broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. I was getting pretty fed up with his porn habit. I told him so many times that it made me feel bad, but he still kept doing it. Eventually i got tired of it, and i left. i moved out of the apartment we shared together, and now im living with my dad. He's living in a house by himself. the past few days, he keeps talking to me and trying to work things out. he said that he wants to try and quit looking at the porn, but i don't know if it's really worth it? what if i get back with him and he doesn't quit doing it? I don't wanna waste anymore of my time dealing with it...
we were together for almost 3 years, i found out about the porn when we started living together a year ago, ive kept trying to make myself just get over it, but that hasn't worked. he's known for a while how it makes me feel.
we had other problems, like affection, and some trust issues after i found out about him talking to a girl online, very nasty convo.
2007-09-02 19:23:19 · 17 answers · asked by *TiNK* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he told her to come lay back in his bed... and that he'd jump at the chance to have sex with another girl without getting in trouble for it....he quit talking to her, but i know he wouldnt have if i didnt catch him.
and for some reason he told me the other night that when he looks at porn, he thinks about having sex with other girls. and that all guys do that...
im confused, because he says he doesnt look at it because im not good enough or anything. yet he thinks about bein with other girls? I'm so confused.
guys/girls, what do u think????
2007-09-02 19:24:01 · update #1
For your own sanity, stay away!! You've given reason after reason why you shouldn't be with him. Sometimes we have to be our own best friend. You can do better. You deserve better. There is a man who out there who love you for you and won't need to see porn. Let your ex deal with his own addiction. Have your own best interest at heart and move on. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-09-02 19:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by stax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at it like this, if your boyfriend has been hiding this porn thing then he isn't a trust worthy person. He will probably look at it again. I had a live-in boyfriend that would hide his porn. Every time that I found it he would say that it belonged to one of his friends. He would also tell me that he wouldn't watch them ever again but I continued to find them. He was even banned from Yahoo Answers once because he wrote some very graphic stuff to someone. He was a complete underhanded, conniving jerk! I always seemed to catch him in some kind of lie and he could lie with a straight face.
2007-09-03 02:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by meme1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is what he is and that is okay he is letting you know that but you are who you are and thats ok too. The problem lies in the fact that you are not compatible because you don't see eye to eye. Does not mean you are bad or vice versa just different. Don't put yourself through the heartache of this one again find someone that can respect you for who you are and what your boundries are as well you theirs. He will not quit he might try and hide but I doubt if he will stop unless he gets help or something. Also the talking to the girl online took things to a whole different level. Move on happy trails. Good luck.
2007-09-03 02:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. Have some self respect. It's apparent that this guy has issues so just cut your losses and move on. He sounds quite immature and a bit creepy and I'm sure you can do much better than that. Plus seeing as trust has been broken in your relationship it would take so much work to get that back, and what's a relationship without trust?
2007-09-03 02:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by nikkismiles7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its true about them thinking of other girls when they are doing whatever.
hey many men watch and look at porn. its very natural. i dont think you should worry so much about that.
dont some pictures turn you on? im sure they do, or they would if you looked at them. i think you're being a little too hard on him.
as for him chatting to that girl, that is not on and you should punish him for that and he should assure you and never do that again.
seems like a waste to throw away a 3 yr relationship over porn.
maybe ask him to cut it down, not cut it off completely. it is a habit, and like any other habit, it is hard to kick.
you should just comprimise and explain to each other what is buggin the both of you. and try to work it out.
2007-09-03 02:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kendi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are usually visually stimulated. That being said, you do not have to put up with the porn, or the nasty conversations either. Since you already have trust issues, and he will probably sneak to look at the porn, you are probably better off without him. If he respected you, he would have given it up without you having to leave first.
2007-09-03 02:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he will ever stop with the porno.You sound like you are happy to be out of this deal.So, why go back? Its never going to work out.You will never trust him.You said it,you have waisted enough time on him. He is a loser. Move on.
2007-09-03 02:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-09-03 02:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's bad for you and you should stay away. He has created too much confusion in your life.
2007-09-03 02:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never trust ppl when they say that they will do something eventually and not start it right away...if he didnt quit it so far and did try to....he wont quit....stay away
2007-09-03 02:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋