will be 69 and even older. If you get pregnant from him he will probably be dead before your child turns 18. This is a short term fling for him. Id talk to my husband, go to a counselor and he should start earning money now that he graduated. TELL HIM WHAT YOU FEEL. My divorce saddens me daily.
2007-09-02 21:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ow my foot hurts 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi S_pot, By the time you get at that age big daddy will be
die by then. I can understand why you like the attention that big daddy gives you but this is CHEATING and it's not right.
Why not wait 6 months and see if your husband does something with diploma in engineering. If he still is dragging his BUTT behind him I would have a talk with him. Tell him how you feel about being the bread winner in your family. He needs to get a better job and start being the bread winner.
A Friend.
poppy1
2007-09-02 21:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by poppy1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If gifts are all you want, then let the young guy go. Matter of fact let the young guy go anyway, he's trying to further his career and all your worried about is how much money you have to spend on the relationship.The fact that you asked this question tells us you don't love him anyways.If I new who the young guy was I would tell HIM to get the hell out! Go find yourself a man that will give you material things, then If/when you grow up maybe you can find love. Unbelievable!
2007-09-02 22:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Allan C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you're having an affair, you do not deserve ANY attention. I advise you to confront your husband so that he can divorce you, then you can go on with being a gold-digger. Actually, you're obviously not mature enough to be in any relationship right now, did you even read what you wrote? Let your husband divorce you, then take some time to grow up a bit.
Of course he'd prefer a younger woman, lets see, old fart doesn't want an old woman his age, instead wants young naive woman for sex...No, never heard of that before.
2007-09-02 22:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by thechief66 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The older man has lived a full life and and can afford to spend time giving you the attention you want. But the younger man still has a long life ahead of him as do you. He sounds like he can give you the life you want it will just take a little longer be patient. It will all be worth it in the end
2007-09-02 21:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy s 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hello,
Herm...in this modern world..i think the best way of making a wise decision is thinking from all side of aspects.....for me, i think you should leave you husband and start new life with that old man that is more caring, understanding and of course have a lot of money to support your life...your current husband had showed how irresponsible person he is...i think in the future the your situation might getting worse moreover if you can't support him...in the end, he might leave you for another girl that can support his life...most man are just like that.....an older couple is more matured and having more money...an older couple is not the main problem as a long as you are happy to live with him...so think fast and go ahead to live with someone which is more 'human' than your current husband..all the best in your life..babai....
2007-09-02 22:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by mohd_syafiq_H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
60 year old men lavish wyoung women with gifts because if they did not, the young women would not give them the time of day!!! Just think, if you leave your husband, you could push the old man's wheelchair around for him, and pick up his heart medication and viagra) for him in a few years!!! Wouldn't that be fun???
2007-09-02 21:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you could have your cake and eat it too.. meaning, you could have both.. just make sure your husband never finds out. This way you can be lavished with gifts and trips and still be with your husband and see what he does for your future.. I feel kind of silly giving you that answer because that is something that I would never do but if you love your husband and feel good about the older man, then have them both... Its kind of a tough situation that your in. I've never been in that situation before.
2007-09-02 21:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
60 yrs OLD?? why gurl, why?? if u love ur husband, stay with him if even if thats all there is. u want to leave love for money? and with an old guy who my drop down dead as i type this... hell if u can't see the right choice for ur self, why even bother to ask others.
2007-09-02 21:56:26 · answer #11 · answered by rock_lover69 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋