i caught him doing things on my comp. i looked the history up and saw that he was viewing pics of Men dressed in ladies clothes and i saw that he looked up or in a chatroom named TRANS. He also has this really good friend that doesnt even say hi to me when im with him and hes around, he barely looks at me. I get a weird vibe. Ive been dating him for 2 and a half years and we are supposed to get married next summer. I called him out on what i saw and what i think of him and his friend and he denies it of course. I kicked him out of my house, cant trust him. I still love him. But i have my intuition and somethings not right with him? what do i do? ive asked pleaded, he denies. ?
2007-09-02 19:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by Marci 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is bisexual that means he still like girls of course so you would be ok. Lying however, that isnt right especially for two people who are supposed to be married. That would be a hard subject tho. I know a couple people who are bisexual but they are ashamed of it because society frowns upon it so much. Im really not sure what you could do to get him to open up. Perhaps let him know that he dont need to be ashamed of the way he is and you are still supporting him no matter what. This all assumes that he is bisexual of course.
2007-09-02 19:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unlike women where the percentage is around the high 70 percentile men is still in the 30's of showing intrest in the same sex, and would act on it. Its fairly normal. Communication is key though in all relationships. Talk about this with him, not tell the world first. As long as it is fanatasy and he's not acting on it then there is no real issue. You prob just have some sort of paranoia now about his friend. I really think guys are less open about this sort of thing then women since its looked down upon more. So I dont see him letting a friend know this sort of thing, If he was really gonna act on it , I think it would be a stranger on the net or something, that he doesn't know. But talk to him and see , and if its true . Then decide if its something you cna handle or not, if you cna work with him. There are things you can do together that would have the same aspect, and he may enjoy. if its love dont give up on him over this.
2007-09-02 19:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by CarlessY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big time trust and communication problem I think. Go to counseling or go to a third person you both respect and understand both of your concerns. If you can't trust him, he needs to know why, how and what your expectations are. You have some valid concerns. (cheating, exploring, being deceiptful, dishonest, lying, etc) If yo love him AND IF HE LOVES YOU, you should get help or you should cut your losses and move on. Only he can decide if you are worth the effort in your relationship. (No disrepect intended) He is the one who has some issues.
2007-09-02 19:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Robert Miller 95670 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just come out and ask him.If he is find out before the marriage.I think you have 2 concerns here. 1st is a trust issue and 2nd is a matter of STD's.It's possible he's a closet transvestite.If he doesn't open up and be honest with you now it won't improve if you get married.Trust your gut feelings. Your probably right.
2007-09-02 19:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Henry B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his "friend" may be his lover, and that he's not ready to come out the closet yet, so he's using you as a cover up. i would let this relationship go, and though it will be hard and it will hurt, it's better then getting married and then finding out in a few years that he's been sleeping with a man or leaves you for another man...
2007-09-02 19:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by made it to the top 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling- it's always right. Let him go and go on with your life. You don't want to get married and wonder what he's doing when he walks out the door, it's not a way to live.
2007-09-02 19:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms reported ~~~ solid....turn him 'interior out' AND~If U don't love it..... enable off some fartz.....&.....deliver him packing !!! HAHAHA.....LOL CHEERS & happy NEW year 2011 TO U * No offence...in basic terms putting some Humour the place it may be ~~ LOL
2016-11-14 01:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need proof you can't blame him if you haven't caught him red handed.
2007-09-02 19:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by SORA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋