This girl likes me and we hang out and do stuff together but i m not really sure if i like her cos i think i like someone else but i dont want to be harsh, cos i want to be at least friendly with her
2007-09-02 19:52:47 · 21 answers · asked by Dante 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i don't think you can really break up with a girl if you aren't really even in a relationship with her. duh.
2007-09-02 19:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sort of round about way of doing it would be pretend you don't know this girl likes you and casually talk about the girl you like and that you're thinking of asking her out. You could even ask your 'hang-out' friend for help in asking said girl out, etc. Basically make it clear you're interested in someone else. She'll get the hint.
If that's too sneaky for you, the honest approach is always best too. Tell her you think she's fun but you like her as a friend. She might be hurt for a while but its best to make things clear rather than lead her on.
If by 'do stuff' you mean, dating, kissing or any of those things...'official' or not, you're already leading her on and need to be honest about your feelings right away.
2007-09-03 03:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by arohalove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Cut way back on hanging out with her and doing stuff together. Never talk to her unless your in a group.
2) Never kiss her or touch her or stand close to her or make eye contact with her ever again. Don't even get close enough that she can smell you.
3) Make eyes at other girls in front of her without saying anything about it.
4) Ask her about some other girls that are really cute, especially some that she doesn't like.
5) Get a piece of paper and make it look like a note from another girl and pretend to read it when she can see you and make it obvious that you are trying to hide it from her.
Some of this should get the message across without having to say much.
Best Wishes
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2007-09-03 03:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...you can't have your cake and eat it too. You gotta cut the girl loose. She may be hurt at first but believe me, she will get over you especially once she realizes that all this time that you spent with her you were actually drooling over some other chick. No girl likes to be treated as 2nd best. I see what you are saying...if it doesn't work out with the one girl you really like...then being with this girl who you currently "do stuff" with would be "ok". You gotta be fair to her man. Don't mess with her like this. If you don't have feelings for her then be straight forward and honest. Its not harsh. Harsh would be messing with her head and making her think that you like her because you spend all this time together just to end up going out with another girl. That's harsh.
2007-09-03 03:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really a fabulous way to be rejected. I suppose a nice(er) way would be telling her that you care about her and would not ever want to hurt her, but you just don't think it would work out. Tell her you would love to be her friend, and back this one up. Invite her to the movies as Friends. This will make her feel special, but be clear about the just friends. Do NOT make up an excuse that critisises her in any way. That would really harden the blow of rejection. Many people would say to just go date the other girl, but really, if you reallllllly liked a girl who kinda sorta lead you on, which i am not saying you did, and then you just found out she asked out another guy, you would be pretty hurt. Try to only say and do things that you would want to be said to you. That sounds cliche but sometimes people forget about the other persons feelings. I really respect that you want to be gentlemanly about his and stay classy with her. You do not Have to tell her as she is not your girlfriend, but you would reallllllly hurt her if you didn't.
2007-09-03 03:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, hey I like you alot, but maybe its best we just stay mates for now, we can still hang out n stuff if you want, listen to what she says then you will both know where you stand with each other. Good luck :-)
2007-09-03 03:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Star Bright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work into the conversation one day, that you are really glad that you became friends. Ask her if she has found her a boyfriend yet. Tell her that you have met a few girls that you are interested in dating. Ask her if she would ask one of them if they were interested in you. She should get the hint then.
2007-09-03 02:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple if she has not asked you out... You go out with someone else and make sure she is aware of it.. she will back off automatically...Its much better than saying i dont like you...
2007-09-03 02:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by babukgl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, let her know how you feel and that you dont want anything more than a friendship. and you cant break up with someone you arent with in the first place! haha
2007-09-03 03:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not actually going out with this girl then you don't have to say anything.......you ask the other one out.
2007-09-03 02:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by ~Josie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what you've been doing. since technically you never went out with her, no contract has been signed. greet her and stuff, but don't go any further. she should understand
2007-09-03 02:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by jesus shuttlesworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋