(I am a girl and I told a guy I love you and he became a rock! WTF! ) From a girl you like? If so then why do you act like a mute afterwards and leave messages on your IM ID like crazy in love but won't talk to the girl later?
2007-09-02 19:14:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both in Asia and he is not an American he is doing his military boot camp he is 21.
2007-09-02 19:32:07 · update #1
Maybe because it becomes more serious, and he realizes woe thats serious.
2007-09-02 19:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally get this, and its true, guys have such a hard time expressing the " I LOVE YOU ". I will tell you that I personally wait to hear it from them first. I will say I love this or that about a person, but I wont look at the guy and go I LOVE YOU...in most cases you doom your relationship to a heightened stress level that is deadly to having fun. Guys just dont move as fast to saying they love a girl, its always later and they refuse to if you try to force it out of them...so realize, you know this guy cares, hes giving you mega attention. I know it would be nice if we all could listen to Depak Chopra and say I love you to at least 3 people per day with no stress, but its usually girls doing all of this, and guys going wtf? Keep it light and to the point, like I love your eyes, be specific, like I love watching you work, or I love the way your butt looks in those jeans, or I love the way you rock your hips during the horizontal mumbo...get real but get real specific, because if you try to go to the altar or baby carriage too quick they spaz out. Good Luck, Take Care.-Rachel.
2007-09-03 02:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're great words to hear only when you both want to hear it. If I was going out with a girl for a week and she said that I would either think that she didn't take us seriously or she was too eager to get going. It takes time to get to that stage and when the time is right for both of the people then the guy will like to hear it just as much as the girl
2007-09-03 02:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by The K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long I've been seeing this girl. If after a few dates and she comes out with the "L" word I'd be a bit shocked. From someone I've been seeing for awhile and care a lot about, then its very nice to hear.
2007-09-03 02:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by jonnyworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks that you are getting very serious with him and he is not ready for a commitment, that is why he is afraid. He left you those love messages, maybe out of being very friendly and close. Well, since he has distanced himself from you because of your saying "I love you", just give him some time alone. Maybe he will get around to thinking more rationally and get back to you if he really wants to continue being friends with you.
2007-09-03 02:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because that's a big catalyst. It implies many things, and it takes the relationship to another level, one which he may not be ready or hoping for.
It's also depends on how long you've been together, how old and the like. Too soon will make any guy run.
2007-09-03 02:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, men are afraid of commitment. If you say it before he's ready to say something, it puts him on the spot. It also scares the hell out of him.
Girls: Silence is golden! Make *him* wonder what * you * are thinking. If it's meant to be, he'll step up to the plate and that's the way it should be.
2007-09-03 02:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think "afraid" is not the right word here. they may be nervous...and there may be several reasons for being so...they may be surprised, may be it came to them sooner than they could think, and for worse cases...may be he's not falling for the girl and don't want also. but usually, the guys are happy when a girl says them I love you or things like this.
2007-09-03 02:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys are weird, simple as that.
ive read in a magazine that saying i love you too early can jeopardize the relationship. if you didn't, no worries. some guys just don't know how to respond to that. he probably hasn't ever had a girl say they love him.
2007-09-03 02:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case not looking for a serious thing right now, so yeah its scary because after that, it usually ends up with that person getting hurt.
2007-09-03 02:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because many people don't like commitment and saying "I love you" is a bigger commitment for them then you can't understand. Sometimes it's even pressure. Guys like to say things when they are ready to say them. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means he's not ready to say it yet. Just wait and he will say it when he's ready.
2007-09-03 02:19:56 · answer #11 · answered by Kay E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋