i'm in this situation where we were close friends that fell hard for each other (decided not to rush) but alot of "life" things happened and he pushed me away and it hurt me. Rumors/assumptions, people's ideas got the best of us and the last we spoke, we misunderstood each other and we haven't talked in a month. I want to clarify things and reassure him and hope things are okay so i wrote him a letter. I felt that w. the letter, i had a good chance of putting it out there b/c if we were to talk we would get our emotions to get the best of us, esp. since we haven't talked/seen in each other in months...
i'm the type of girl that feels that if we need to talk about it, then we should...when both side are COMPLETLY okay about it, then it's good and we should NEVER BRING IT UP AGAIN...
I told him the truth in the letter but didn't blame him or give excuses - i told him, "you hurt me when..." and told him the truth that i cared about him...I read the letter again tonight and i found some "misunderstanding errors" so i felt i had to talk to him about it before something else happens...it's been about 3-4 days so i txted him tonight to say, "what's up" and he never responded back...is he done with me and doesn't wanna be friends anymore?
2007-09-02 21:22:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a few days before i gave him the letter, he randomly texted me "hi" and the day was an "official month" since we've talked...or had any contact
2007-09-02 21:22:43 · update #1
typing "hi" isn't really random, if u'd spend the day with me u'd notice i'm pretty random, anyways, he's probably just having a hard time dealing with the fact that either he likes u and doesn't know if u still like him 4 real or that or that he just doesn't know what to do because u like him and he doesn't like u so he's probably trying to stay away from u 4 a while to try and make u get over him.
2007-09-03 04:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Drekentai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't usually believe women when they say I'll never bring it up again" or "let's talk until we are both cool about it." Most of our experience and observations tell us that the alarm has rung! Don't go back into the burning wreck of a build to salvage things. This is true especially of women that we are not permanently invested in. He may still be friendly, but he is not interested in some long discussion and if you press it, you won't even have that friend anymore. You will have at best a friendly acquaintance.
2007-09-03 04:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by James H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's been a month and he still hasn't said anything to you even after the letter it's probably over. men like honesty to a certien extent but only when it's what they want to hear. sometimes things don't work out no matter how much you love each other and want them too. i'm sorry 4 u i went throught something similar and it still hurts.
2007-09-03 04:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesnt know how to take any responsibility for his actions in hurting you or the relationship. he will either learn it from you and be better with his next relationship or he'll learn it from you and talk to you about each topic that needed to be discussed. some people think sweeping it under the carpet and it goes away. they'd rather move on to someone else than confront the person they hurt.
2007-09-03 04:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you figure guys out, write a book. You will be a weathy woman. If they think that we are complicated, they just don't realize how hard they are to understand.
2007-09-03 04:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly is the best way to keep each others trust , with out either , dating is hard to do and want last long !
2007-09-03 04:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just might be a lot to handle. he might be upset because he never knew he hurt you. he might be shocked that you like him.
of course, he could be a jerk.
i dont think you can do anything, its up to him now.
and we dont always like honesty, i mean, if it really is the smallest you ever saw, we would rather you lie to us.
2007-09-03 04:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u thought it best to be honest with a male? ok that was ur first mistake, especially when it involves emotions, guys ... well most guys dont do that sorta thing.
2007-09-03 04:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by rock_lover69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wooah! i think yeah he misunderstood or he jus doesnt wanna tok to u cos he scraed that u gona hook up gaen and stuff
2007-09-03 04:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by hmmmmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's in the way you mentioned it. Personally I don't like verbosity.
2007-09-03 04:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by 123mantobeat456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋